The New Intimacy

#EdenLit - December meeting: December 12th at 7pm EST

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Contributor: Cedarlooman Cedarlooman
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
know my Dad is dying and my other extended family isn't much better off but I don't want to be hurt again and their way of dealing with bad things in their lives is to lash out. Still I do love them...sometimes I feel as trapped as the woman ... more
*hugs* i would probably be doing the same as you...do you have any friends or other relatives you could talk to that would let you know things are going?
12/12/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
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Originally posted by kadytheredpanda
I hate child abusers by default, but I absolutely abhor the monsters who beat children who wet themselves. Really? REALLY? I recently heard about a man who burned his son because the little boy came to him asking to change his diaper. Not only was ... more
For heaven's sake my son is two and he asks for a "pee-poo" change (his word for diaper). It's great because sometimes he poos himself and we miss it because he is so darn active. I can't imagine hurting him for it! It's part of the process and a very important part. Try to get a child to realize they are peeing if they don't get uncomfortable...it's a real mess. My favorite memories of the girls is their potty training 'accidents'.
12/12/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
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Originally posted by Cedarlooman
*hugs* i would probably be doing the same as you...do you have any friends or other relatives you could talk to that would let you know things are going?
Naw my family is so dysfunctional they are insular and drive off 'outsiders'.
12/12/2011
Contributor: Cedarlooman Cedarlooman
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
Heh in my case my safety be damned I'll kill for my kids but then again I chose two men who wouldn't abuse me physically if they were forced to. I have to struggle not o be the abuser in my relationships. Knowing that it could be ME lighting ... more
I used to have a huge temper and always was afraid I would have issues keeping it in check. I have never come close to hitting them in anger, but I have yelled some. I have been working on that. My wife gets so angry she has to leave the house sometimes.
12/12/2011
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by Cedarlooman
Didn't we already have something like this decided for January. Thise got discussed at the last meeting...
Oh we may have. I'm very forgetful
12/12/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
After the domestic violence story it was almost a relief to read In a Snowbound World! I have had similar experiences but until I moved to Florida I had never met anyone who hadn't seen a snowstorm. They got a little frost on the roads and FREAKED out!
12/12/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
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Originally posted by Cedarlooman
I used to have a huge temper and always was afraid I would have issues keeping it in check. I have never come close to hitting them in anger, but I have yelled some. I have been working on that. My wife gets so angry she has to leave the house ... more
Breaking the cycle of violence is so damn hard...
12/12/2011
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
After the domestic violence story it was almost a relief to read In a Snowbound World! I have had similar experiences but until I moved to Florida I had never met anyone who hadn't seen a snowstorm. They got a little frost on the roads and ... more
My sister in law lives in Virginia, but is from Chicago so she's used to snow. But after she moved there she ran into so many people who had never really seen it or knew how to deal with it. Last winter they had a storm that gave them something like 5 or 6" of snow and there was no school for like, a week. I think she's even mentioned the whole town getting shut down for like, 1/2" of snow.
12/12/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
We did discuss topics for January but we need to discuss somethings after we have run through the work. We have some great ideas that have sort of fallen to the wayside.
12/12/2011
Contributor: kadytheredpanda kadytheredpanda
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
For heaven's sake my son is two and he asks for a "pee-poo" change (his word for diaper). It's great because sometimes he poos himself and we miss it because he is so darn active. I can't imagine hurting him for it! It's ... more
If I remember the article, it said that the kid had worn the same diaper for a couple of days...

But yeah, I don't know any kids who are PERFECT at controlling their bowels around that age. Kindergarteners occasionally wet themselves too. I definitely remember accidentally wetting myself a couple of times as a kid. Toilet training is just something that takes a lot of practice, just like walking and every other developmental thing.
12/12/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
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Originally posted by Jul!a
My sister in law lives in Virginia, but is from Chicago so she's used to snow. But after she moved there she ran into so many people who had never really seen it or knew how to deal with it. Last winter they had a storm that gave them something ... more
WOW! I mean I get it...they don't have the equiptment to deal with any accumulation but it's almost surreal.
12/12/2011
Contributor: Cedarlooman Cedarlooman
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
After the domestic violence story it was almost a relief to read In a Snowbound World! I have had similar experiences but until I moved to Florida I had never met anyone who hadn't seen a snowstorm. They got a little frost on the roads and ... more
I know. It is funny. My dad used to tell a ztory when he was stationed down there in the 60s and the forecast called for below freezing. He told his landlord to turn his faucet on a slight drip to keep his pipes from freezing and he was the only one that wasn't calling a plumber.
12/12/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
ok Punch Drunk Love is that real life? Cause it was an amazingly personal story!
12/12/2011
Contributor: Antipova Antipova
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Originally posted by Jul!a
My sister in law lives in Virginia, but is from Chicago so she's used to snow. But after she moved there she ran into so many people who had never really seen it or knew how to deal with it. Last winter they had a storm that gave them something ... more
I've had to laugh so many times... with my dinky two-wheel-drive car (but I grew up, and learn to drive, in a much snowier location than I'm living now) I've actually pulled over to help people push their *trucks* out of ditches and driveways on more than on occasion since moving. It makes me giggle. "Oh hi there, big burly guy with a beard and a hemi. Maybe I can help you with that. Now, rock it a little... on three" says the little blonde girl in a 2wd sardine tin.
12/12/2011
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
WOW! I mean I get it...they don't have the equiptment to deal with any accumulation but it's almost surreal.
Yeah, I think she was the only one there with a snow brush too, lol.
12/12/2011
Contributor: kadytheredpanda kadytheredpanda
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
After the domestic violence story it was almost a relief to read In a Snowbound World! I have had similar experiences but until I moved to Florida I had never met anyone who hadn't seen a snowstorm. They got a little frost on the roads and ... more
I remember seeing a freak flurry when seeing my relatives in South Louisiana. One of my cousins was in high school and the time and freaked because it was her first time seeing snow. That was a nice Christmas.

