My ex-gf always wanted to know if she was the best I ever had...for the most part she was but when it came to oral sex not so much. I told her and she always tried to make it better.
Would you tell your SO if they were not the best you ever had?
06/25/2012
Never!
06/26/2012
I dont think Id tell him. If anything, Id nonchalantly suggest ways to make our sex life better since I wouldn't want to be deceitful either if I'm not enjoying it.
06/28/2012
I started to tell him once when we were fighting, but I decided there are somethings that shouldn't be said...I love him to much to tell him something that would hurt him.
07/02/2012
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It would just make a partner uncomfortable if you told them that they weren't as good as previous partners- but you could always give them hints or tell them what you want.
Originally posted by
chantalgiardina
Would you tell your SO if they were not the best you ever had?
I'd have to say this guy I dated while My hubby and I split up earlier this year. We were filing for divorce and I met a guy and well it happens.. But it was totally the BEST I ... more
I'd have to say this guy I dated while My hubby and I split up earlier this year. We were filing for divorce and I met a guy and well it happens.. But it was totally the BEST I ... more
Would you tell your SO if they were not the best you ever had?
I'd have to say this guy I dated while My hubby and I split up earlier this year. We were filing for divorce and I met a guy and well it happens.. But it was totally the BEST I EVER had! we dated for a while and I still think of him all the time.
My hubby and I got back together and well I don't think I would ever admit that fact to him because I know it would hurt him. Plus, he is already pretty insecure when it comes to sex so I don't think I could tell him less
I'd have to say this guy I dated while My hubby and I split up earlier this year. We were filing for divorce and I met a guy and well it happens.. But it was totally the BEST I EVER had! we dated for a while and I still think of him all the time.
My hubby and I got back together and well I don't think I would ever admit that fact to him because I know it would hurt him. Plus, he is already pretty insecure when it comes to sex so I don't think I could tell him less
07/02/2012
I wouldn't outright say, you aren't the best i've had or something along those lines.
I would simply point them in the right direction. You know what feels good on you. You can't expect your partner to know that. So you just guide them.
I would simply point them in the right direction. You know what feels good on you. You can't expect your partner to know that. So you just guide them.
07/09/2012
No way. I just wouldn't have the heart to!
07/09/2012
I am not sure I would tell him he isn't the best I have had in fact my most recent ex was pretty much the best I have had with an exception of a few things. I simply told him hey do it like this instead of like this. It helped a lot telling/showing him what I wanted
07/10/2012
If he outright asked, I would outright tell him.
07/10/2012
She's the best I ever had, so it doesn't matter.
07/10/2012
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I mean, there's always room for improvement, right? So why WOULDN'T i tell them?
Originally posted by
chantalgiardina
Would you tell your SO if they were not the best you ever had?
I'd have to say this guy I dated while My hubby and I split up earlier this year. We were filing for divorce and I met a guy and well it happens.. But it was totally the BEST I ... more
I'd have to say this guy I dated while My hubby and I split up earlier this year. We were filing for divorce and I met a guy and well it happens.. But it was totally the BEST I ... more
Would you tell your SO if they were not the best you ever had?
I'd have to say this guy I dated while My hubby and I split up earlier this year. We were filing for divorce and I met a guy and well it happens.. But it was totally the BEST I EVER had! we dated for a while and I still think of him all the time.
My hubby and I got back together and well I don't think I would ever admit that fact to him because I know it would hurt him. Plus, he is already pretty insecure when it comes to sex so I don't think I could tell him less
I'd have to say this guy I dated while My hubby and I split up earlier this year. We were filing for divorce and I met a guy and well it happens.. But it was totally the BEST I EVER had! we dated for a while and I still think of him all the time.
My hubby and I got back together and well I don't think I would ever admit that fact to him because I know it would hurt him. Plus, he is already pretty insecure when it comes to sex so I don't think I could tell him less
07/11/2012
The only way I would tell them- is if we having an honest indepth chat about previous sexual encounters- and they specifically asked. I can't lie to a direct honest question. But just in general? Nah..
07/12/2012
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WOW...that's not even remotely funny to me. To each their own I suppose.
