I am curious if weight is an issue during sex from all ranges. Too skinny,too big, men, women, from big butts, little butts, big breasts to small breast. Etc!
How does your weight or your partners effect your sex life?
08/28/2010
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It hasn't made a difference to me but I do wonder what my partner thinks.
08/28/2010
It has never affected us on either end. We are both fit though. I don't know how it would affect us if it were different. I do know that my partner's sexual satisfaction has increased since being with me. His last partner's weight was on the heavy side and he couldn't do things like enter her from behind by putting his legs on the outside. Her ass and thighs were too big.
I think fitness matters most. I have had boyfriends of similar sizes and some were weak as fuck. My boyfriend now, is really strong and I have no fears of being dropped or anything like that. I love how he can just throw me around .
I think fitness matters most. I have had boyfriends of similar sizes and some were weak as fuck. My boyfriend now, is really strong and I have no fears of being dropped or anything like that. I love how he can just throw me around .
08/28/2010
It makes some effect, but not really in a negative manner. It just requires some extra thought. I weight almost twice his weight, so I can easily get on top, but I just can't stay there as long because it will numb his hips. He also would have a hard time being on top for strap-on sex because my hips are so wide. Strap-on sex requires a bit more effort and thought because I'm larger, and while it does effect our sex life, it's nothing negative for either of us. For us, it's just as if one of us was too tall/short for something - just a part of who we are that we adjust for.
08/28/2010
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I will say that mine or my partner(s) weight does not effect our level of arousal or desire it does effect the intensity and duration of our encounters. Being out of shape makes it difficult to do the positions and have the endurance we have when we are better fit. I love my guys regardless of their size but the sex is better with more stamina and flexibility!
Originally posted by
kittycat414
I am curious if weight is an issue during sex from all ranges. Too skinny,too big, men, women, from big butts, little butts, big breasts to small breast. Etc!
08/28/2010
Weight and body image affect our sex life mostly through self-esteem and insecurity and not through physical capability. We're working on it though.
08/28/2010
My weight effects me (self esteem) but not really anymore because I've lost 20lbs and I'm only 10lbs away from my goal weight. As for my hubby he's overweight a bit, but it doesn't matter to me, and he doesn't care how I look either.
08/28/2010
Does not affect our sex life at all. I may be with someone new though in the future who is much larger than my previous partner, so we'll see, since I am very thin.
08/28/2010
My only real experience has been with Mulder (skinny nit), and I'm a big girl; our affair was during the heaviest I've been, but we managed. (He said he preferred the extra cushioning - no bones sticking out and he didn't feel like he was hurting me, and I was cuddly-warm.)
As I educated myself, I analyzed some of the things we had done, and concluded our activity had been affected ... being out-of-shape on my end didn't give me as much stamina (even though I wore him out with my enthusiasm), and there really were positions that we couldn't logically do (some standing, anything requiring his upper body strength, etc). He didn't mind me being on top, as long as it wasn't for long periods of time.
I'm in the process of weight loss, so maybe the next guy I'm with (in a couple of years) will be a different experience when I'm slender.
As I educated myself, I analyzed some of the things we had done, and concluded our activity had been affected ... being out-of-shape on my end didn't give me as much stamina (even though I wore him out with my enthusiasm), and there really were positions that we couldn't logically do (some standing, anything requiring his upper body strength, etc). He didn't mind me being on top, as long as it wasn't for long periods of time.
I'm in the process of weight loss, so maybe the next guy I'm with (in a couple of years) will be a different experience when I'm slender.
08/28/2010
My partner and I are both in good shape so weight isn't really an issue for us, but I previously dated a man who was significantly overweight. It wasn't a problem as far as I was concerned, and it really didn't create much of a physical issue, but he was very self-conscious and thus more inhibited about sex than I think he would have been otherwise.
08/28/2010
Thanks everyone for the posts! They have really enlightened me on the subject! Cheers to great sex at any weight!
08/28/2010
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kittycat414
Thanks everyone for the posts! They have really enlightened me on the subject! Cheers to great sex at any weight!
08/28/2010
My partner and I both fluctuate, but we are stupidly in love and literally don't even notice each others gains or losses (even when we notice our own.) Sometimes weight can limit you in terms of which positions are comfortable, but never has that in any way limited our enjoyment of sex. We just find a different position
08/28/2010
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I sometimes have concerns, cause I'm rather tall for a female. And, believe me... a 5'5 man trying to kiss all on me and I'm 5'11ish... just.. sucks. I'm fairly decent, with some love handles.. so pretty much everything can be done. I get on top, and everything. So... my current love is about 5'9ish.. 5'10.. and he's a bit overweight but it doesn't stall our sex life. We both wrestle and play around, and I have to admit.. it's fun not being the overpowering Amazon I normally used to be. He's pretty sure and our wrestling is full out wrestling, not that sissy pansy stuff I have to do.
