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Do you think the guy or the girl should make the first move when having sex?

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Contributor: Lucky21 Lucky21
Quote:
Originally posted by Silverdrop
If a guy wants it, he should make the move, or risk her not doing it because she's been conditioned that it's not her role.

If a girl wants it, she should make the move, or risk him not doing it because he's been conditioned that ... more
Well said Silverdrop!
12/01/2011
Contributor: Nora Nora
Not really "undecided", but we do take turns...I tend to initiate sex more often than he does though.
12/01/2011
Contributor: Cherrylane Cherrylane
I don't think I'm "undecided" so much as I just don't think it matters/think it depends on the situation. I'm not really sure I think there are many situations in which one sex definitely should NOT make the first move other than instances where it would be socially awkward or something like that.
12/01/2011
Contributor: Missmarc Missmarc
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Originally posted by SexyNCurious69
I have often heard that the guys should make the first move but now days it seems like more and more women are being bold and stepping out there to make that move. I'm just curious to see what your answers are
Whoever that's horny enough to do it first LOL
12/01/2011
Contributor: Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
Whoever wants to, go ahead and make the move!
12/01/2011
Contributor: Kaltir Kaltir
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Originally posted by indiglo
Whoever wants the sex should go ahead and make the move. There's no sense in wanting to have sex, but not having it because you don't make the move. At least, that's how it works in our relationship!
Exactly!
12/01/2011
Contributor: HomuHomu HomuHomu
It just depends!
12/02/2011
Contributor: Sublime Sublime
I don't think it's fair to say one person or the other should make the move. It really should be mutual, and it shouldn't matter who starts it. Every relationship is different, sometimes you find timid partners and other times you find wild and crazy rabid ones.
12/03/2011
Contributor: MrWishyWashy MrWishyWashy
I don't think this is a gender specific answer. If you're horny and need sex, I do not see a problem initiating sex, regardless of gender.
12/03/2011
Contributor: Ms. N Ms. N
I don't think it should always be one person, unless maybe that is just the power exchange dynamic of the particular relationship.
12/04/2011
Contributor: Drakoni Drakoni
Depends on the couple. I tend to lean towards guys putting the option out there and letting the girl make the move or have the final say. But, that doesn't work for all couples.
12/04/2011
Contributor: CreamySweet CreamySweet
Quote:
Originally posted by indiglo
Whoever wants the sex should go ahead and make the move. There's no sense in wanting to have sex, but not having it because you don't make the move. At least, that's how it works in our relationship!
Totally agree with indiglo. Its 2011. If your a girl and you want to get laid its as much your responsibility and ability to step up to the plate as the guys. Esp and unclear signs leads to unnecessary frustration and fighting. Clear open communication leads to fewer missunderstandings, hurt feelings and you probably getting some a lot more often.
12/04/2011
Contributor: butterflygirlxo butterflygirlxo
It depends on the mood I guess,lol
12/04/2011
Contributor: Liz2 Liz2
For me it has been both; some guys just might need a push. despite a macho image.
12/05/2011
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
It doesn't matter, we switch depending on who's horny!
12/05/2011
Contributor: Zinzai Zinzai
Don't think its really an action that belongs to one gender, more of a whatever happens happens.
12/08/2011
Contributor: fabidefabi fabidefabi
It doesnt matter who makes the move as long as both are consenting to the sex. People take sex too seriously lol
12/08/2011
Contributor: InNeedOfABuzzzz InNeedOfABuzzzz
It's all based on personalities. Some people are more timid and shy while others are go getters. I think it's all dependent on the situation and the people themselves. Me personally....I make the first move!
12/08/2011
Contributor: Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
i didn't vote. I don't think it's fair for society to place the burden on men to make the first move. I think if both parties exhibit interest, and if one of them feel like it's right to have sex, then go for it, regardless of gender.

I sometimes feel like my partner may be too shy to make a move, so I usually instigate sex. There's only been a couple of occasions where my partner has instigated sex.

also, there are couples here that are not hetero, and are either male- male or female- female, so this question isn't really appropriate for them....
12/08/2011
Contributor: SexyNCurious69 SexyNCurious69
Thanks everybody for the feedback. Ms. Spice I stated in an earlier post I wasn't trying to offend anybody by posting this question it was just one in general and I kind of figured if it was a question that somebody didn't want to answer they would have ignored it. Thanks for the post
12/08/2011
Contributor: Harpina is gone Harpina is gone
Both should take turns.
03/27/2012
Contributor: vanilla&chocolate vanilla&chocolate
I think both should take turns. It's a fact of life that some days, the guy will be hornier; others, the woman will be.
03/27/2012