Yeh I can understand that. It's one of those some days I wonder why I didn't like myself when I was younger because- I always felt overweight then, and I was 40 pounds lighter than I am now. I look back and am like... what was I thinking?
Self image
07/29/2010
I wish I were happier with my body, but honestly I don't spend a lot of time thinking about it. I feel fortunate to have what I have.
07/29/2010
Growing up I was told I was going to be unattrative and fat "like my mother" by my father. He also informed me I had a big nose, big butt and loud mouth. He would tell me I needed to shut up no matter what was going on.
My mother agreed about my eventual slide into fatness, that I was dirty (she'd bitch if I tried to shower in the morning because it cut into her prep time though). She'd tell me I was uncreative, couldn't write, was shaped like a beachball, my boobs were too big and needed to be reduced (I have one breast a cup size larger than the other, the smallest is a D cup), my hair was terrible and I never put on my makeup to her satisfaction. I was told I was coarse, too hairy, uncreative, lazy, shiftless, obsessive, that I never finish anything I start and have nothing to offer anyone. I was told by a boyfriend that I had a better mustache than he had (I told him that you grow a mustache when you are out of puberty and that he'd enter puberty soon enough...I was 17 at the time)
I was also told I didn't deserve pretty things cause I hadn't "earned" them.
With all of this you will have to forgive me if I have a very warped self image. It is getting better as I begin to see my true reflection in the eyes of the two men and three children who love me. This community has helped me in ways too many to count. My spiritual pursuits have helped me to learn what I truly have to offer those around me and I have come a long long way. Somedays it's harder than others and sometimes even now I define my worth by the feedback of others instead of trusting myself.
I am truly a work in progress.
My mother agreed about my eventual slide into fatness, that I was dirty (she'd bitch if I tried to shower in the morning because it cut into her prep time though). She'd tell me I was uncreative, couldn't write, was shaped like a beachball, my boobs were too big and needed to be reduced (I have one breast a cup size larger than the other, the smallest is a D cup), my hair was terrible and I never put on my makeup to her satisfaction. I was told I was coarse, too hairy, uncreative, lazy, shiftless, obsessive, that I never finish anything I start and have nothing to offer anyone. I was told by a boyfriend that I had a better mustache than he had (I told him that you grow a mustache when you are out of puberty and that he'd enter puberty soon enough...I was 17 at the time)
I was also told I didn't deserve pretty things cause I hadn't "earned" them.
With all of this you will have to forgive me if I have a very warped self image. It is getting better as I begin to see my true reflection in the eyes of the two men and three children who love me. This community has helped me in ways too many to count. My spiritual pursuits have helped me to learn what I truly have to offer those around me and I have come a long long way. Somedays it's harder than others and sometimes even now I define my worth by the feedback of others instead of trusting myself.
I am truly a work in progress.
07/31/2010
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That is truly horrible! I can very much relate though. My mother did all she could to destroy any feelings of self-worth or power I had as a child. I honestly don't believe she was ready to be a mother and shouldn't have kept me. But thankfully we're patching our relationship now because she's grown up a lot. Though it can never undo past damage.
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Airen Wolf
Growing up I was told I was going to be unattrative and fat "like my mother" by my father. He also informed me I had a big nose, big butt and loud mouth. He would tell me I needed to shut up no matter what was going on.
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Growing up I was told I was going to be unattrative and fat "like my mother" by my father. He also informed me I had a big nose, big butt and loud mouth. He would tell me I needed to shut up no matter what was going on.
My mother agreed about my eventual slide into fatness, that I was dirty (she'd bitch if I tried to shower in the morning because it cut into her prep time though). She'd tell me I was uncreative, couldn't write, was shaped like a beachball, my boobs were too big and needed to be reduced (I have one breast a cup size larger than the other, the smallest is a D cup), my hair was terrible and I never put on my makeup to her satisfaction. I was told I was coarse, too hairy, uncreative, lazy, shiftless, obsessive, that I never finish anything I start and have nothing to offer anyone. I was told by a boyfriend that I had a better mustache than he had (I told him that you grow a mustache when you are out of puberty and that he'd enter puberty soon enough...I was 17 at the time)
I was also told I didn't deserve pretty things cause I hadn't "earned" them.
