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#EdenLit - December meeting: December 12th at 7pm EST

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Contributor: Antipova Antipova
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
I really liked TXMXY's there are times for someone like me who suffers from body dysmorphia to read about someone who accepts her faults and likes them is amazing.
That was a neat poem!
12/12/2011
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
Breaking the cycle of violence is so damn hard...
i recommend counseling for that. if you find a good person to talk with weekly they can help you work through anger issues and get to the root of what causes it, learning healthier ways to deal with it.
12/12/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
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Originally posted by Jul!a
Haha, that's awesome. I grew up learning how to drive in the snow, so I know how to do it well enough to keep myself out of trouble for the most part. The best tip that nobody ever seems to follow when driving in snow? Slow the fuck down!! lol.
NO kidding!!! The other one is TAP the fucking breaks don't stand on them!
12/12/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
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Originally posted by aliceinthehole
ugh i hated highschool too. i tell my teenage cousins, it definitely gets better from here.


teenage years were the worst in my life.
They seem to be for most people!
12/12/2011
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
NO kidding!!! The other one is TAP the fucking breaks don't stand on them!
oh geez. i'm bad about that. i got in an accident recently on bald tires in the rain because i slammed on my brakes. oops. live and learn. it was instinct though!
12/12/2011
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
I really liked TXMXY's there are times for someone like me who suffers from body dysmorphia to read about someone who accepts her faults and likes them is amazing.
I really enjoyed that story. I struggle a lot with my appearance, bouncing back and forth between "you're god damn right I have an amazing and unique body" and "what the hell where did this jiggling come from???" and it's nice, for lack of a better word, to know that I'm not alone in my bouncing.
12/12/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
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Originally posted by aliceinthehole
i recommend counseling for that. if you find a good person to talk with weekly they can help you work through anger issues and get to the root of what causes it, learning healthier ways to deal with it.
I appreciate the advice I've been involved with AA/Alanon and had counseling for many years before having kids. I have MANY different ways of dealing with my anger issues other than burying them to have them explode later, which is the cycle in my family. We are working on sawing through these damnable chains...and we will succeed.
12/12/2011
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by Antipova
See, the folks down here really do slow down a ridiculous amount---like, I'd be tempted to say too much---except on bridges, where they careen for all they're worth. What the heck, guys.
Yeah, we end up with both ends of the spectrum really. Some people slow down waaaaaay more than they probably should, and some people don't slow down anywhere near enough. It's funny that the bridges are getting careened over, because those are the most likely to ice over first and be more difficult to stop on.
12/12/2011
Contributor: Antipova Antipova
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Originally posted by aliceinthehole
oh geez. i'm bad about that. i got in an accident recently on bald tires in the rain because i slammed on my brakes. oops. live and learn. it was instinct though!
I learned in a car without ABS so I have to tap. Which I think means, whenever I have ABS again, they'll be less likely to kick in I think? But oh well, better to be trained without, I guess.
12/12/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
Did anyone else appreciate Unfilfilled's advice on cold remedies? I did not know that sugar could compromise your immune system! Learn something new every day!
12/12/2011
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
NO kidding!!! The other one is TAP the fucking breaks don't stand on them!
I've only once had a car with antilock breaks engage them, and it scared the crap out of me to suddenly be fighting with my break pedal, lol. I knew to keep firm pressure, but I grew up driving on cars without ABS so I'm so used to gently pumping the breaks that it was weird to have the car doing it for me lol.
12/12/2011
Contributor: Cedarlooman Cedarlooman
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Originally posted by Antipova
That was a neat poem!
I liked it too. Not something i can relate to as easily, but any window into what makes you all tick is a big help. *smiles*
12/12/2011
Contributor: kadytheredpanda kadytheredpanda
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
I really liked TXMXY's there are times for someone like me who suffers from body dysmorphia to read about someone who accepts her faults and likes them is amazing.
I don't have Body Dysmorphia, but I still need to learn how to accept my faults. I hate the obsession with thinness in American culture so much. I absolutely hate going to the doctor because even if I have a cold in November it's blamed on my weight. ALWAYS.
12/12/2011
Contributor: Antipova Antipova
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
Did anyone else appreciate Unfilfilled's advice on cold remedies? I did not know that sugar could compromise your immune system! Learn something new every day!
I haven't read that one yet... I'm all dumb and old-fashioned and "my body can handle this without crutches!" (Except when I need antibiotics or vaccinations, I sign right up for those.) But cold medicines? Meh, I'm just toughening myself up.
12/12/2011
Contributor: Cedarlooman Cedarlooman
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
Did anyone else appreciate Unfilfilled's advice on cold remedies? I did not know that sugar could compromise your immune system! Learn something new every day!
I didn't know that about the sugar, but every school teacher i know pops vitamin c and multis like pez in the fall and winter!
12/12/2011
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by Antipova
I haven't read that one yet... I'm all dumb and old-fashioned and "my body can handle this without crutches!" (Except when I need antibiotics or vaccinations, I sign right up for those.) But cold medicines? Meh, I'm just toughening myself up.
I'm pretty similar. I try to only take cold medications if I absolutely can't get to sleep any other way. I like to try and sleep off my sicknesses.
12/12/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
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Originally posted by kadytheredpanda
I don't have Body Dysmorphia, but I still need to learn how to accept my faults. I hate the obsession with thinness in American culture so much. I absolutely hate going to the doctor because even if I have a cold in November it's blamed on my ... more
Holy cow can I relate...I got a splinter in my finger that was dug in under a callous so I went to the doctor and got a 20 minute lecture from his nurse about my weight and blood pressure! I was like WTF I just need this damn splinter removed and cure the infection that is setting in. I know I am over weight but I am not even borderline diabetic nor am I morbidly obese....Sigel was NOT a happy guy when I left the office depressed and near tears. He has to go with me for every appointment just so that everything I have wrong doesn't get blamed on my weight. It's crazy!
12/12/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
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Originally posted by Antipova
I haven't read that one yet... I'm all dumb and old-fashioned and "my body can handle this without crutches!" (Except when I need antibiotics or vaccinations, I sign right up for those.) But cold medicines? Meh, I'm just toughening myself up.
LOL I take them only if I have reached my limit and I have a stupidly high tolerance for pain...high enough that my doctor has fits with me for waiting to tell him about pain I'm having.
12/12/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
I kinda went on a rant in my version of December chill but I suspect there are a few people here who could relate!
12/12/2011
Contributor: Antipova Antipova
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
LOL I take them only if I have reached my limit and I have a stupidly high tolerance for pain...high enough that my doctor has fits with me for waiting to tell him about pain I'm having.
My mom had major surgery last year, and the doctor (very reasonably) was like "we're only going to medicate you down to a 2 on a scale of 1-10, because some pain is natural so you know what your body's doing. So how much pain do you feel?"

