She Comes First.... or Does She?

Contributor: Rossie Rossie
My hubby always make sure I orgasm first, a lot of times that will happen during foreplay. Unless we haven't had sex for over a week, then he'll have a harder time holding back.
07/13/2011
Contributor: GatorDood GatorDood
We typically try to bring her close to the edge and then I 'catch up so we can go more or less simultaneously. That is very important to her and, thus, it is important to me.
07/27/2011
Contributor: emiliaa emiliaa
I am pretty sure the reason this one guy became extremely cruel to me is because he tried to do that and I just CAN'T cum. From anything, except myself. And he got so frustrated he started ditching me and treating me like a worthless piece of shit...

So honestly...1. I can't climax from anything but self-masturbation, and 2. I kinda am afraid of asking/letting someone try now....
07/27/2011
Contributor: Ava5 Ava5
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Originally posted by [Red]
I've never expected my lover to get me off before he gets off because orgasm isn't an expectation of ours. It's not a mandate, it's not a requirement, it's nice if it happens but if it doesn't, that's fine, because for us, ... more
very good point
07/29/2011
Contributor: exploringthechimera exploringthechimera
I'm lucky in that my boyfriend recognizes that it takes much less for him to get off than it does me. He is very generous to focus more foreplay towards me so we can both get off. With that said there are times he gets off first if this happens its no problem.
07/29/2011
Contributor: SexyStuff SexyStuff
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Originally posted by ToyGurl
I'm basing this discussion off of a book that I've heard a lot about from the girls at work. It's called She Comes First by Ian Kerner, Ph. D.

A lot of cultures from the dawn of time have put great importance on pleasing the ... more
With a bullet vibe we can typically time it to climax together during intercourse, but if I'm taking a long time he'll do whatever he can to hold off on his own pleasure until I'm over the edge.
12/10/2011
Contributor: JewelsAndB JewelsAndB
Well, our situation is somewhat unique, as I have not had an orgasm in 71 days while Juliann has multiple (3-5) almost nightly. Of course, this is by design, as I am locked in 24/7 enforced chastity. Even before that, however, I always made it my priority to ensure that Juliann has at least 2 orgasms before I reached mine.
12/10/2011
Contributor: AndromedaJane AndromedaJane
My husband has never made the effort to bring me to orgasm, although I orgasm frequently on my own.
12/10/2011
Contributor: GRRRRR GRRRRR
i would prefer her cum first because for those of us that do not use condoms and rather the pull out method. It is hard to clean up and get going again.
12/11/2011
Contributor: kristina0121 kristina0121
Since a woman's body takes longer (typically) to please, it is natural to start off with her. Men often are too tired and weak after sex to continue. It's a logical thing to please a woman first. Plus the hotter a woman is, the wetter she is, and the more pleased the man will be!
10/08/2012
Contributor: marigolds6 marigolds6
I've always had a difficult time reaching orgasm. Took several dozen sexual experiences to have my first with a partner and probably was in my late 20s before I broke double digits. My wife knows me well enough now that it is about a 50/50 opportunity with intercourse (but really no other way).

Because of this, we always make sure she comes first. Otherwise, it is a whole lot easier to get frustrated later and we might not get the chance to take care of her.
Besides, she will certainly be a lot more ready to keep going than I will after the first orgasm
10/11/2012
Contributor: Scythe Scythe
Quote:
Originally posted by ToyGurl
I'm basing this discussion off of a book that I've heard a lot about from the girls at work. It's called She Comes First by Ian Kerner, Ph. D.

A lot of cultures from the dawn of time have put great importance on pleasing the ... more
I usually spend a good amount of time on foreplay with my woman,not being in a rush taking my time caressing her,kissing her and playing with her with my hands,i like to be pleased but its important to me for her to get off because i don't want my woman to be sexually frustrated and possibly looking for what she needs somewhere else,as for intercourse my girl can only have an orgasm in certain positions,certain positions don't really work for her so i let her have her way and then later we switch things up and she lets me have mine.
04/10/2013
Contributor: captainsgirl captainsgirl
Quote:
Originally posted by ToyGurl
I'm basing this discussion off of a book that I've heard a lot about from the girls at work. It's called She Comes First by Ian Kerner, Ph. D.

A lot of cultures from the dawn of time have put great importance on pleasing the ... more
99% of the time hubby is always sure to please me first.
04/10/2013
Contributor: LilVBWifey LilVBWifey
Quote:
Originally posted by ToyGurl
I'm basing this discussion off of a book that I've heard a lot about from the girls at work. It's called She Comes First by Ian Kerner, Ph. D.

A lot of cultures from the dawn of time have put great importance on pleasing the ... more
I always do, but Im a quick lay! Literally within 5 min!!!
04/16/2013
Contributor: Bme Bme
I hold back until she cums multiple times most often. My wife always cums at least twice.
04/23/2013
Contributor: Scythe Scythe
Quote:
Originally posted by ToyGurl
I'm basing this discussion off of a book that I've heard a lot about from the girls at work. It's called She Comes First by Ian Kerner, Ph. D.

A lot of cultures from the dawn of time have put great importance on pleasing the ... more
It is important to me that the woman i am with is pleased in the bedroom if that involves her getting off first so be it.
04/30/2013