With all of this you will have to forgive me if I have a very warped self image. It is getting better as I begin to see my true reflection in the eyes of the two men and three children who love me. This community has helped me in ways too many to count. My spiritual pursuits have helped me to learn what I truly have to offer those around me and I have come a long long way. Somedays it's harder than others and sometimes even now I define my worth by the feedback of others instead of trusting myself.
I am truly a work in progress. less
My mother agreed about my eventual slide into fatness, that I was dirty (she'd bitch if I tried to shower in the morning because it cut into her prep time though). She'd tell me I was uncreative, couldn't write, was shaped like a beachball, my boobs were too big and needed to be reduced (I have one breast a cup size larger than the other, the smallest is a D cup), my hair was terrible and I never put on my makeup to her satisfaction. I was told I was coarse, too hairy, uncreative, lazy, shiftless, obsessive, that I never finish anything I start and have nothing to offer anyone. I was told by a boyfriend that I had a better mustache than he had (I told him that you grow a mustache when you are out of puberty and that he'd enter puberty soon enough...I was 17 at the time)
I was also told I didn't deserve pretty things cause I hadn't "earned" them.
With all of this you will have to forgive me if I have a very warped self image. It is getting better as I begin to see my true reflection in the eyes of the two men and three children who love me. This community has helped me in ways too many to count. My spiritual pursuits have helped me to learn what I truly have to offer those around me and I have come a long long way. Somedays it's harder than others and sometimes even now I define my worth by the feedback of others instead of trusting myself.
I am truly a work in progress. less
I'm glad you have people around you that KNOW you're beautiful and valuable. And those are the people that mattter.
07/31/2010
I would like to change some things but I live with what I am.
08/17/2010
Pre-kids I loved my body. I was so happy with the way I looked, which says a lot because i was a chunky kid growing up and was until I graduated high school. Being on bedrest with my first kid, and having to take medicine that made me retain water caused me to gain...97 pounds while I was pregnant!! I started out at 123 lbs beforehand..Oh my god when I had my baby I was super depressed about my weight, since it had been an ongoing childhood battle. I didn't get to lose all my baby weight even though I tried, and got preggers again. I had my baby at the end of May, and I have 30 pounds to lose until I'm back at my pre pregnancy weight, woohoo! I've been working hard for it.
08/31/2010
If I could get my boobs to look as great as they do in a bra I would be happy! When the bra comes off they go to hell..LOL!! I guess I have never really been truly happy with it. When I was skinny and had a flat belly I thought I was fat now that I actually have some weight too loose I look back at how stupid I was. Since I have started loosing some of that weight I can look myself in the mirror again and say not too bad...Not great but not bad either..LOL!! I have been told that I don't look my age 49 which helps out too...
09/02/2010
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My self esteem used to be really bad. I used to weigh over 240 at 5' 6". Due to that our sex life was awful! Within the past 3 years I have finally gotten down to 145 and had a tummy tuck & breast implants so there is almost nothing I won't do with my husband now! I love my body now and I'm not embarrassed to be on top or try any other position WITH THE LIGHTS ON NOW!
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I haven't seen anything on this. But I'm curious of how many people actually have a positive body image. Poll is private so no names will be shown, feel free to be honest. This is just something I've been thinking about a lot lately. I
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I haven't seen anything on this. But I'm curious of how many people actually have a positive body image. Poll is private so no names will be shown, feel free to be honest. This is just something I've been thinking about a lot lately. I have a few friends with fairly low self esteem..
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09/12/2010
If I only had the money to fix the things I do not like that would be great...
09/17/2010
im not conceded im convinced
09/18/2010
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i have been told by many that i "ooze" confidence. I love what I see in the mirror.
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I haven't seen anything on this. But I'm curious of how many people actually have a positive body image. Poll is private so no names will be shown, feel free to be honest. This is just something I've been thinking about a lot lately. I
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I haven't seen anything on this. But I'm curious of how many people actually have a positive body image. Poll is private so no names will be shown, feel free to be honest. This is just something I've been thinking about a lot lately. I have a few friends with fairly low self esteem..
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09/18/2010
As long as I am healthy Its all I really care about. If people cant hold down their lunch when they look at me thats their problem.
09/24/2010
My self esteem is and always has been fantastic (unrealistically?), but I am aware of my flaws, what I see as flaws, and move to improve them.