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~LaUr3n~
It has never affected us on either end. We are both fit though. I don't know how it would affect us if it were different. I do know that my partner's sexual satisfaction has increased since being with me. His last partner's weight was on
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It has never affected us on either end. We are both fit though. I don't know how it would affect us if it were different. I do know that my partner's sexual satisfaction has increased since being with me. His last partner's weight was on the heavy side and he couldn't do things like enter her from behind by putting his legs on the outside. Her ass and thighs were too big.
I think fitness matters most. I have had boyfriends of similar sizes and some were weak as fuck. My boyfriend now, is really strong and I have no fears of being dropped or anything like that. I love how he can just throw me around . less
I think fitness matters most. I have had boyfriends of similar sizes and some were weak as fuck. My boyfriend now, is really strong and I have no fears of being dropped or anything like that. I love how he can just throw me around . less
08/29/2010
Our weights are both at what I would consider on the high end of 'normal'. My wife frets about it quite a bit - but doesn't want me to loose weight because she doesn't want to be bigger than me. After 21 years I've convinced her that it's not an issue in bed - we really enjoy sexuality and just get caught up in that enjoyment.
08/29/2010
I have off days where I want the lights off because I decided to wake up on the fat side of the bad. But other than that, generally no.
08/30/2010
While everyone has a "Ew, I'm fat! Don't look at me!" day, in the end I know I'm in good shape so I don't worry about it. It's easy to get caught up in the media, and porn, and considered yourself inferior.. but let's face it, the women portrayed in the media, and especially porn, aren't a depiction of real women. I know that I'm in good shape, and lots of women would love to have a body like mine, so I try not to take that for granted. I intend to stay fit, not for vanity purposes, but for general health benefits.
My man is on the heavier side, but I like my guys a bit beefy. He is a bit bigger than he would like, but stress is a huge factor in that so it's not a turn off for me. I know he's not a slob, so I'm not un-attracted to him because of his bit of a belly.
I know sometimes he feels self conscious about his stomach, or how he wishes he had a bit more stamina, but I know once we're in a better place, and we are both able to exercise, it won't be a problem. He fully intends to lose some weight and get back in shape, and since I know him well.. I'm not concerned (He was training for Marine Corp boot camp when I met him.. and it was working VERY well. Me-owww!)
My man is on the heavier side, but I like my guys a bit beefy. He is a bit bigger than he would like, but stress is a huge factor in that so it's not a turn off for me. I know he's not a slob, so I'm not un-attracted to him because of his bit of a belly.
I know sometimes he feels self conscious about his stomach, or how he wishes he had a bit more stamina, but I know once we're in a better place, and we are both able to exercise, it won't be a problem. He fully intends to lose some weight and get back in shape, and since I know him well.. I'm not concerned (He was training for Marine Corp boot camp when I met him.. and it was working VERY well. Me-owww!)
08/30/2010
I have an athletic build, work out regularly...martial arts, kickboxing and yoga. It helps keep me where I want to be but I am concerned when I will not be able to maintain this vigorous and demanding program. I know my new job will necessitate some changes.
My b/f has a great build but since he is confined to meetings and travel he knows he has to be vigilant...he is 5 yrs older then me. My g/f is heavier but not overweight as such, shorter then me and avoids athletic activity at all cost.
Bottom line...I feel it is important to feel good about yourself and take care of yourself.
We do have a good sex life but life itself can get in the way.
In my recent job quest, I realized that looking good can get U to the next level, all other things being equal. (I have to write an article about sexual politics during interviews )
Would I leave my b/f if he gained a few pounds?...of course not!!
My b/f has a great build but since he is confined to meetings and travel he knows he has to be vigilant...he is 5 yrs older then me. My g/f is heavier but not overweight as such, shorter then me and avoids athletic activity at all cost.
Bottom line...I feel it is important to feel good about yourself and take care of yourself.
We do have a good sex life but life itself can get in the way.
In my recent job quest, I realized that looking good can get U to the next level, all other things being equal. (I have to write an article about sexual politics during interviews )
Would I leave my b/f if he gained a few pounds?...of course not!!
08/31/2010
Now that I have lost 135 lbs., I can definitely say that being so overweight -- I was 331 lbs. at my heaviest -- affected our sex life. We couldn't get as "close", deep penetration didn't happen in all positions, and me being on top for long periods of time sucked because of having to support my weight on my arms. They would seriously go NUMB, lol.
