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Do you prefer a male or female gynecologist, or does it not matter?

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Contributor: SneakersAndPearls SneakersAndPearls
I've had both, and both seem to forget sometimes to be considerate! I've had a few very kind, very reassuring male docs, and some not so much. One male ob/gyn chose to talk to my husband instead of me when *I* was on the table. I was so not amused. I came out feeling like I had been violated. It took me a very long time to get over that.

The females I had were always gentle, but some were rude or inconsiderate.

I currently see a female midwife for my female issues. She's much more patient and looks at the whole picture (tests, exams, emotional wellbeing, diet, etc.)
07/27/2012
Contributor: JennSenn JennSenn
I prefer female. I'm just not very comfortable exposing myself anyway, and having my doctor be female helps a bit.
07/27/2012
Contributor: Ms. Peaches Ms. Peaches
I prefer a female gynecologist, but I have had both before.
07/27/2012
Contributor: Petite Valentine Petite Valentine
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Originally posted by SneakersAndPearls
I've had both, and both seem to forget sometimes to be considerate! I've had a few very kind, very reassuring male docs, and some not so much. One male ob/gyn chose to talk to my husband instead of me when *I* was on the table. I was so ... more
I've had doctors engage with my husband when he's in the room, which is fine with me, but ignore me for my husband when I'm the patient? No way. They both would have gotten a piece of my mind.
07/28/2012
Contributor: SneakersAndPearls SneakersAndPearls
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Originally posted by Petite Valentine
I've had doctors engage with my husband when he's in the room, which is fine with me, but ignore me for my husband when I'm the patient? No way. They both would have gotten a piece of my mind.
If I remember correctly, I was in quite a bit of pain, and my husband asked if I was OK, as I was freaking crying. The doctor was like, "Oh, she's fine." Even the nurse was whispering to me to make sure I was OK. I've never been back to that office. I'm still angry thinking about it.
07/28/2012
Contributor: dirtythoughts:) dirtythoughts:)
I do not have a preference, as long as they are a good and professional doctor. I currently have a male gyno.
07/28/2012
Contributor: Scrawberry78 Scrawberry78
I have only had a male ob/gyn. He was awesome! Best doctor I have ever had.
07/30/2012
Contributor: Experiment Experiment
I've only had female so far, but I've always requested women.

I just feel more comfortable talking about my vagina and discharge and periods with women.
07/31/2012
Contributor: Badass Badass
honestly, i have had a few female gynos.. and didn't like any of them. i thought each one was either distracted or just didn't care about me or my vagina.
then i started going to my mom's gyno, a male. and i love him. when i didn't have insurance, and knew i was paying totally out of my pocket, he gave me a family discount so it was significantly cheaper. and hes always treated me like a person.

to be frank, i think men go the extra mile not to appear to be a pervert.
07/31/2012
Contributor: Sinfully Sinfully
I don't think it matters but for me personally I prefer a female.
07/31/2012
Contributor: Forever Hers! Forever Hers!
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Originally posted by shentel
I prefer a female so much better than feeling out of place with a male.
The males usually are more gentler with me
07/31/2012
Contributor: Forever Hers! Forever Hers!
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Originally posted by Petite Valentine
Trips to the gynecologist are are awkward enough, I'd definitely switch if the person was a church-associate of my mom.
lol wow
07/31/2012
Contributor: Forever Hers! Forever Hers!
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Originally posted by Possibly Normal
I have only had one female Gyn and I was not pleased with her bedside manner. I like male doctors for everything though. I have just had a better experience all around with males.
As did I
07/31/2012
Contributor: Forever Hers! Forever Hers!
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Originally posted by Petite Valentine
You would think, but I once had an internal pelvic sonogram done by a female tech and she was the least compassionate person I ever met. She couldn't seem to grasp that shoving a HUGE piece of HARD plastic into my vagina is UNCOMFORTABLE when ... more
Yea same with me
07/31/2012
Contributor: Forever Hers! Forever Hers!
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Originally posted by Miss Anonymous
Female, Only because i have a history of sexual abuse and men make me uneasy.
although the one male doctor i did have was AMAZING!! and after the exam i told him the truth and he set me up with the best female doctor in his eyes. I'm very ... more
Wow im so veryy sorry to hear that Miss Nessa
07/31/2012
Contributor: Gettinmymojoback Gettinmymojoback
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Originally posted by Petite Valentine
My family members think I'm nuts because I didn't insist on a female gynecologist. I think gender isn't important as long as the doctor is good at what s/he does. What about you guys?
i prefer female just because i am shy, but i have a male doctor gyno who delivered my oldest. Honestly it doesn't really matter but if i had to choose who i was going to see i would rather see a woman.
08/01/2012
Contributor: CaliGirl CaliGirl
I just want a knowledgeable one that has been in the field a while.
08/02/2012
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by Badass
honestly, i have had a few female gynos.. and didn't like any of them. i thought each one was either distracted or just didn't care about me or my vagina.
then i started going to my mom's gyno, a male. and i love him. when i ... more
I agree. I have said it before, but with a few specific exceptions, I prefer male doctors.

Most female doctors have spent most of their adult lives showing how "tough" they are. They don't usually care about menstrual cramps, menstrual fatigue or endometriosis or pregnancy problems, as they usually don't experience these issues.

I found men much more empathic to my health issues. I actually had a female doctor refer to migraines (which nearly wrecked my life) as a "disease of housewives who want to get out of sex." WTF? This women didn't even ASK how often I have sex, simply assumed "migraine patient" meant "doesn't have sex." I've gone to men every since.
08/02/2012
Contributor: WildeKnight WildeKnight
I'm male. It doesn't really matter to me. But Wife's obgyn is a woman.
08/02/2012
Contributor: x203 x203
definitely female
08/15/2012
Contributor: freshbananas freshbananas
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Originally posted by Petite Valentine
My family members think I'm nuts because I didn't insist on a female gynecologist. I think gender isn't important as long as the doctor is good at what s/he does. What about you guys?
age is most imiportant to me!
08/15/2012
Contributor: Kitka Kitka
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Originally posted by Rossie
I prefer a female gynecologist, I'm more comfortable discussing my body with her.
Same goes for me, I feel really weird talking a guy about what's going on with my body.
08/15/2012
Contributor: kitty1949 kitty1949
Other. I don't go to the gynecologist.
08/15/2012
Contributor: rosythorn rosythorn
Female!
08/19/2012
Contributor: TiffyPixie TiffyPixie
I have a male gyno and he's great. I feel very comfortable with him.
08/19/2012
Contributor: panthercat23 panthercat23
not a big deal to me either way
08/20/2012
Contributor: kitty91 kitty91
i prefer a female im more comfortable with a lady!
08/20/2012
Contributor: Sangsara Sangsara
I prefer females because they tend to sit down and stare straight at your crotch a lot less. they stand up and look at the wall as they check your ovaries. much better
09/22/2012
Contributor: LoveYouLikeThat LoveYouLikeThat
it doesnt matter for me. BUT, I am particular on my OBGYN. I go to the same dr I went to for my oldest, and because of how well he is, my sister and sister in law have all went to him, and cant stop raving over his bedside manor.
09/22/2012
Contributor: PepperPot PepperPot
I definitely trust a female ob/gyn more than a male one.
09/22/2012