Slowly work through things I guess
would you do it?
09/04/2012
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I learned something new today. Thank you.
Originally posted by
P'Gell
In most people who regularly practice "rough sex" or BDSM, this type of thing is called "Ravishment Play" rather than "rape." That makes a difference between a non-consensual thing (which rape is)and a consensual
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In most people who regularly practice "rough sex" or BDSM, this type of thing is called "Ravishment Play" rather than "rape." That makes a difference between a non-consensual thing (which rape is)and a consensual one.
Ravishment Fantasies are one of the most common fantasies among women. There NOTHING "wrong with it." It's common and NORMAL. Most women probably have Ravishment Fantasies because our society tells us sex is "wrong" and in a Ravishment, one can pretend one is not making the choice to have sex, although one is.
MANY women have had rape, trauma, abuse in their backgrounds. Some of us have chosen to shed the "victim" idea, worked on ourselves, and dealt with it in a way which allows this type of play with no psychological stress. For some people, it is even therapeutic, as they ARE in control and certainly NOT a victim, as opposed to actual rape, in which one is a victim, at least during the act. Whether to remain a "victim" is up the individual. I worked on my past and choose to NOT be one.
Having a "Safe Word" and knowing you can stop at any time eases the pain and puts you in control. It can actually be quite freeing. If she has "obvious mental issues about it" then those do need to be worked on, usually in therapy in addition to self introspection.
As long as a sexual act is consensual for both partners, there is not such thing as "wrong." How can something both people agree to and enjoy be "wrong?" less
Ravishment Fantasies are one of the most common fantasies among women. There NOTHING "wrong with it." It's common and NORMAL. Most women probably have Ravishment Fantasies because our society tells us sex is "wrong" and in a Ravishment, one can pretend one is not making the choice to have sex, although one is.
MANY women have had rape, trauma, abuse in their backgrounds. Some of us have chosen to shed the "victim" idea, worked on ourselves, and dealt with it in a way which allows this type of play with no psychological stress. For some people, it is even therapeutic, as they ARE in control and certainly NOT a victim, as opposed to actual rape, in which one is a victim, at least during the act. Whether to remain a "victim" is up the individual. I worked on my past and choose to NOT be one.
Having a "Safe Word" and knowing you can stop at any time eases the pain and puts you in control. It can actually be quite freeing. If she has "obvious mental issues about it" then those do need to be worked on, usually in therapy in addition to self introspection.
As long as a sexual act is consensual for both partners, there is not such thing as "wrong." How can something both people agree to and enjoy be "wrong?" less
09/06/2012
i would try to compromise...maybe some rough sex instead of "rape"
09/06/2012
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If yes was healed, her soul and spirit I mean
Originally posted by
aBeastlyLittleThing
if your partner was sexually abused when she was younger, or had been raped..[and has obvious mental issues about it]and NOW has rape fantasies...would you help her act them out?
i know this seems one-sided, but straight girl, i want your opinions ... more
i know this seems one-sided, but straight girl, i want your opinions ... more
if your partner was sexually abused when she was younger, or had been raped..[and has obvious mental issues about it]and NOW has rape fantasies...would you help her act them out?
i know this seems one-sided, but straight girl, i want your opinions too. what if you were her boyfriend? what if it were your boyfriend instead of your girlfriend? less
i know this seems one-sided, but straight girl, i want your opinions too. what if you were her boyfriend? what if it were your boyfriend instead of your girlfriend? less
10/05/2012
If she is fine with it-- if the situations is consensual-- it is not for you to judge her for her fantasies or wanting to act them out. Of course, if you are uncomfortable with anything about a sexual encounter, you don't have to do anything you don't want to. In other words, it is not your job to police her motives or mental/emotional state or whatever. Don't make it about her. It's about you. Are YOU comfortable with whatever she is proposing?
10/14/2012
peleusMD
Compromise is I think the best route for a successful relationship. I would do the same too. 
10/14/2012
I agree, I would definitely talk it out and suggest counseling before we did anything like that.
10/26/2012
I don't know what I would do
10/26/2012
i would do everything i could to be supportive and make sure she was 100% comfortable with everything we did (obviously), but no, i would not act out a rape fantasy with her. call it a "hard limit", i just won't go there.
11/05/2012
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I don't understand how rape victims do a 180 turn later in life and end up loving it. Someone please enlighten me.
Originally posted by
aBeastlyLittleThing
if your partner was sexually abused when she was younger, or had been raped..[and has obvious mental issues about it]and NOW has rape fantasies...would you help her act them out?
i know this seems one-sided, but straight girl, i want your opinions ... more
i know this seems one-sided, but straight girl, i want your opinions ... more
if your partner was sexually abused when she was younger, or had been raped..[and has obvious mental issues about it]and NOW has rape fantasies...would you help her act them out?
i know this seems one-sided, but straight girl, i want your opinions too. what if you were her boyfriend? what if it were your boyfriend instead of your girlfriend? less
i know this seems one-sided, but straight girl, i want your opinions too. what if you were her boyfriend? what if it were your boyfriend instead of your girlfriend? less
11/17/2012
I would talk it out and find out why she wanted this. Was it as carenautilus states that living out this fantasy helps her re-write her past in a way she can control it? It would depend on what the reason was if I decided to participate.
05/04/2013
I would honestly feel uncomfortable with doing that. It would probably depend on the circumstance.
05/04/2013
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If she had been abused, that is a negative experience. If she wanted it "play acted", that does not sound healthy at all. Sounds like there are serious mental health issues at play. My sweet hubby dated a young lady in college who fit your description to a "tee" and wanted him to act this stuff out. He had zero interest in it, and suggested that she seek some counseling. We don't know if she did, but that bright, attractive, intelligent and professional woman ended up in a serious of abusive relationships (guess she found guy's willing to oblige her "fantasy") and ended up seriously physically and psychologically screwed up. It is a very sad story and my hubby wished he had been more able to persuade her to seek help...but again, they were young (early in college) kids, so there you have it.
Originally posted by
aBeastlyLittleThing
if your partner was sexually abused when she was younger, or had been raped..[and has obvious mental issues about it]and NOW has rape fantasies...would you help her act them out?
i know this seems one-sided, but straight girl, i want your opinions ... more
i know this seems one-sided, but straight girl, i want your opinions ... more
if your partner was sexually abused when she was younger, or had been raped..[and has obvious mental issues about it]and NOW has rape fantasies...would you help her act them out?
i know this seems one-sided, but straight girl, i want your opinions too. what if you were her boyfriend? what if it were your boyfriend instead of your girlfriend? less
i know this seems one-sided, but straight girl, i want your opinions too. what if you were her boyfriend? what if it were your boyfriend instead of your girlfriend? less
06/14/2013
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