It's entirely possible to still enjoy sex, of course, but accommodations will need to be made.
It's entirely possible to still enjoy sex, of course, but accommodations will need to be made.
08/31/2010
When we first got together, My Man outweighed me by double. I was less than 100 lbs, (around 92-95 lbs) and he was close to 200.
As we have gotten older, and I've had kids, he's still a LOT bigger than I am (he's near 14 inches taller than I am) but, he's actually LOST weight without trying and I've put on about 20 lbs + from having kids, not being a teen ager anymore.
The heaviest I ever was was while I was on Depo Provera. I gained 40-45 lbs, over my then set weight of about 100-105 lbs. It didn't effect our sex life (he said he loved the slightly bigger boobs) but I was very uncomfortable at this weight, and lost it as soon as I got off the Depo. That was about 14 years ago.
As we have gotten older, and I've had kids, he's still a LOT bigger than I am (he's near 14 inches taller than I am) but, he's actually LOST weight without trying and I've put on about 20 lbs + from having kids, not being a teen ager anymore.
The heaviest I ever was was while I was on Depo Provera. I gained 40-45 lbs, over my then set weight of about 100-105 lbs. It didn't effect our sex life (he said he loved the slightly bigger boobs) but I was very uncomfortable at this weight, and lost it as soon as I got off the Depo. That was about 14 years ago.
08/31/2010
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Agreed. We moved so much better when we were thinner and in shape. It was easier and we could last longer and get into a lot of positions that we just can't do anymore. I think it does affect my partners drive a little, because he is just lazier now and doesn't want sex as often. He also thinks it has something to do with his self esteem.
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Airen Wolf
I will say that mine or my partner(s) weight does not effect our level of arousal or desire it does effect the intensity and duration of our encounters. Being out of shape makes it difficult to do the positions and have the endurance we have when we
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I will say that mine or my partner(s) weight does not effect our level of arousal or desire it does effect the intensity and duration of our encounters. Being out of shape makes it difficult to do the positions and have the endurance we have when we are better fit. I love my guys regardless of their size but the sex is better with more stamina and flexibility!
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08/31/2010
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Aside from eliminating certain positions, it hasn't affected us much... stress is usually the X factor for us.
Originally posted by
kittycat414
I am curious if weight is an issue during sex from all ranges. Too skinny,too big, men, women, from big butts, little butts, big breasts to small breast. Etc!
08/31/2010
Weight does affect us. Sometimes we can'd do positions we want and sometimes it just turns me off and I'm not in the mood because of it. But, most times it really doesn't effect us that much.
09/01/2010
Thanks you all so much for your insight and honestly!
09/01/2010
I would say yes our weight definitely effects our sex life. When I first met him he was about 30 pounds less. When we first started having sex it was amazing. But now that he has gained some weight, he is alot more lazy and wants me to do everything because he doesnt have stamina like he used to. I have always been overweight and I have a hard time being on top for a long time because my knees start to hurt. Also, hes the only boyfriend that I have had where I have a hard time keeping him in me when I am on top. I dont know if that has anything to do with weight. Also, because I am self conscious, I would never have sex in the bright light because I am embarrassed to let him see me all the way naked. I think I would be alot more fun if I was thinner. Which I am working on haha.
09/10/2010
My partner and my weight at one point DID effect our sex life. After our first baby we were both packing on extra pounds. He gained about 30, and I went from 120 to 210 during my pregnancy. The first two months I was on medicine that kept me from losing my weight so I was only down to 190. The only reason it effected us was that we were both so out of shape we couldn't go as long as we used to. We've both lost all our baby weight though, and things are great.
09/10/2010
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My husband is kind of a heavy guy and I like it b/c he has his weight behind the pushing so there is more thrust. I like it that way b/c I'm NOT heavy so I get the full effect and I LOVE IT!
Originally posted by
kittycat414
I am curious if weight is an issue during sex from all ranges. Too skinny,too big, men, women, from big butts, little butts, big breasts to small breast. Etc!
09/12/2010
It doesn't affect our sex life. My boyfriend and I sex life is amazing. My first partners I had in the past were a little on the heavy side, so it was hard to do things, as well as my partner he only been with heavier women. I am only 104 lbs, so he is able to do a lot more, one thing he is always afraid of though is worrying about breaking me lol.
09/12/2010
having the extra weight makes me feel ugly and unwanted. for that reason, we dont have sex often
09/19/2010
he thinks I am perfect no matter if i put on a few lbs of winter weight or not. I have a small 'pooch' and i refer to it as the gas tank for my love machine. he has one also. and i think he is beautiful
09/20/2010