My hubby always make sure I orgasm first, a lot of times that will happen during foreplay. Unless we haven't had sex for over a week, then he'll have a harder time holding back.
She Comes First.... or Does She?
07/13/2011
We typically try to bring her close to the edge and then I 'catch up so we can go more or less simultaneously. That is very important to her and, thus, it is important to me.
07/27/2011
I am pretty sure the reason this one guy became extremely cruel to me is because he tried to do that and I just CAN'T cum. From anything, except myself. And he got so frustrated he started ditching me and treating me like a worthless piece of shit...
So honestly...1. I can't climax from anything but self-masturbation, and 2. I kinda am afraid of asking/letting someone try now....
So honestly...1. I can't climax from anything but self-masturbation, and 2. I kinda am afraid of asking/letting someone try now....
07/27/2011
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very good point
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I've never expected my lover to get me off before he gets off because orgasm isn't an expectation of ours. It's not a mandate, it's not a requirement, it's nice if it happens but if it doesn't, that's fine, because for us,
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I've never expected my lover to get me off before he gets off because orgasm isn't an expectation of ours. It's not a mandate, it's not a requirement, it's nice if it happens but if it doesn't, that's fine, because for us, sex is about the intimacy between -us-, not who gets to orgasm first/how many times someone gets to come.
It honestly reminds me of kindergarten where kids would compare cookie sizes or juice cups to see who got more, when really, you've all got cookies and juice, now just enjoy that. Sex is about enjoying my lover, and my enjoyment of him isn't contingent upon whether or not we orgasm.
I can't imagine having sex with the mentality of, "I need to orgasm and you need to make it happen." That's just too much pressure and, in my mind, misplaced goals. I wouldn't enjoy myself or my lover with that sort of pressure riding on my back the whole time, and I can't imagine he would, either. less
It honestly reminds me of kindergarten where kids would compare cookie sizes or juice cups to see who got more, when really, you've all got cookies and juice, now just enjoy that. Sex is about enjoying my lover, and my enjoyment of him isn't contingent upon whether or not we orgasm.
I can't imagine having sex with the mentality of, "I need to orgasm and you need to make it happen." That's just too much pressure and, in my mind, misplaced goals. I wouldn't enjoy myself or my lover with that sort of pressure riding on my back the whole time, and I can't imagine he would, either. less
07/29/2011
I'm lucky in that my boyfriend recognizes that it takes much less for him to get off than it does me. He is very generous to focus more foreplay towards me so we can both get off. With that said there are times he gets off first if this happens its no problem.
07/29/2011
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With a bullet vibe we can typically time it to climax together during intercourse, but if I'm taking a long time he'll do whatever he can to hold off on his own pleasure until I'm over the edge.
Originally posted by
ToyGurl
I'm basing this discussion off of a book that I've heard a lot about from the girls at work. It's called She Comes First by Ian Kerner, Ph. D.
A lot of cultures from the dawn of time have put great importance on pleasing the ... more
A lot of cultures from the dawn of time have put great importance on pleasing the ... more
I'm basing this discussion off of a book that I've heard a lot about from the girls at work. It's called She Comes First by Ian Kerner, Ph. D.
A lot of cultures from the dawn of time have put great importance on pleasing the female before the male during love-making sessions. It is often more difficult for a female to climax, which can lead to a frustrated evening if enough time is not spent on her.
What are your views on pleasing the woman before yourself? Do you take extra time to please your female partner? What are the extra things you do to help her climax? And, does your woman usually climax during intercourse? less
A lot of cultures from the dawn of time have put great importance on pleasing the female before the male during love-making sessions. It is often more difficult for a female to climax, which can lead to a frustrated evening if enough time is not spent on her.
What are your views on pleasing the woman before yourself? Do you take extra time to please your female partner? What are the extra things you do to help her climax? And, does your woman usually climax during intercourse? less
12/10/2011
Well, our situation is somewhat unique, as I have not had an orgasm in 71 days while Juliann has multiple (3-5) almost nightly. Of course, this is by design, as I am locked in 24/7 enforced chastity. Even before that, however, I always made it my priority to ensure that Juliann has at least 2 orgasms before I reached mine.
12/10/2011
My husband has never made the effort to bring me to orgasm, although I orgasm frequently on my own.
12/10/2011
i would prefer her cum first because for those of us that do not use condoms and rather the pull out method. It is hard to clean up and get going again.
12/11/2011
Since a woman's body takes longer (typically) to please, it is natural to start off with her. Men often are too tired and weak after sex to continue. It's a logical thing to please a woman first. Plus the hotter a woman is, the wetter she is, and the more pleased the man will be!
10/08/2012
I've always had a difficult time reaching orgasm. Took several dozen sexual experiences to have my first with a partner and probably was in my late 20s before I broke double digits. My wife knows me well enough now that it is about a 50/50 opportunity with intercourse (but really no other way).
Because of this, we always make sure she comes first. Otherwise, it is a whole lot easier to get frustrated later and we might not get the chance to take care of her.
Besides, she will certainly be a lot more ready to keep going than I will after the first orgasm
Because of this, we always make sure she comes first. Otherwise, it is a whole lot easier to get frustrated later and we might not get the chance to take care of her.