And she was like "well to be honest, I don't even think it's at a 2 right now."

Doctors were all dumbfounded, her anesthetics had totally worn off and there were slices through her skin, and she was like "well, it's not like it hurts or anything."
12/12/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
They Know Where You Live was a challenge from Sigel. He gave me a title and a slim outline and then turned me loose. He loves the story, and is curious what you guys think.
12/12/2011
Contributor: Cedarlooman Cedarlooman
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
I kinda went on a rant in my version of December chill but I suspect there are a few people here who could relate!
Oh yeah. But I like Black Friday. It is the only day of the year where shopping is a full contact sport. I never reaally have anything I m really after, it is just fun to watch the chaos. I do disagree with all the commeexilization and how early it is starting.
12/12/2011
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by Antipova
My mom had major surgery last year, and the doctor (very reasonably) was like "we're only going to medicate you down to a 2 on a scale of 1-10, because some pain is natural so you know what your body's doing. So how much pain do you ... more
Holy cow, I wish I had a pain tolerance like that. My sleeve woulda been done ages ago!
12/12/2011
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
They Know Where You Live was a challenge from Sigel. He gave me a title and a slim outline and then turned me loose. He loves the story, and is curious what you guys think.
I loved it, really. I thought it was well done, and an interesting story line that while not the first of its kind still managed to not be a huge cliche. Kudos to Sigel for giving you the outline
12/12/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
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Originally posted by Antipova
My mom had major surgery last year, and the doctor (very reasonably) was like "we're only going to medicate you down to a 2 on a scale of 1-10, because some pain is natural so you know what your body's doing. So how much pain do you ... more
MMmhmmm that's me...I had a MASSIVE yeast and bladder infection and they kept insisting I needed pain meds but I really didn't notice the pain. I was triggered to go to the hospital by the fever. I have had walking pneumonia twice without every running a fever so I know it's serious if I spike one.
12/12/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
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Originally posted by Cedarlooman
Oh yeah. But I like Black Friday. It is the only day of the year where shopping is a full contact sport. I never reaally have anything I m really after, it is just fun to watch the chaos. I do disagree with all the commeexilization and how early it ... more
LOL I can just see you sitting in a bird's nest box totally doing the Walmart commentary for the day! In fact I would probably pay to see that....
12/12/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
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Originally posted by Jul!a
I loved it, really. I thought it was well done, and an interesting story line that while not the first of its kind still managed to not be a huge cliche. Kudos to Sigel for giving you the outline
Well both my guys are real critical when they read what I write so I have to be very creative or they will tell me that it was "meh".
12/12/2011
Contributor: kadytheredpanda kadytheredpanda
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
Holy cow can I relate...I got a splinter in my finger that was dug in under a callous so I went to the doctor and got a 20 minute lecture from his nurse about my weight and blood pressure! I was like WTF I just need this damn splinter removed and ... more
I'm overweight, but not diabetic at all. I'm not even prediabetic. I get tested, like, every other month because of my mom. She once made me do an urine test because I was peeing a lot. So obviously, I had diabetes! No, it turned out I was just really dehydrated. I get dehydrated really quickly, so yeah. Other than my thyroid and a cyst problem, my health is overall okay. Hell, my blood pressure is actually slightly below average.

I sometimes lie that I'm okay just to avoid going to the doctor only to get a lecture. I'm tired of it.
12/12/2011
Contributor: Cedarlooman Cedarlooman
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
They Know Where You Live was a challenge from Sigel. He gave me a title and a slim outline and then turned me loose. He loves the story, and is curious what you guys think.
Very hot. I liked the setup and the scenario. It did seesm like the guy went along a little quikly...and her too but it was very hot. I would have liked to see more! It was very hot nd the pcing was good. The scenario would be pretty hot to roleplay!
12/12/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
OK guys we do actually have some things we need to discuss about the club and the book project.

First of all, for those of you who have work going into the book. Do you want a chance to go over the work in question or do you think it's ready for the editors?
12/12/2011