Nope. I never got much of a sex talk either, besides "It's for [married] adults only" and "You must never allow other people to touch you there and tell a teacher/police officer/us if someone does"
Mine never did...I wish they had. It was just implied in a round about way that "girls don't do that".
03/09/2011
My parents didn't talk about it, but there was no implication that it was wrong.
03/09/2011
It just went unsaid. That would have been uncomfortable anyway talking about it... but now with our own kids we are much more open and joke and are casual about sexual topics.
03/09/2011
Mine talked to me to tell me it was not OK
03/10/2011
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mine didn't say anything other than "don't do it! it's bad!!"
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Did your parents talk to you about masterbation?
yeah...turned out great....LOL
03/10/2011
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They never talked about it.
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Did your parents talk to you about masterbation?
03/11/2011
Nope. They NEVER talked about it. Except for the time when I was 15 and my mom had gone through my room and found birth control pills. My mom never said anything, didn't even ASK if I was having sex, but I had to deal with my dad... ended up with a black eye out of that one. yeah.
I am very proud to say I have changed all that with our girls. They can talk to either one of us about anything.
I am very proud to say I have changed all that with our girls. They can talk to either one of us about anything.
03/11/2011
We never talked about masturbation, but I was told that if I wanted to have sex that my mom would take me to get put on the pill. When I was 16 she followed through. I think right before I turned 18 there might have been an offer to buy me a vibrator, but I wanted to get it myself.
03/11/2011
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My mother never talked about anything, but she knew that I already knew those things. I think if I hadn't already known she might have said something.
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THUMPER
Did your parents talk to you about masterbation?
03/12/2011
Nope. We had a late sex talk after I revealed to them as a young teenager that I was sexually active, but masturbation stayed out of it. I suppose it seemed more vital to be discussing birth control and all that madness at that point. Still, there were also never any implications that masturbation is wrong, so I can't complain
03/13/2011
My mother only told me about my period. My two older sister beat her to it about telling me about sex. No one ever told me about masturbating. I learned about masturbating from my husband on our wedding night. He told me about it.
03/13/2011
My equivalent of a sex talk involved a Christian book about the birds and the bees appearing on my bed around 11, and then a scare talk from my mother at 15 (long after I had discovered porn and masturbation and had spent countless hours researching sexuality on the internet). She essentially told me her first time was horrible, therefore I shouldn't have sex. That was about it.
The vast majority of my sexual knowledge came from the internet, along with some (mostly anecdotal experiences) from my peers in high school and middle school.
The vast majority of my sexual knowledge came from the internet, along with some (mostly anecdotal experiences) from my peers in high school and middle school.
03/13/2011
No! Even when my mom gave me the sex talk, she didn't explain that the man actually put his penis inside the woman, she just explained the science part :/
Sex of any kind is bad at my house.
Sex of any kind is bad at my house.
03/13/2011
My mom kind of told me about it, but all she said really was "Everyone does it, but it's wrong, so don't do it." What the crap does that even mean? Later on, my mom had some Bible verse to try to explain why masturbation was a sin. So for years, I did it anyway and felt completely horrible and guilty every single time.
I can remember getting a pimple somewhere near there once and thinking it was herpes and God was punishing me. Sigh. What silly ideas I had as a child. I even got a couple of yeast infections when I was maybe 13, and I just suffered through them for weeks and didn't tell anyone. I thought it was from masturbating, and I didn't want to tell my mom.
It's so weird that my mom said those things back then, because now she knows I masturbate, she knows I review sex toys, live with and have sex with my boyfriend (which was a HUGE no no), and she has almost no problem with it. We talk about sex, toys, and everything else like it's natural, the way it should be.
I can remember getting a pimple somewhere near there once and thinking it was herpes and God was punishing me. Sigh. What silly ideas I had as a child. I even got a couple of yeast infections when I was maybe 13, and I just suffered through them for weeks and didn't tell anyone. I thought it was from masturbating, and I didn't want to tell my mom.
It's so weird that my mom said those things back then, because now she knows I masturbate, she knows I review sex toys, live with and have sex with my boyfriend (which was a HUGE no no), and she has almost no problem with it. We talk about sex, toys, and everything else like it's natural, the way it should be.