Originally posted by
HarlequinBunnie
After I broke up and kicked out one of my ex's, I dated a guy who I did say,
"Is it in yet" to. He was going at it like he was in a race and it was a 50 yard dash. As I was laying there unimpressed I had the mental picture of a teeny ... more
"Is it in yet" to. He was going at it like he was in a race and it was a 50 yard dash. As I was laying there unimpressed I had the mental picture of a teeny ... more
After I broke up and kicked out one of my ex's, I dated a guy who I did say,
"Is it in yet" to. He was going at it like he was in a race and it was a 50 yard dash. As I was laying there unimpressed I had the mental picture of a teeny peeny and wanted him to stop and leave. My roommate heard me and started laughing so hard she was crying. As he was leaving pissed off of course she yelled out,"See ya later Itty Bitty Short Short Man" with that I started laughing. Needless to say I never saw him again.
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"Is it in yet" to. He was going at it like he was in a race and it was a 50 yard dash. As I was laying there unimpressed I had the mental picture of a teeny peeny and wanted him to stop and leave. My roommate heard me and started laughing so hard she was crying. As he was leaving pissed off of course she yelled out,"See ya later Itty Bitty Short Short Man" with that I started laughing. Needless to say I never saw him again.
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07/12/2012
I'd tell them, and talk about why to help improve to what we both want.
07/12/2012
I wouldn't say that to somebody. It would be really rude.
Of course, people who ask, "Am I the best you've ever had?" usually have some issues with insecurity. If someone asked me and I demurred on the question, and I was asked repeatedly, I'd say, "Do you really want the truth? Because I don't want to lie." Honestly, I think it's rude to ask someone that question.
I've never had a man ask me that question. Nor have I ever asked a man this question.
I did date at least one guy who probably would have asked, but he had some self absorption issues and I didn't ever have sex with him for that and other reasons.
Of course, people who ask, "Am I the best you've ever had?" usually have some issues with insecurity. If someone asked me and I demurred on the question, and I was asked repeatedly, I'd say, "Do you really want the truth? Because I don't want to lie." Honestly, I think it's rude to ask someone that question.
I've never had a man ask me that question. Nor have I ever asked a man this question.
I did date at least one guy who probably would have asked, but he had some self absorption issues and I didn't ever have sex with him for that and other reasons.
07/12/2012
Don't tell him
07/12/2012
I probably wouldn't phrase it like that. I'd tell them what they could do to improve.
07/12/2012
If a guy flat out asked if he was the best I'd had, I'd tell him the truth. If you are going to ask a question like that, you should be ready for the answer, whatever it is.
07/17/2012
No reason to burst egos.
07/17/2012
Telling him would not serve a purpose other than hurt him.
07/17/2012
I don't see a reason to rank people. Nothing good can come of it. I've said "best" and I wish I hadn't. Because different people have different strengths; that someone is more practiced at, like, spanking, shouldn't be a big deal. Maybe they're less-practiced in other ways.
But really, the notion of being "good at sex" is a fake idea. I've had enough partners to know that individual tastes are very very different. Being "good in bed" means being a good listener and observer. It doesn't mean anything else. And it definitely doesn't mean getting "good at" one thing and then doing the same thing over and over with different partners. That doesn't work.
If someone I was with were not a good listener, wasn't willing to try new things, why am I with them? (I haven't had this problem recently.)
But really, the notion of being "good at sex" is a fake idea. I've had enough partners to know that individual tastes are very very different. Being "good in bed" means being a good listener and observer. It doesn't mean anything else. And it definitely doesn't mean getting "good at" one thing and then doing the same thing over and over with different partners. That doesn't work.
If someone I was with were not a good listener, wasn't willing to try new things, why am I with them? (I haven't had this problem recently.)
07/17/2012
No, I wouldn't tell. But I would teach my newest guy what I like! Now you know what's good, just find a way to get it from your guy.
11/20/2012
My SO is the guy that opened me up to trying all different positions and types of sex, so I'd say he's definitely the best partner I'd ever had. But I chose no, I wouldn't directly say "hey, my ex was better" but I would make suggestions or maybe not ask for sex as much. I feel like sex is a necessary part of a relationship so if I really love someone, it's gotta be there in the bedroom or I would try to work on it.
11/20/2012
I wouldn't tell him. I'd rather try to guide him gently in the right direction.
11/20/2012
I would not tell my husband as it is a sore point for our relationship. My husband is the best, most consideration love (and the nicest cock) but I have had a partner that was better at oral.
12/03/2012
Well I voted no then started thinking about it. Just to tell her for the sake of telling her? No way. However, if we were having a positive sex conversation and she asked the question herself, I think I would be honest with her. Communication is key in a good sex life between husband and wife and by me being honest with her it might lead to her eventually being the best. Flip it around...I'd want to know so I could work on improving to better her pleasure.
12/03/2012
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