I have often heard that the guys should make the first move but now days it seems like more and more women are being bold and stepping out there to make that move. I'm just curious to see what your answers are
Do you think the guy or the girl should make the first move when having sex?
11/30/2011
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Whoever wants the sex should go ahead and make the move. There's no sense in wanting to have sex, but not having it because you don't make the move. At least, that's how it works in our relationship!
11/30/2011
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This!
Originally posted by
indiglo
Whoever wants the sex should go ahead and make the move. There's no sense in wanting to have sex, but not having it because you don't make the move. At least, that's how it works in our relationship!
I don't like it when it MUST be decided by one person. After a while, it can only lead to hurt feelings and a sense of obligation.
11/30/2011
I'm more traditional, so I'll wait for the guy to make the first move, didn't take my husband long to do that!
11/30/2011
My husband made the first move when we first go together but since then we just take it as it goes. Sometimes I make the move and sometimes he does. Usually he is the one who first gets things going!
11/30/2011
It depends. A lot of the time I have made the first move.
11/30/2011
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Makes sense to me. Seems a little silly to expect one or the other to be the one who has to do it.
Originally posted by
indiglo
Whoever wants the sex should go ahead and make the move. There's no sense in wanting to have sex, but not having it because you don't make the move. At least, that's how it works in our relationship!
11/30/2011
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I think whomever feels the strongest should make the first move....even if it is only to encourage the other to make the move.
Originally posted by
SexyNCurious69
I have often heard that the guys should make the first move but now days it seems like more and more women are being bold and stepping out there to make that move. I'm just curious to see what your answers are
11/30/2011
It should feel mutual, but obviously someone has to start, but it should be whoever starts it, not determined by sex.
OH and not all of us in a relationship are in heterosexual ones.
OH and not all of us in a relationship are in heterosexual ones.
11/30/2011
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Exactly!
Originally posted by
indiglo
Whoever wants the sex should go ahead and make the move. There's no sense in wanting to have sex, but not having it because you don't make the move. At least, that's how it works in our relationship!
If I waited around for him to make the first move every time I was horny, I'd be better acquainted with sexual frustration than my high libido already has me.
11/30/2011
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agreed!
Originally posted by
indiglo
Whoever wants the sex should go ahead and make the move. There's no sense in wanting to have sex, but not having it because you don't make the move. At least, that's how it works in our relationship!
11/30/2011
The one who is not me
11/30/2011
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When you want it, go for it. It does not matter if you are a man or a woman, if you feel like making a move go ahead. As long as you remember no means no
Originally posted by
SexyNCurious69
I have often heard that the guys should make the first move but now days it seems like more and more women are being bold and stepping out there to make that move. I'm just curious to see what your answers are
11/30/2011
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Love your answer! I think it should depend on the circumstances. For me, dating-him; relationship,early, him; relationship long term, whoever wants it! I know it is a bit old fashioned, but that is what I am personally comfortable with. That is what flirting is for, encouraging them to make the move.
Originally posted by
allinonekid
The one who is not me
11/30/2011
I almost always make the first move, even when dating (I am a woman). However, I think either partner should be able to make a move.
11/30/2011
Wow! There are so many different opinions. Beck I hope I didn't offend you by my discussion poll I was just speaking in general
11/30/2011
we both make the moves. we both love each other, we both want each other, it's bound to happen
11/30/2011
i think it depends on a number of things, like personalities & the situation.
11/30/2011
Either, but I personally want the guy to make the first move.
12/01/2011
It should go both ways. But if a guy makes the first move, the girl has the last and ultimate say whether or not it will go on. Sometimes girls are too shy, so as long as a guy knows to back off if she doesn't want his advances, then girls tend to like a guy taking charge.
12/01/2011
I only voted 'girl' because I usually make the first move, I get tired of waiting around and more women should be assertive in their needs/wants.
12/01/2011
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I Agree!!!
Originally posted by
Darklyvan
When you want it, go for it. It does not matter if you are a man or a woman, if you feel like making a move go ahead. As long as you remember no means no
12/01/2011
just do it.
12/01/2011
I initiate sex 98% of the time - wish she would do it more often...
12/01/2011
For me personally I think it is just an old fashioned habit to wait on my hubby to start things. He usually does but there are times when I start. I'm sure he wouldn't mind if I made the first move more often
12/01/2011
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I love to cuddle before having sex, so I always creep my arm around my husband but he ends up being the 1st to initiate sex most of the time but I do sometimes too. I probably should do it more
Originally posted by
SexyNCurious69
I have often heard that the guys should make the first move but now days it seems like more and more women are being bold and stepping out there to make that move. I'm just curious to see what your answers are
12/01/2011
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No offense taken, I was just saying.
Originally posted by
SexyNCurious69
Wow! There are so many different opinions. Beck I hope I didn't offend you by my discussion poll I was just speaking in general
12/01/2011
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I know what you mean. I love when he wants it and he starts, but that rarely happens, because I am too horny!
Originally posted by
SexyNCurious69
For me personally I think it is just an old fashioned habit to wait on my hubby to start things. He usually does but there are times when I start. I'm sure he wouldn't mind if I made the first move more often
12/01/2011
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This exactly
Originally posted by
Beck
It should feel mutual, but obviously someone has to start, but it should be whoever starts it, not determined by sex.
OH and not all of us in a relationship are in heterosexual ones.
OH and not all of us in a relationship are in heterosexual ones.
12/01/2011
If a guy wants it, he should make the move, or risk her not doing it because she's been conditioned that it's not her role.
If a girl wants it, she should make the move, or risk him not doing it because he's been conditioned that men shouldn't be too aggressive or it makes them victimizers.
If you don't want to be friend zoned, make the move.
If you want to find out if he/she wants you too, make the move.
If you want to be having sex instead of wondering about how to go about getting to the sex, make the move.
If a girl wants it, she should make the move, or risk him not doing it because he's been conditioned that men shouldn't be too aggressive or it makes them victimizers.
If you don't want to be friend zoned, make the move.
If you want to find out if he/she wants you too, make the move.
If you want to be having sex instead of wondering about how to go about getting to the sex, make the move.
12/01/2011
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