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Would you do a guy in a wheelchair?

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Contributor: Chirple Chirple
Wheelchair in and of itself wouldn't be an issue, but I wouldn't Pity Sex for anyone, really.

I don't think it's necessarily wrong to do so, but I wouldn't be comfortable.
11/29/2011
Contributor: Maiden Maiden
Though the poster of this thread could have worded this differently, I'll answer anyway.

I would never give "pity sex" to some one in a wheel chair, but I was in a relationship with a quad for some time. He was lucky enough to be able to feel everything and get and maintain an erection, he just couldn't move much more than his arms. I was very attracted to him physically as well as mentally and we had a lot of fun. The only downside was I had to do most of the "work", but the bonus was he was really good with his mouth. This included dirty talk, being dominating verbally, telling me exactly what to do, as well as being able to use his mouth expertly in physical ways. Not only was he an amazing kisser, but he gave me the BEST oral sex I have had to date. Needless to say, sex was never a problem. It was fun figuring out new and interesting ways to pleasure each other.
12/01/2011
Contributor: jdFtM jdFtM
This wouldn't be an issue for me. I have a lot of ideas of things to do with people with a variety of limitations. Part of that is because of my own disability. I've learned a lot more since having it (and glad to have learned it!)
12/12/2011
Contributor: deltalima deltalima
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Originally posted by Tori Rebel
I really don't see any appropriate answer there for me. If someone were disabled and I was attracted to the person, the disability wouldn't be a big issue, or at least not something we could work around. Would I be turned on by the ... more
Sums it up perfectly for me as well.
12/21/2011
Contributor: PeppermintFuntimes PeppermintFuntimes
This may seem shallow, but I couldn't be attracted to someone that had no use or limited use of their legs. I do not want to do all the work and be burdened with whatever issues would arise from dating/having sex/etc. with the guy.
01/02/2012
Contributor: kz916 kz916
if i was single yes.
01/13/2012
Contributor: sunsplash sunsplash
yes of chorse!!!!! guys r sexy no matter what even paralyzed. or in a wheelchair they rule!
02/15/2012
Contributor: Badass Badass
He would have to be amazingly suave and debonair.
02/17/2012
Contributor: PDXlady PDXlady
If I like him, yes. If I don't, no. It has nothing to do with the wheelchair.
02/18/2012
Contributor: freda freda
Quote:
Originally posted by Tori Rebel
I really don't see any appropriate answer there for me. If someone were disabled and I was attracted to the person, the disability wouldn't be a big issue, or at least not something we could work around. Would I be turned on by the ... more
i agree
02/19/2012
Contributor: Kaleb Kaleb
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Originally posted by Pandahb
Some women feel a sense of pity for that guy in the wheelchair and the sideways grin. But would that pity lead to sex?
The pity itself shouldn't b the reason. But I wouldn't rule out someone in a wheelchair.
03/22/2012
Contributor: Zombirella Zombirella
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Originally posted by Pandahb
Some women feel a sense of pity for that guy in the wheelchair and the sideways grin. But would that pity lead to sex?
If you are attracted to someone then I don't think it should matter. Saying you would have sex with someone with a disability just because you pitied them is just like saying you'd have sex with someone ugly just because you felt sorry for them and felt like you were doing a good deed or something. That is TOTALLY cruel and ridiculous. If I were disabled and slept with someone and found out they had cruel intentions behind it and weren't really interested in me, I'd be PISSED and I'd be sure to let everyone know how much of a prick that person really is. God forbid anything would happen I would stay with my man, I love him, we're engaged and though we haven't said our vows yet, I will be there for him through anything and can't imagine leaving him unless he cheated on me.
03/26/2012
Contributor: blixa blixa
The pity wouldn't lead to sex -- If I were attracted to him, we might have sex, regardless of his ability.