03/13/2011
Yeah, but it was an awkward conversation. It was only my mom. My dad's been in jail my whole childhood.
03/13/2011
Other... they would mention it in joking ways, but not seriously.
03/14/2011
lol I had a better vibrator than a boyfriend
03/14/2011
I never got any kind of sex talk...oh well, I learned elsewhere.
03/14/2011
My parents have always been really open about sex, masturbation foreplay etc as long as it was talked about sensibly. So I have tried to be the same with my kids.
04/04/2011
Mine did not.. and it'd be weird if they ever did.. I dunno.. never grew up with that kinda talk.. lol
04/04/2011
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Oh, absolutely not. My parents didn't even explain to me what sex was - never even made the attempt. I figured it out when I was seven or eight via the library (which is probably a really good thing). The one time my mom caught me masturbating, she flipped out, made me take a bath, then calmly told me "Never do that again. You know why? It makes Jesus cry!"
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Did your parents talk to you about masterbation?
04/05/2011
Chi Girl, that is horrible. I was raised religious as well. Catholic school. I was teased by everyone in the third grade because I claimed my dog gave birth to puppies via some sort of immaculate conception--no male dog involved. I cried and cried and was bullied for the whole year! Kids are mean!
But I remember I started rubbing against things early, as in while I was still in the crib. I recall my parents joking about it quietly thinking I wouldn't get it, but my memory is absurdly good for things like that, and I was kinda advanced.
I also recall my mother (I love her and she is so damned amazing in most ways, but this is bad) catching me in bed as maybe a 7 or 8 year old and yelling at my father that I was a sick pervert.
Didn't think it was an ok response. They never mentioned sex and I also had to mention my period to my mother, which I didn't until the next day. She never offered tampons, just awful pads even though I had such a painful heavy flow that I leaked.
Ugh. I love my mom so damned much, but those are two mistakes!
Every parent--together, I think, both parents if there are two involved--should talk about puberty, menarche, sex, masturbation.
I DEFINITELY agree that girls are told in a subtle fashion that they shouldn't do it. That it's dirty. Most boys I know...their parents figured they'd do it. That it was physically necessary or some absolute crap like that. What BS. Oh well. We are all here now and we love sex.
But I remember I started rubbing against things early, as in while I was still in the crib. I recall my parents joking about it quietly thinking I wouldn't get it, but my memory is absurdly good for things like that, and I was kinda advanced.
I also recall my mother (I love her and she is so damned amazing in most ways, but this is bad) catching me in bed as maybe a 7 or 8 year old and yelling at my father that I was a sick pervert.
Didn't think it was an ok response. They never mentioned sex and I also had to mention my period to my mother, which I didn't until the next day. She never offered tampons, just awful pads even though I had such a painful heavy flow that I leaked.
Ugh. I love my mom so damned much, but those are two mistakes!
Every parent--together, I think, both parents if there are two involved--should talk about puberty, menarche, sex, masturbation.
I DEFINITELY agree that girls are told in a subtle fashion that they shouldn't do it. That it's dirty. Most boys I know...their parents figured they'd do it. That it was physically necessary or some absolute crap like that. What BS. Oh well. We are all here now and we love sex.
04/05/2011
My family has always been pretty open about sex, from an reasonable age of course
04/05/2011
Nope, my family was never very open about sex and all that stuff, and sometimes I wish they had been but I turned out just fine.
04/05/2011
My mother caught me masturbating at about age 12. I was in my room next to my parents and I guess I was banging vs the wall next to my bed. My mother just told me not to go so hard that I could hurt myself. But no disapproval.
04/05/2011
Yes. My mom gave me my first real vibrator at what, 13? A little odd but let's just say I was an early developer.
04/05/2011
yeah nothing from my parents... I don't know why not, my Mom likes to pretend that she is open-minded, but she didn't even talk to me about my period =/
04/10/2011
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OH heavens no my mom didn't mention it EVER. Lord she still thinks oral sex is a sin.
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Did your parents talk to you about masterbation?
04/15/2011
My mom never talks about anything remotely related to sex. We have a generation gap of 35 years.
04/16/2011
I never got the sex talk either. I think my parents even now like to pretend I'm still a virgin.
04/16/2011