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Would you tell your SO if they were not the best you ever had?

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Contributor: chantalgiardina chantalgiardina
Would you tell your SO if they were not the best you ever had?

I'd have to say this guy I dated while My hubby and I split up earlier this year. We were filing for divorce and I met a guy and well it happens.. But it was totally the BEST I EVER had! we dated for a while and I still think of him all the time.

My hubby and I got back together and well I don't think I would ever admit that fact to him because I know it would hurt him. Plus, he is already pretty insecure when it comes to sex so I don't think I could tell him
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Sure I would tell them
8  (11%)
I might tell them
16  (21%)
NO WAY would I tell them.
47  (63%)
I would consider it
4  (5%)
Total votes: 75
Poll is closed
06/21/2012
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Contributor: indiglo indiglo
I think if there's something my man weren't doing that I wanted him do - rather than criticizing the man I love I would simply ask him to do what I wanted him to do.
06/21/2012
Contributor: Terri69 Terri69
I would never say that to someone I loved.
06/21/2012
Contributor: Claire-Bear Claire-Bear
No. I wouldn't say that, since sex especially for me is about connecting and not focused on technique or orgasms. It's a mean thing to say.
06/21/2012
Contributor: CindyH CindyH
no way it would hurt him
06/21/2012
Contributor: Kissy Kissy
Things can always get better, it is about direction and helpfulness! I would never say so!
06/21/2012
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
Quote:
Originally posted by indiglo
I think if there's something my man weren't doing that I wanted him do - rather than criticizing the man I love I would simply ask him to do what I wanted him to do.
I second that!
06/21/2012
Contributor: wdanas wdanas
I'd have to agree with some of the above posts... show him what feels good and how you want it done, and praise him well for it. There's no real point in telling him he's not good. Just show him how to be better - without telling him why.
06/21/2012
Contributor: sexykiss sexykiss
i wouldnt tell
06/22/2012
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
He is the best I've ever had. Were that not the case, I still wouldn't tell him. That's a guaranteed never-get-an-erection- again move, right there.
06/22/2012
Contributor: BG529 BG529
I wouldn't tell
06/22/2012
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
I might tell him, but I have no need too!
06/22/2012
Contributor: MissCandyland MissCandyland
Heck no.
06/22/2012
Contributor: Bullfroggy and Rose Bullfroggy and Rose
that could be bad
06/24/2012
Contributor: Badass Badass
My current spouse is the best I ever had... I don't tell him that though. I don't want him to get a big head.
06/24/2012
Contributor: KrissyNovacaine KrissyNovacaine
I may not tell my partner that x person is better than them, but I would say could you do x to me. Leaving the other person out of it.
06/24/2012
Contributor: sexxxkitten sexxxkitten
I would never tell someone that! That could do some serious mental damage.
06/24/2012
Contributor: Talena Talena
If they ask I will tell. How are they going to get better if they think they are the best. I developed this theory when my ex thought he was God...then I found out he don't do NONE of it right..afterwards he got cocky and said something to the effect he has never had any complaints so he knows hes the best he ever was and asked me if he was the best I ever had. I said I've had worse but I've had WAYYYYY better. We are still friends today.
06/24/2012
Contributor: xMila xMila
It would be seriously mean to tell that to someone I cared for. Sex is a good part, but not the most important part of a relationship. With communication it can improve.
06/24/2012
Contributor: PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
I would try to help them to get better if I was ever put in this predicament. I did have to teach a couple of my exes on things I like and don't like and what they can do to improve.
06/24/2012
Contributor: PassionateLover2 PassionateLover2
Hmmmmm! Interesting story!
06/24/2012
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Quote:
Originally posted by chantalgiardina
Would you tell your SO if they were not the best you ever had?

I'd have to say this guy I dated while My hubby and I split up earlier this year. We were filing for divorce and I met a guy and well it happens.. But it was totally the BEST I ... more
I can't see a reason or a situation where that would be loving or even appropriate. Now I don't mean that to sound preachy or flaming, mind you, I just mean that if you truly love your partner for his amazing qualities then you want to be loving and kind.
Were it me I would begin slowly and carefully, with lots of ego stroking, suggesting some of the things that my other lover did (or does) that curl my toes. If my partner wasn't secure or could be hurt by my mentioning HOW I know it feels good then I would say, I saw it online and it looked fun or I just have always been curious....you get the idea.
Thank goodness both of my partners are pretty damn secure and delight in trying new things...and don't care where or when I got the idea.
I guess what I mean is I would never tell my beloved partner something that could devastate them when it would be easier and more fun to teach them how to be my best lover ever!
I know it's painful to be thinking of someone else and torn inside...but hey sex is a sport right? So start training your athlete!
06/24/2012
Contributor: amazon amazon
I'd tell them, so that we could try to improve the situation.
06/24/2012
Contributor: tami tami
i would keep that my little secret and maybe suggest different things to make it become the best you have EVER EVER had but if he is already insecure it will make things twice as bad......find a happy medium for you both
06/24/2012
Contributor: Love Obsessed Love Obsessed
I wouldn't tell someone that because I think different factors determine whether the sex is good for me.Whether it be I'm feeling sexy or there's something exciting about being with them,there looks,etc that another person simply can't recreate.
06/24/2012
Contributor: HarlequinBunnie HarlequinBunnie
Quote:
Originally posted by chantalgiardina
Would you tell your SO if they were not the best you ever had?

I'd have to say this guy I dated while My hubby and I split up earlier this year. We were filing for divorce and I met a guy and well it happens.. But it was totally the BEST I ... more
After I broke up and kicked out one of my ex's, I dated a guy who I did say,
"Is it in yet" to. He was going at it like he was in a race and it was a 50 yard dash. As I was laying there unimpressed I had the mental picture of a teeny peeny and wanted him to stop and leave. My roommate heard me and started laughing so hard she was crying. As he was leaving pissed off of course she yelled out,"See ya later Itty Bitty Short Short Man" with that I started laughing. Needless to say I never saw him again.

06/24/2012
Contributor: xOhxSoxScandalousx xOhxSoxScandalousx
I'd tell em'.
06/24/2012
Contributor: Gettinmymojoback Gettinmymojoback
never!!
06/24/2012
Contributor: ichwillwaffels ichwillwaffels
Quote:
Originally posted by chantalgiardina
Would you tell your SO if they were not the best you ever had?

I'd have to say this guy I dated while My hubby and I split up earlier this year. We were filing for divorce and I met a guy and well it happens.. But it was totally the BEST I ... more
I think I might tell them things we could try to spice things up or something but wouldn't say why.
06/24/2012
Contributor: justme23 justme23
I wouldn't tell them
06/25/2012