03/29/2012
Contributor: LovesAPoet LovesAPoet
If I really liked the man as a person and we were seeing each other for a while then I wouldn't see the wheelchair as a problem. As long as we liked/cared for one another then I would be happy with it. But I wouldn't date and have sex with someone I didn't like or love just out of pity.
04/10/2012
Contributor: Mwar Mwar
It doesn't matter. Personality matters to me.
04/24/2012
Contributor: meezerosity meezerosity
If I loved them then yes. I personally don't sleep around but once I care about someone enough to be comfortable having sex with them the wheelchair part wouldn't matter at all.
04/27/2012
Contributor: jamiefun jamiefun
Quote:
Originally posted by Pandahb
Some women feel a sense of pity for that guy in the wheelchair and the sideways grin. But would that pity lead to sex?
I actually really am surprised of how many ppl actually dont care about the wheelchair!!! I think thats freakin awesome!!! The reason why I like this post is because I am in a wheelchair from a motorcycle accident. I must say I never had a sex because of any pity. I like to think I am better at sex now because I have a penile implant, an that means hours an hours if the girl can handle that lol.
06/16/2012
Contributor: chelly411 chelly411
Why not
09/04/2012
Contributor: glasskitten glasskitten
Quote:
Originally posted by Tori Rebel
I really don't see any appropriate answer there for me. If someone were disabled and I was attracted to the person, the disability wouldn't be a big issue, or at least not something we could work around. Would I be turned on by the ... more
We are like-minded on this subject.
09/06/2012
Contributor: Artishok Artishok
Don't have them....
09/06/2012
Contributor: NorthBayLady NorthBayLady
I would and I have. My now ex boyfriend is in a wheelchair and he was in one when we were together. Everything still worked. He could walk a little
09/07/2012
Contributor: LoveYouLikeThat LoveYouLikeThat
Quote:
Originally posted by Tori Rebel
I really don't see any appropriate answer there for me. If someone were disabled and I was attracted to the person, the disability wouldn't be a big issue, or at least not something we could work around. Would I be turned on by the ... more
^^this.^^
09/22/2012
Contributor: Lildrummrgurl7 Lildrummrgurl7
I've already got a man but a wheelchair wouldn't matter to me at all.
09/22/2012
Contributor: sexykiss sexykiss
no not because of the disability but because i am a lesbian... if it was a woman in a wheelchair and i was attracted to them i dont see why not.
09/29/2012
Contributor: JennSenn JennSenn
I'm pretty much like everyone else. The wheelchair doesn't matter. But I don't have pity sex or random sex so that's out. If I was in a relationship with him and we were at that point, sure!
10/01/2012
Contributor: Mamastoys Mamastoys
The wheelchair would not make a decision for me. If it was my hubby, I'd see HIM, not the wheelchair.
If you are going to identify people by their disabilities, would you consider someone with an artificial limb, glasses, hearing aids, etc.?!!?
Maybe because I am older and maybe cause I'm a nurse, but things like this don't bother me in the least. You learn to deal with the cards you are dealt and you can make it work or you can be through life feeling sorry for yourself.
Sorry...I've already been told I've had too much coffee today and for me to get off my soapboxes!
10/01/2012
Contributor: TiffyPixie TiffyPixie
I'm married so now looking but I'd something happened to hey husband to out him in a wheelchair, it wouldn't matter in that way.
10/01/2012
Contributor: Red Riding Hood Red Riding Hood
I wouldn't be bothered. I consider myself "pansexual", but don't really identify as that. People seem to think the term means I would screw around with ANYBODY. The point is, you wouldn't let something like this be the deciding factor. I still have to like the person and be attracted to them. I just don't base my attraction on such things.
10/05/2012
Contributor: Falsepast Falsepast
Wheelchair doesn't matter. All that matters is: Do we like each other? and Can it get hard? If both of these get a yes, then I'm all in.
10/05/2012
Contributor: LunaLuthor LunaLuthor
Quote:
Originally posted by Pandahb
Some women feel a sense of pity for that guy in the wheelchair and the sideways grin. But would that pity lead to sex?
If I loved that guy yes
10/05/2012