09/26/2010
i usually feel pretty bad about myself. however, there are days when im feelin cute but not offten enough
09/28/2010
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I'd probably make a few changes, but its alright
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I haven't seen anything on this. But I'm curious of how many people actually have a positive body image. Poll is private so no names will be shown, feel free to be honest. This is just something I've been thinking about a lot lately. I
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I haven't seen anything on this. But I'm curious of how many people actually have a positive body image. Poll is private so no names will be shown, feel free to be honest. This is just something I've been thinking about a lot lately. I have a few friends with fairly low self esteem..
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09/29/2010
There are many things I know I can improve on, or work on rather... but my self-image doesn't make me upset. I am who I am, and this is how I was made is my mindset.
09/29/2010
Theres not enough room to list my body issues, but Im working on it and hope one day I can feel great about myself like alot of ppl do.
10/02/2010
I feel my best when I'm naked, even in front of others, and not in a sexual way or because of the other person's reactions or pleasure. I just feel comfortable without clothing because I feel clothing is indeed one size fits all. Our torsos, arms, legs, and any other part of our bodies all are shaped differently, and most clothing only gets gradually bigger as size increases.
What I'm trying to say is, my body will never look good in the clothing that's made to fit some 'standard' body in the fashion world, but I'm not talking in terms of skinny or fat, but how I put on weight and how I'm shaped. I've come to accept that, but when I'm in clothing, whether it's quality clothing or not, I just don't feel it flatters me.
My body is far from "perfect". I have intense stretchmarks on my legs and along my sides from puberty. I'm not happy with my "fluffy" chin or my belly, but I am happy with the whole picture when I'm naked and can see the whole picture. My public self-image is rather bad tho. But I'm sure once I find clothing that flatters me best and fits my style, I'll be much more comfortable with myself. If it zips, that doesn't mean it fits...and nothing fits me.
What I'm trying to say is, my body will never look good in the clothing that's made to fit some 'standard' body in the fashion world, but I'm not talking in terms of skinny or fat, but how I put on weight and how I'm shaped. I've come to accept that, but when I'm in clothing, whether it's quality clothing or not, I just don't feel it flatters me.
My body is far from "perfect". I have intense stretchmarks on my legs and along my sides from puberty. I'm not happy with my "fluffy" chin or my belly, but I am happy with the whole picture when I'm naked and can see the whole picture. My public self-image is rather bad tho. But I'm sure once I find clothing that flatters me best and fits my style, I'll be much more comfortable with myself. If it zips, that doesn't mean it fits...and nothing fits me.
10/04/2010
I like everything but my arms, stomach and pimples.
10/15/2010
I am not happy with my size. I use to be alot smaller. I don't feel sexy some days I just feel fat and ugly.
10/16/2010
im comfortable with my body but i would like bigger boobs
10/24/2010
I hate my body. After I had my kids I gained alot of weight. I am struggling to get it off and haven't had any luck with it at all. I've always had self esteem issues though...even before I gained all this weight. I had an eating disorder when I was a teenager and I had a grandmother who would stress me out and make me feel bad that I had weight on me...she is what led me to the eating disorder. I have been done with the eating disorder for years now...but sometimes I can't help but think about starting up again, the only thing that stops me is my children. Hopefully soon I can just accept myself for who I am and feel comfortable in my skin again.
11/07/2010
Self esteem is something you constantly work on, you have to be happy in your skin, thats how i look at it
11/07/2010
Even though I still need to loose another 12 pounds before I finally reach my pre-pregnancy weight, I actually feel better about my body than I had before pregnancy. I can remember the days and years before finding out I was pregnant and thinking that I was overweight at only 108 pounds (ridiculous, I know). I can remember seeing so many things wrong with me and constantly pointing them out to myself.
Pregnancy completely changed that for me. I watched my body slowly get bigger and bigger, battle scars appearing when a kick was just a little to hard, and my vaginal area completely swell up to a size I never new existed. Lol. I always hated my vagina. The look has never been appealing to me, but a week after giving birth when the swelling went down it couldn't have been more beautiful to me.
I look back now and can't believe how amazingly dumb I was for believing such lies about myself. Although I hate being above my old comfortable weight, I feel more comfortable in my skin now than ever before. I went from not being able to see my feet to suddenly being able to see everything again. That really makes you change your mind on your body image after that. Lol.
Pregnancy completely changed that for me. I watched my body slowly get bigger and bigger, battle scars appearing when a kick was just a little to hard, and my vaginal area completely swell up to a size I never new existed. Lol. I always hated my vagina. The look has never been appealing to me, but a week after giving birth when the swelling went down it couldn't have been more beautiful to me.
