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Naked Reader Book Club Discussion: GIRLS ON TOP and THE SMART GIRL'S GUIDE TO THE G-SPOT (7-11 PM EST)

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Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
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Originally posted by Alan & Michele
I agree. What would make a G-spot orgasm any more liberating than a clitoral one even if a girl did find both to be equally enjoyable?
Well... according to Freud (our old buddy from previous discussions!), the only "true" orgasm was one achieved during penetration. I suppose he was talking about the G-spot orgasm.

Seriously, though, I think the fact that the G-spot has been dismissed as not real makes it more enticing for some.

Anyone else want to chime in on what makes the G-spot orgasm special (or not)?
09/14/2010
Contributor: Kayla Kayla
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Originally posted by Alan & Michele
I agree. What would make a G-spot orgasm any more liberating than a clitoral one even if a girl did find both to be equally enjoyable?
I agree. I've never had a g-spot orgasm, so I'm kinda jealous too. I read the book hoping to help, and it has good info, but I'm too impatient.
09/14/2010
Contributor: Brendada Brendada
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Originally posted by Kristina Wright
Hey, whatever works, right?
topping from the bottom, is that a new book idea? lol!
09/14/2010
Contributor: Brendada Brendada
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Originally posted by Kristina Wright
Well... according to Freud (our old buddy from previous discussions!), the only "true" orgasm was one achieved during penetration. I suppose he was talking about the G-spot orgasm.

Seriously, though, I think the fact that the ... more
Freud was a funny one and clearly did not really listen to the ladies about all the possible kinds of orgasms, Too bad we can't go back in time and hand him Rachel Kramer Bussell's new "Orgasmic!"
09/14/2010
Contributor: LicentiouslyYours LicentiouslyYours
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Originally posted by Alan & Michele
I agree. What would make a G-spot orgasm any more liberating than a clitoral one even if a girl did find both to be equally enjoyable?
I think the liberation comes from getting to know your body better and learning how it responds—which is all great, but yeah, I actually prefer, most of the time, to reach orgasm through clit stimulation.
09/14/2010
Contributor: Andromeda Andromeda
Baaaaaack! Will be caught up soonish.
09/14/2010
Contributor: Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
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Originally posted by Kristina Wright
Well... according to Freud (our old buddy from previous discussions!), the only "true" orgasm was one achieved during penetration. I suppose he was talking about the G-spot orgasm.

Seriously, though, I think the fact that the ... more
I think it's seen as more special because it's something that not everyone achieves, and for some of the people that do, it's a lot harder to get to than a clitoral orgasm. The more elusive the object or feeling, the more it's put on a pedestal - this can be true for a G-spot orgasm or an expensive car! I think it's also comparable to a p-spot orgasm in a man because it's something a lot harder to get to and it takes time and practice to achieve. In addition, maybe the g-spot orgasm is also thought of as being more special because people have to work toward it, it almost has to be earned through time and practice and research for some women.

