With my late husband I liked our sex rough now & then - fight, bite, struggle to hold onto each other then hard and fast - great orgasms for both of us. It wasn't for every day sex but lots of fun when we did.

I have never wanted to be submissive to any man but now I have a new man and I want him to dominate me. I've never owned cuffs - much less use them - but I bought nice white leather wrist & ankle cuffs and I love to just wear them - I like the feel of them. I also bought two pair of Sportcuffs for him - they are less intimidating then leather with a quick release velcro closure. Also I discovered that the o-rings on them won't stand up to any thrashing. I tried them out pulling on them and was left with two unuseable "U" shaped rings. I showed them to him to ease his mind about not having any control although with a safe word I can let him loose in just a few seconds.

We aren't sexually active yet unless you count masturbating and phone sex. He is sexually inexperinced (strange because he's 46) and has never engaged in rough sex much less bondage although when just making out he will bite me if I ask.

He was leary of the Sportcuffs and downright freaked when I bought the white leather cuffs. He did say he'd rather tie me up in bed rather that use the new door jam cuffs (more new Sportsheets) so that's a good sign but he doesn't have a clue what to do once I'm tied up. I hope he'll let me restrain him first. This will give him some ideas - I hope. I'd like to show him some of my toys and how I like them to be used. More ideas for him. Ought to rent 9 1/2 weeks to watch together. More ideas.

Eventually I hope he will become comfortable enough to spank me; I never tried that either but I want it from him.

All very new to me but I want to try this. Any suggestions on how to ease the man's mind and get him in the bed would be very much appreciated! less