Besides, she will certainly be a lot more ready to keep going than I will after the first orgasm
10/11/2012
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I usually spend a good amount of time on foreplay with my woman,not being in a rush taking my time caressing her,kissing her and playing with her with my hands,i like to be pleased but its important to me for her to get off because i don't want my woman to be sexually frustrated and possibly looking for what she needs somewhere else,as for intercourse my girl can only have an orgasm in certain positions,certain positions don't really work for her so i let her have her way and then later we switch things up and she lets me have mine.
Originally posted by
ToyGurl
I'm basing this discussion off of a book that I've heard a lot about from the girls at work. It's called She Comes First by Ian Kerner, Ph. D.
A lot of cultures from the dawn of time have put great importance on pleasing the ... more
A lot of cultures from the dawn of time have put great importance on pleasing the ... more
I'm basing this discussion off of a book that I've heard a lot about from the girls at work. It's called She Comes First by Ian Kerner, Ph. D.
A lot of cultures from the dawn of time have put great importance on pleasing the female before the male during love-making sessions. It is often more difficult for a female to climax, which can lead to a frustrated evening if enough time is not spent on her.
What are your views on pleasing the woman before yourself? Do you take extra time to please your female partner? What are the extra things you do to help her climax? And, does your woman usually climax during intercourse? less
A lot of cultures from the dawn of time have put great importance on pleasing the female before the male during love-making sessions. It is often more difficult for a female to climax, which can lead to a frustrated evening if enough time is not spent on her.
What are your views on pleasing the woman before yourself? Do you take extra time to please your female partner? What are the extra things you do to help her climax? And, does your woman usually climax during intercourse? less
04/10/2013
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99% of the time hubby is always sure to please me first.
Originally posted by
ToyGurl
I'm basing this discussion off of a book that I've heard a lot about from the girls at work. It's called She Comes First by Ian Kerner, Ph. D.
A lot of cultures from the dawn of time have put great importance on pleasing the ... more
A lot of cultures from the dawn of time have put great importance on pleasing the ... more
I'm basing this discussion off of a book that I've heard a lot about from the girls at work. It's called She Comes First by Ian Kerner, Ph. D.
A lot of cultures from the dawn of time have put great importance on pleasing the female before the male during love-making sessions. It is often more difficult for a female to climax, which can lead to a frustrated evening if enough time is not spent on her.
What are your views on pleasing the woman before yourself? Do you take extra time to please your female partner? What are the extra things you do to help her climax? And, does your woman usually climax during intercourse? less
A lot of cultures from the dawn of time have put great importance on pleasing the female before the male during love-making sessions. It is often more difficult for a female to climax, which can lead to a frustrated evening if enough time is not spent on her.
What are your views on pleasing the woman before yourself? Do you take extra time to please your female partner? What are the extra things you do to help her climax? And, does your woman usually climax during intercourse? less
04/10/2013
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I always do, but Im a quick lay! Literally within 5 min!!!
Originally posted by
ToyGurl
I'm basing this discussion off of a book that I've heard a lot about from the girls at work. It's called She Comes First by Ian Kerner, Ph. D.
A lot of cultures from the dawn of time have put great importance on pleasing the ... more
A lot of cultures from the dawn of time have put great importance on pleasing the ... more
I'm basing this discussion off of a book that I've heard a lot about from the girls at work. It's called She Comes First by Ian Kerner, Ph. D.
A lot of cultures from the dawn of time have put great importance on pleasing the female before the male during love-making sessions. It is often more difficult for a female to climax, which can lead to a frustrated evening if enough time is not spent on her.
What are your views on pleasing the woman before yourself? Do you take extra time to please your female partner? What are the extra things you do to help her climax? And, does your woman usually climax during intercourse? less
A lot of cultures from the dawn of time have put great importance on pleasing the female before the male during love-making sessions. It is often more difficult for a female to climax, which can lead to a frustrated evening if enough time is not spent on her.
What are your views on pleasing the woman before yourself? Do you take extra time to please your female partner? What are the extra things you do to help her climax? And, does your woman usually climax during intercourse? less
04/16/2013
I hold back until she cums multiple times most often. My wife always cums at least twice.
04/23/2013
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It is important to me that the woman i am with is pleased in the bedroom if that involves her getting off first so be it.
Originally posted by
ToyGurl
I'm basing this discussion off of a book that I've heard a lot about from the girls at work. It's called She Comes First by Ian Kerner, Ph. D.
A lot of cultures from the dawn of time have put great importance on pleasing the ... more
A lot of cultures from the dawn of time have put great importance on pleasing the ... more
I'm basing this discussion off of a book that I've heard a lot about from the girls at work. It's called She Comes First by Ian Kerner, Ph. D.
A lot of cultures from the dawn of time have put great importance on pleasing the female before the male during love-making sessions. It is often more difficult for a female to climax, which can lead to a frustrated evening if enough time is not spent on her.
What are your views on pleasing the woman before yourself? Do you take extra time to please your female partner? What are the extra things you do to help her climax? And, does your woman usually climax during intercourse? less
A lot of cultures from the dawn of time have put great importance on pleasing the female before the male during love-making sessions. It is often more difficult for a female to climax, which can lead to a frustrated evening if enough time is not spent on her.
What are your views on pleasing the woman before yourself? Do you take extra time to please your female partner? What are the extra things you do to help her climax? And, does your woman usually climax during intercourse? less
04/30/2013
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