Oh and this is where I got the title: link

I have the original Donkey Kong Country's snow level music play in my head whenever it snows, though. It's entitled "Northern Hemispheres" if anyone wants to hear it on YouTube.
12/12/2011
Contributor: kadytheredpanda kadytheredpanda
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
ok Punch Drunk Love is that real life? Cause it was an amazingly personal story!
Yes, it is.
12/12/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
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Originally posted by Antipova
I've had to laugh so many times... with my dinky two-wheel-drive car (but I grew up, and learn to drive, in a much snowier location than I'm living now) I've actually pulled over to help people push their *trucks* out of ditches and ... more
ROFL There are movies about this subject.
12/12/2011
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
gah! i'm so late. sorry!!
12/12/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
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Originally posted by aliceinthehole
gah! i'm so late. sorry!!
NO problem!! Welcome Welcome
12/12/2011
Contributor: Cedarlooman Cedarlooman
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
WOW! I mean I get it...they don't have the equiptment to deal with any accumulation but it's almost surreal.
My uncle lives in VA too and called the city to see what was going on. They told him they had all three trucks out nd were working as fst as they could. For city of half a million people. Lol. We had five in my hometown of 800!
12/12/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
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Originally posted by kadytheredpanda
Yes, it is.
Well then I wish you all the luck cause my internet sweetie turned out to be a real find. Your's sounds kinda amazing
12/12/2011
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
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Originally posted by kadytheredpanda
I hate child abusers by default, but I absolutely abhor the monsters who beat children who wet themselves. Really? REALLY? I recently heard about a man who burned his son because the little boy came to him asking to change his diaper. Not only was ... more
holy shit. i just jumped into this discussion and this is what i read. intense conversation tonight.

this is horrible!
12/12/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
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Originally posted by kadytheredpanda
I remember seeing a freak flurry when seeing my relatives in South Louisiana. One of my cousins was in high school and the time and freaked because it was her first time seeing snow. That was a nice Christmas.

Oh and this is where I got the ... more
Niiiiice! Now it's stuck in my head. not so niiice....
12/12/2011
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
I thought I was the only one who would have days were I felt like a kid playing dressup and struggling to remember I am the adult. It was nice to read Playing Games Where Grownups Live and see that TexasMama had some of the same issues and managed to ... more
ugh i hated highschool too. i tell my teenage cousins, it definitely gets better from here.


teenage years were the worst in my life.
12/12/2011
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by Antipova
I've had to laugh so many times... with my dinky two-wheel-drive car (but I grew up, and learn to drive, in a much snowier location than I'm living now) I've actually pulled over to help people push their *trucks* out of ditches and ... more
Haha, that's awesome. I grew up learning how to drive in the snow, so I know how to do it well enough to keep myself out of trouble for the most part. The best tip that nobody ever seems to follow when driving in snow? Slow the fuck down!! lol.
12/12/2011
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by aliceinthehole
gah! i'm so late. sorry!!
Hey lady!
12/12/2011
Contributor: Cedarlooman Cedarlooman
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Originally posted by kadytheredpanda
Yes, it is.
It was very cool. Reminded me very much of my last year...except for the romance prt. Nd she is the one dating an sian...hlf anywy. Lol
12/12/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
I really liked TXMXY's there are times for someone like me who suffers from body dysmorphia to read about someone who accepts her faults and likes them is amazing.
12/12/2011
Contributor: Antipova Antipova
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Originally posted by Jul!a
Haha, that's awesome. I grew up learning how to drive in the snow, so I know how to do it well enough to keep myself out of trouble for the most part. The best tip that nobody ever seems to follow when driving in snow? Slow the fuck down!! lol.
See, the folks down here really do slow down a ridiculous amount---like, I'd be tempted to say too much---except on bridges, where they careen for all they're worth. What the heck, guys.
12/12/2011