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Contributor: Darklyvan Darklyvan
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Originally posted by mistressg
I am wondering, do you ever feel weird about using toys with a new partner? Do you just spring it on them and throw something into the mix, or do you have a talk about it?
I am married so no new partners
12/11/2011
Contributor: Kitka Kitka
I usually don't have a problem with it but sometimes it can be a bit awkward.
12/11/2011
Contributor: Sublime Sublime
Things like cock rings I like throwing into the mix pretty quickly but some of the other stuff I like to ease into.

One of my better female friends is really into domination and she has a whole chest of whips, chains, leather masks, ball gags, everything you can think of. Generally she waits to let guys know about it because many guys in the past would run out after she told them.
12/11/2011
Contributor: McTavishes McTavishes
I didn't have to talk her into pegging...it wasn't that hard ^.^
Usually a Skype chat or two can get couples on the same page about toys.
12/11/2011
Contributor: BobbiJay BobbiJay
I usually wait a few times until I bring it up. Some guys are weird about toys.
01/27/2012
Contributor: AJvil AJvil
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Originally posted by mistressg
I am wondering, do you ever feel weird about using toys with a new partner? Do you just spring it on them and throw something into the mix, or do you have a talk about it?
I would probably feel weird
01/27/2012
Contributor: Entropy Entropy
We have such a cool and open relationship that I would never even consider the possibility of feeling uncomfortable about it.
01/27/2012
Contributor: ninja250 ninja250
I think it depends on how long you've been together and what toys.
01/27/2012
Contributor: Rod Ronald Rod Ronald
I find that its a turn on when I mention that I'm a toy reviewer. People always want to see whats in my chest, so it works a little diffrent for me. But even still, I would use that as a topic to help break the ice and let them know ahead of time this is what I'm in to. Wear it like a badge, loving sex toys is okay
01/27/2012
Contributor: Highmaintenancegirl916 Highmaintenancegirl916
he uses them on me thats about it. he dosent like toys used on him.
01/27/2012
Contributor: MAy86 MAy86
I have been with my man for five years and still am trying to introduce toys
01/30/2012
Contributor: MissCandyland MissCandyland
I have only had this talk with one partner (who I'm currently with and hope to be with forever). I've never been this open with anyone else.
01/30/2012
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
I love my toys, so I have no problems with telling people upfront that I have a truck load of them. If they can't deal with me using them with them, then they know where to find the door!
02/02/2012
Contributor: sbon sbon
I only starting using toys in my current relationship because there was a period of time when we couldn't have sex. Because of that, it wasn't really difficult to introduce because toys were a way of keeping things interesting. I've never had to introduce toys to a brand new relationship, so I don't really know how that would be for me.
02/03/2012
Contributor: Zombirella Zombirella
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Originally posted by mistressg
I am wondering, do you ever feel weird about using toys with a new partner? Do you just spring it on them and throw something into the mix, or do you have a talk about it?
This is the first person I've used toys with and he is my fiance. I never used them before him.
02/03/2012
Contributor: spineyogurt spineyogurt
Talk it out
02/03/2012
Contributor: Howells Howells
I only have a problem with how to introduce my collection to a new girl I mean we (EF community and reviewers) are already know pretty much about this stuff but a random 'vanila' girl will maybe have the wrong idea about this, I don't know. It's going to be her loss if she sees it that way. So a talk is definitely good to see how they react rather than.. drumroll.. and opening the drawer... drawers..
02/03/2012
Contributor: KyotoAngel KyotoAngel
Quote:
Originally posted by mistressg
I am wondering, do you ever feel weird about using toys with a new partner? Do you just spring it on them and throw something into the mix, or do you have a talk about it?
Never had this problem since I don't date much but I think I'd only feel awkward about it if one of two things were true 1) The toy in question cannot be sterilized and has been used before OR 2) The toy in question was purchased with the intent on using on the previous partner and I were to picture that person whenever I use it.
02/04/2012
Contributor: Brandonn Brandonn
Not at all
02/04/2012
Contributor: Undead Undead
Quote:
Originally posted by mistressg
I am wondering, do you ever feel weird about using toys with a new partner? Do you just spring it on them and throw something into the mix, or do you have a talk about it?
I'm a man and I was the one that got my fiance to try them, so no I don't feel weird.
02/12/2012
Contributor: ladychristie ladychristie
The only person who I have ever used toys with is my current boyfriend I wouldn't even use them with my ex husband. But when I was casually dating I never showed or told anyone about my toy collection.
02/12/2012
Contributor: sweetpea12 sweetpea12
Quote:
Originally posted by mistressg
I am wondering, do you ever feel weird about using toys with a new partner? Do you just spring it on them and throw something into the mix, or do you have a talk about it?
I feel weird about ti sometimes, but usually I'm pretty open to their opinion
04/09/2012
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
I've never had the problem fortunately
04/10/2012
Contributor: Hallmar82 Hallmar82
Some toys that push the kink cause a little apprehension if they're a surprise because you never know if they really like it or they're just pretending not to hurt your feelings.
04/14/2012
Contributor: Azule Azule
I feel a little weird about it the first time, but only with certain people who don't really go too much into this kind of thing.
04/15/2012
Contributor: roskat roskat
Yes, it's best to discuss it first. To feel the vibe, so to speak. I wouldn't want scare them away with my toy-box.
04/17/2012
Contributor: sexystuffeve sexystuffeve
Quote:
Originally posted by mistressg
I am wondering, do you ever feel weird about using toys with a new partner? Do you just spring it on them and throw something into the mix, or do you have a talk about it?
I've only had one partner..
04/17/2012
Contributor: Mwar Mwar
If we are trying something new it can be a bit awkward, but we always laugh if anything.
04/17/2012
Contributor: grace grace
At first I am nervous to admit, I have a collection of sexual products. After I tell my partner that... they are not surprised when I add a toy to the bedroom.
04/17/2012
Contributor: Stagger13 Stagger13
Quote:
Originally posted by mistressg
I am wondering, do you ever feel weird about using toys with a new partner? Do you just spring it on them and throw something into the mix, or do you have a talk about it?
I find its better to talk a little bit and see how they react...surprises are good sometimes too.
04/18/2012