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We share chores. We have teenagers. They do chores. Chores and our sex life are not and never have been connected. That is a prescription for relationship problems.
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Sera
I get newsletters from Baby Center that are usually pretty fun to read or full of information and advice. Today I found this, and thought it was a great idea, since my husband is a hardcore gamer and is on everyday...usually while I'm doing
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I get newsletters from Baby Center that are usually pretty fun to read or full of information and advice. Today I found this, and thought it was a great idea, since my husband is a hardcore gamer and is on everyday...usually while I'm doing chores. He does help me. He always helps me when I need him to, but he always says "in a minute," and then it takes forever for him to get around to it, and he procrastinates. It's really frustrating, especially when things don't get done for a week! It's a real turn off for me, because how are we supposed to have time for sex when we haven't done the chores we need to do? Sigh...It tires me out.
So here's the article. I'll give you the link, and the article as well, just for the heck of it, and just in case. link
OK to withhold sex for chores?
Sarah and Alicia
Get Buttoned Up
posted: 10/25/2010, 7:24 am
The other day a friend asked me the secret to reducing her never-ending laundry headache.
I thought about it for a minute, held my breath, and said, “have you thought about sex?”
She looked at me quizzically. “Sex?” she asked. “What does laundry have to do with sex?”
Everything, honey, everything.
Feel like a romp in the sack when you’re facing a mountain of household chores after a long day or week? Not so much! Doesn’t help matters when you see your husband watching TV, does it? And tell me, how good are your DH’s odds when he makes eyes at you while you fold the laundry on Tuesday night, which, p.s., you have spent the past 2 hours dealing with while he read the paper? Pretty darn long, right?
Sadly, even in this day and age, statistics show that for every hour a woman spends taking care of the household, her husband spends about 30 minutes doing the same. Happily for all, studies also show that, the more housework husbands do, the more often you are likely to have sex.
Not hard to see why. While I don’t consciously hold out on my DH, factors like stress (to-do list that’s 10 miles long, anyone?) and fatigue are major turn-offs for me. Apparently I am not the only one.
Just imagine what you’d both have time and energy to get to if he tacked on another, say 15 minutes, of helping out each day! I say, the next time you see him lounging on the couch, give him a booty call…in the form of a mop, or broom, or full laundry basket.
I personally don’t think there’s any aphrodisiac quite as potent as delegating a household task to my husband…and having him do it with gusto (and in many cases, better than I could).
How about you, have you ever traded your husband a promise for a romp in the sack in exchange for a helping hand around the house? less
So here's the article. I'll give you the link, and the article as well, just for the heck of it, and just in case. link
OK to withhold sex for chores?
Sarah and Alicia
Get Buttoned Up
posted: 10/25/2010, 7:24 am
The other day a friend asked me the secret to reducing her never-ending laundry headache.
I thought about it for a minute, held my breath, and said, “have you thought about sex?”
She looked at me quizzically. “Sex?” she asked. “What does laundry have to do with sex?”
Everything, honey, everything.
Feel like a romp in the sack when you’re facing a mountain of household chores after a long day or week? Not so much! Doesn’t help matters when you see your husband watching TV, does it? And tell me, how good are your DH’s odds when he makes eyes at you while you fold the laundry on Tuesday night, which, p.s., you have spent the past 2 hours dealing with while he read the paper? Pretty darn long, right?
Sadly, even in this day and age, statistics show that for every hour a woman spends taking care of the household, her husband spends about 30 minutes doing the same. Happily for all, studies also show that, the more housework husbands do, the more often you are likely to have sex.
Not hard to see why. While I don’t consciously hold out on my DH, factors like stress (to-do list that’s 10 miles long, anyone?) and fatigue are major turn-offs for me. Apparently I am not the only one.
Just imagine what you’d both have time and energy to get to if he tacked on another, say 15 minutes, of helping out each day! I say, the next time you see him lounging on the couch, give him a booty call…in the form of a mop, or broom, or full laundry basket.
I personally don’t think there’s any aphrodisiac quite as potent as delegating a household task to my husband…and having him do it with gusto (and in many cases, better than I could).
How about you, have you ever traded your husband a promise for a romp in the sack in exchange for a helping hand around the house? less
