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Contributor: Roz W Roz W
Underage partners and bestiality are ethical issues. There's a difference between "it's a limit because it's illegal/wrong" and "it's a limit because I'm uncomfortable or don't like it." I don't think children or animals ought to be on the same poll as a bunch of legit BDSM activities, even though they are frequently listed as limits.

Guns, real knives, and breathplay are in my personal zone of "too dangerous for me to enjoy."
09/02/2012
Contributor: Boobs and Lubes Boobs and Lubes
all sorry
09/10/2012
Contributor: Chefbriapink Chefbriapink
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
Knives, blood play, animals, underage partners,scat and urine play are my hard stops on your list....and pretty much all of them in general. My boundaries haven't changed much over the years.
Right!
10/14/2012
Contributor: Chefbriapink Chefbriapink
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Originally posted by Sinfully
I don't know what scat means. I don't mind playing intoxicated and while I'm not into pissplay, if someone wanted me to piss on them I prob would. lol. The rest of the list... eh no.
lol
10/14/2012
Contributor: Living Doll Living Doll
Pretty much everything on your list.
10/15/2012
Contributor: Princess-Kayla ♥ Princess-Kayla ♥
Pretty much anything with children, poop, or urine on that list. I have a couple others as well.
10/15/2012
Contributor: emiliaa emiliaa
Mostly scat and pissplay, those are completely out of the question. The others ... meh, perhaps. As for blood, it can't be menstrual blood, I guess. Ew.
10/16/2012
Contributor: mmmmm mmmmm
Most on the list
10/17/2012
Contributor: Master DarkWolf Master DarkWolf
Not too many really...
10/20/2012
Contributor: DreamWolf DreamWolf
Quote:
Originally posted by Master DarkWolf
Not too many really...
Indeed... ^^
10/20/2012
Contributor: SoloJoe SoloJoe
almost all the list
10/21/2012
Contributor: RemusHalifax RemusHalifax
Quote:
Originally posted by biancajames
What are your hard limits? Do you have any unusual ones? Have your limits changed over the years?
I'll try most anything as long as it falls under the "safe, sane, consensual" rule.
10/21/2012
Contributor: FHeemz FHeemz
Quote:
Originally posted by Roz W
Underage partners and bestiality are ethical issues. There's a difference between "it's a limit because it's illegal/wrong" and "it's a limit because I'm uncomfortable or don't like it." I don't think ... more
Agreed, and I find it really disturbing that 199 people voted on this poll so far, but only 163 voted underage partners as a no-no. I really hope they just misunderstood and meant people younger than them but still of legal age.
10/21/2012
Contributor: Hallmar82 Hallmar82
Long-term damage and infections are my major limits
10/22/2012
Contributor: Lavendar Lavendar
pretty much all of that list
10/22/2012
Contributor: mastersonv mastersonv
This may sound silly but what is scat?
10/22/2012
Contributor: KiraCat KiraCat
Won't do most of that stuff. Don't mind intoxicated really but then again it's once in a blue moon that I am intoxicated lol
10/22/2012
Contributor: Supervixen Supervixen
No blood, no poop, no puke, no unwilling participants, no children, no dead people, no animals, and actually, no third parties.
10/22/2012
Contributor: moongirl moongirl
I'd never go near most of these. Intoxicated, sure. That's about the only one.
10/23/2012
Contributor: bottled-diva bottled-diva
One of my l hard limits that most view as normal is degradation/humiliatio n. I have a smart mouth but am generally a good girl and the above is bad for my self esteem. We also are monogamous. Sex and BDSM both are too much based in trust for us to have others involved.
11/05/2012
Contributor: Thumper Logic Thumper Logic
Bathroom (scat/ piss play), blood play, underage, animals, necrophilia, sounding, extreme beating
11/07/2012
Contributor: ginnyluvspotter ginnyluvspotter
wow i never thought i was hard core in sex but this stuff is way pushing the limits
11/07/2012
Contributor: TheirPet TheirPet
Watersports, scat and underage are no-nos for me.
11/08/2012
Contributor: phoenixfire phoenixfire
Most of that list is off limits for me. I'm open to a lot of things, but many of the things you listed I wouldn't even be willing to discuss with a trusted partner. Medical play I might consider if my husband was really interested, but I don't think I'd go there of my own volition.
12/19/2012
Contributor: RavenInChains RavenInChains
Quote:
Originally posted by biancajames
What are your hard limits? Do you have any unusual ones? Have your limits changed over the years?
Underage partners and animals isn't just a hard limit, it is -illegal- and it is engaging with a thing that cannot consent.

I'm not into any bathroom stuff, grosses me out.

Medical play is out for me too in most situations, I'm terrified of needles.
12/21/2012
Contributor: novanilla novanilla
Quote:
Originally posted by Airen Wolf
Knives, blood play, animals, underage partners,scat and urine play are my hard stops on your list....and pretty much all of them in general. My boundaries haven't changed much over the years.
my exact answers
12/22/2012
Contributor: tovehunter tovehunter
Needles, oh sweet jesus needles. Also animals, children and scat. Fun fact, golden showers came off my limit list recently now that I have a partner who loves it. I'm indifferent, but I do enjoy the power play that comes with it (and he just looks so damn happy when I pee on him!)
12/25/2012
Contributor: CaitieLynn CaitieLynn
I have some strong limits and a few on the softer side. I am glad to see the opinions of others. It is something I've always wondered, but can't ask anyone in person about.
12/25/2012
Contributor: Heatherbipoly Heatherbipoly
willing to try most but no fluids.
12/26/2012