I look back now and can't believe how amazingly dumb I was for believing such lies about myself. Although I hate being above my old comfortable weight, I feel more comfortable in my skin now than ever before. I went from not being able to see my feet to suddenly being able to see everything again. That really makes you change your mind on your body image after that. Lol.
11/10/2010
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I think personally that I look like shit.
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I haven't seen anything on this. But I'm curious of how many people actually have a positive body image. Poll is private so no names will be shown, feel free to be honest. This is just something I've been thinking about a lot lately. I have a few friends with fairly low self esteem..
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11/13/2010
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I have a love hate relationship with my body, and have had several eating disorders throughout my life.
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I haven't seen anything on this. But I'm curious of how many people actually have a positive body image. Poll is private so no names will be shown, feel free to be honest. This is just something I've been thinking about a lot lately. I
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I haven't seen anything on this. But I'm curious of how many people actually have a positive body image. Poll is private so no names will be shown, feel free to be honest. This is just something I've been thinking about a lot lately. I have a few friends with fairly low self esteem..
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11/16/2010
Well everyone has some body part that is not up to par to them. I don't mind my body but I can't help myself as I get bigger and bigger into working out and my muscles get larger my penis seems smaller to me. I am a normal 6 1/2 - 7 and I still get the job done but it looked larger before
11/16/2010
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I am a bigger girl and I am finding that the older I get the more I am loving myself and all the flaws I come with! It helps that my husband loves all of me too. What I used to see as disgusting (like my stretch marks or my big butt or pooch of a belly) I now find to be the story of my life. The stretch marks are proof that I am a mother, my big butt is what attracted my husband to me I think -- he remarks about how he loves my big ass all the time -- and my belly tells me that I am totally comfortable with my life and enjoying it. Don't get me wrong though there are times when the jeans start getting tight and I say, "Enough! Time to get serious and take off a bit of weight", but nothing drastic just to where I feel comfortable again.
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I haven't seen anything on this. But I'm curious of how many people actually have a positive body image. Poll is private so no names will be shown, feel free to be honest. This is just something I've been thinking about a lot lately. I
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I haven't seen anything on this. But I'm curious of how many people actually have a positive body image. Poll is private so no names will be shown, feel free to be honest. This is just something I've been thinking about a lot lately. I have a few friends with fairly low self esteem..
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11/16/2010
Ever since I entered the BDSM lifestyle my self esteem has skyrocketed. I really feel more secure with my body, and flaunting it at events, even in front of strangers. At any size I believe I would have this same confidence in myself. I do not wish to gain any more weight, and I could loose some, but it isn't a constant burden.
11/17/2010
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I think when someone strongly doesn't appreciate their body it can be changed. I'm not speaking about getting cosmestic surgery although, that does tend to happen it CAN lead a bad journey and become an addiction. I'm referring to if your overweight and you can't stand the way your body looks which causes you to complain and not make a difference. I'm 19 years old and due to the stress of college and work I've gained 10 pounds from eating food that was VERY unhealthy for me (freshman 15). It's annoying to see your friends and other people who complain how fat or big they are but, they make no change. I jog 6 miles three times a week with weightlifting added. I do this for myself because I want to feel good inside and out. I'm determined to get my shape back and become healthy by spring break of 2011. Don't complain because your life isn't over, anything in this life and world is possible as I have been proven so many times. I understand for those who have health difficulties that make it harder for you to reach a goal. I had breast reduction surgery last year in may and it was the greatest decision I've made in my life. It caused me not being able to run or join sports so I couldnt lose the way weight in the time period I wanted. Now that I can I take advantage of it no doubt about it. For other appearances of the body you don't enjoy the best thing someone can do is learn to love it gradually. Trust me I can't stand my nose or feet but, I love it because it's who I am and I won't be able to find other girls who have the same plus, some guys like details about your body you mostly can't stand.
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I haven't seen anything on this. But I'm curious of how many people actually have a positive body image. Poll is private so no names will be shown, feel free to be honest. This is just something I've been thinking about a lot lately. I
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I haven't seen anything on this. But I'm curious of how many people actually have a positive body image. Poll is private so no names will be shown, feel free to be honest. This is just something I've been thinking about a lot lately. I have a few friends with fairly low self esteem..
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11/17/2010