That being said, I don't find it any more enticing than any other orgasm. To me, the liberation and frankly the pleasure, is found in having a partner I trust enough to get me off or being able to do so myself - plain and simple. Where on my body it comes from has never really factored in.
09/14/2010
Contributor: Splendwhore Splendwhore
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Originally posted by Kayla
I agree. I've never had a g-spot orgasm, so I'm kinda jealous too. I read the book hoping to help, and it has good info, but I'm too impatient.
I've had a g-spot orgasm before, but they're few & far between. mostly because I'm not huge on penetration. I like it, I just really really love clitoral stimulation like a million times more. I can squirt from clitoral stimulation, no joke. However, I do find both types of orgasm enjoyable, one's just easier & more quickly gratifying than the other.
09/14/2010
Contributor: LicentiouslyYours LicentiouslyYours
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Originally posted by Kayla
I agree. I've never had a g-spot orgasm, so I'm kinda jealous too. I read the book hoping to help, and it has good info, but I'm too impatient.
I am too— impatient that is. I have had g-spot orgasms, but they do take longer to achieve for me and sometimes I am just not in the mood to work for it.
09/14/2010
Contributor: Splendwhore Splendwhore
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Originally posted by LicentiouslyYours
I think the liberation comes from getting to know your body better and learning how it responds—which is all great, but yeah, I actually prefer, most of the time, to reach orgasm through clit stimulation.
I do feel liberated, & better informed about my body. Reading The Smart Girl's Guide to the G-Spot was an educational, orgasmic experience, to say the least.
09/14/2010
Contributor: Andromeda Andromeda
I've never had a pure g-spot orgasm. I've had dual stimulation orgasms... I prefer those
09/14/2010
Contributor: Splendwhore Splendwhore
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Originally posted by Andromeda
Baaaaaack! Will be caught up soonish.
Hey there! Jump on in to the convo!
09/14/2010
Contributor: Splendwhore Splendwhore
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Originally posted by Andromeda
I've never had a pure g-spot orgasm. I've had dual stimulation orgasms... I prefer those
Ooh, blended (or dual) orgasms rock! I just feel alive & bursting from head to toe.
I've experienced these mostly with the Lelo Ina and FunFactory Delight.
09/14/2010
Contributor: Andromeda Andromeda
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Originally posted by Splendwhore
Ooh, blended (or dual) orgasms rock! I just feel alive & bursting from head to toe.
I've experienced these mostly with the Lelo Ina and FunFactory Delight.
YES. INA IS MADE OF WIN.
09/14/2010
Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
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Originally posted by Brendada
Freud was a funny one and clearly did not really listen to the ladies about all the possible kinds of orgasms, Too bad we can't go back in time and hand him Rachel Kramer Bussell's new "Orgasmic!"
Freud would claim that "Orgasmic" was the ravings of a bunch of penis-envying madwomen.
09/14/2010
Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
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Originally posted by Brendada
topping from the bottom, is that a new book idea? lol!
It *could* be, Brenda.
09/14/2010
Contributor: Kayla Kayla
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Originally posted by Andromeda
YES. INA IS MADE OF WIN.
I wish Ina was more win for me. It didn't end up working. I was sad.
09/14/2010
Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
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Originally posted by Kayla
I agree. I've never had a g-spot orgasm, so I'm kinda jealous too. I read the book hoping to help, and it has good info, but I'm too impatient.
I never had a G-spot orgasm until my early 30's and it was totally accidental. Not sure if age had anything to do with it, but I do know my sex drive went into OVERdrive right around 30.
09/14/2010
Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
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Originally posted by Splendwhore
I've had a g-spot orgasm before, but they're few & far between. mostly because I'm not huge on penetration. I like it, I just really really love clitoral stimulation like a million times more. I can squirt from clitoral stimulation, ... more
Aren't orgasms like pizza? There's no such thing as a bad one?
09/14/2010
Contributor: Andromeda Andromeda
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Originally posted by Kristina Wright
Freud would claim that "Orgasmic" was the ravings of a bunch of penis-envying madwomen.
I'm of the opinion that Freud probably needed a good smack upside the head. Or several.
09/14/2010
Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
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Originally posted by Splendwhore
I do feel liberated, & better informed about my body. Reading The Smart Girl's Guide to the G-Spot was an educational, orgasmic experience, to say the least.
Lovely! I think Violet Blue writes some of the best "how-to" books around.
09/14/2010
Contributor: Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
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Originally posted by Kristina Wright
Aren't orgasms like pizza? There's no such thing as a bad one?
Now there's a theory I can get on board with. But how does food work its way into every single one of these discussions? LOL
09/14/2010
Contributor: Splendwhore Splendwhore
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Originally posted by Kayla
I wish Ina was more win for me. It didn't end up working. I was sad.
I cried for you just now.. a little bit. D:
*Consoles*
09/14/2010
Contributor: Splendwhore Splendwhore
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Originally posted by Andromeda
YES. INA IS MADE OF WIN.
WORD.
09/14/2010
Contributor: Alan & Michele Alan & Michele
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Originally posted by Kristina Wright
I never had a G-spot orgasm until my early 30's and it was totally accidental. Not sure if age had anything to do with it, but I do know my sex drive went into OVERdrive right around 30.
It happened that way for me too, and that "overdrive" is just getting worse the older I get.
09/14/2010
Contributor: Splendwhore Splendwhore
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Originally posted by Kristina Wright
Aren't orgasms like pizza? There's no such thing as a bad one?
Wrong. There IS such thing as a bad pizza. I've had my fair share.
09/14/2010
Contributor: Andromeda Andromeda
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Originally posted by Splendwhore
Wrong. There IS such thing as a bad pizza. I've had my fair share.
Ditto.
09/14/2010
Contributor: Kayla Kayla
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Originally posted by Splendwhore
I cried for you just now.. a little bit. D:
*Consoles*
Hah. Well, I ordered the Form 3 today, so let's hope another high-end vibrator doesn't let me down. I'm still on the search for my perfect rabbit. I have my perfect g-spot toy - the Bent Graduate, but nothing for dual stimulation.
09/14/2010
Contributor: Splendwhore Splendwhore
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Originally posted by Kayla
Hah. Well, I ordered the Form 3 today, so let's hope another high-end vibrator doesn't let me down. I'm still on the search for my perfect rabbit. I have my perfect g-spot toy - the Bent Graduate, but nothing for dual stimulation.
I'll pray for you.

Did you try the Siri? LOVE IT!!

I was going to order a Form 3 today, but I can't knowingly spend GC's on something when there's a chance I could win it instead.. I'm trying to be patient & wait until this contest is over. Then I can justify purchasing one. ^_^

The best thing I've tried for G-SPot so far is the Nobessence Seduction. ADORE IT!
I have a G-Ki, but I haven't learned to love it yet..
09/14/2010
Contributor: LicentiouslyYours LicentiouslyYours
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Originally posted by Andromeda
YES. INA IS MADE OF WIN.
I don't have Ina...yet, but Mona... oh Mona is my current favorite toy—ever since my Extreme G-spot bullet bit the dust. LELO=Love
09/14/2010