Hah, not where we live. Last year, he contracted H1N1 (swine flu) and almost died of dehydration and malnutrition before he would go to the hospital. In the ER, they gave him fluids via IV, X-rayed his chest, gave him a tetnis (tetanus?) booster because he didn't know when his last one was, and had him pee in a cup, which was still sitting on the counter untested when we finally left. Over a year, three thousand dollars and a huge hit to his credit report later, he still owes them money and they were unwilling to work out a plan. less

He did need to go to the ER that time. When you take a UC (urine culture) there is a little capillary tube in the cap, the capillary tube has urine in it, after the cap is put on the cup. The nurse will take the cap, put the fluid from the capillary tube into a test tube and leave the rest of the urine in the cup for someone else to clean up. My guess is the nurse grabbed the small amount of urine needed for a culture without your seeing.

I was in the ER last week for a severe UTI, and my husband got upset because the cup was sitting on the counter. I had to explain to him that nurses are fast when they do this, the test tube was gone (it's usually in the kit with the cup, the cleaning toweletttes and the test tube) and they came back with a positive preliminary within half an hour.

Your BF probably didn't have any urinary involvement or they would have told you. I can pretty much guarantee they tested his urine, though. Also, they often will look at the urine to get an idea of how dehydrated someone is. A dehydrated person has dark yellow, smelly, sometimes sticky urine. If dehydration is really bad, the urine can be brown. They probably took a small culture as well as a visual examination of the contents of the cup. They don't need the entire specimen for most tests.

I'd keep an eye on that bump, whatever it is, and if it's still there in a week, he really needs to see a doctor. Chances are seeing a doc at a doctor's office is going to be a lot cheaper than the ER. They usually charge you $ 500.00 just to walk in the door of the ER.

He really should see a doctor if it's still there in a week, though. I am not going to even take a guess at what it is. Most likely nothing to worry about, but he still needs someone to examine him.

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Hi everyone, I have a very serious subject to discuss with you. My boyfriend and I enjoy engaging in pegging and other woman-on-top sort of activities about once a week, and usually it's all fun and games, laughter, pleasure, you get the gist. But last night something really scary happened. As usual, I lubed up my finger and slipped it inside him to start preparing him for... bigger things to come, and was startled to find something.

Just inside him by maybe an inch, just below the surface my finger was touching, was a very small, hard, almost ball-shaped bump. It could not possibly have even been a quarter inch wide, and was on the wall of his insides nearest his scrotum (anterior? posterior? not sure, the wall that faces the prostate). I don't think it was ON his prostate, because his is actually further in than the average man's, I need to insert my whole finger to find it. And it definitely was NOT there two weeks ago (he wanted it so bad last week he didn't give me time to play with my hands, just strap on and go).

I did what I thought was right. I paused what we were doing, gave it a good feel, and gently let him know what I found. I was prepared to be supportive in any way he needed. To my surprise, all I got was, "Eh. *shrug* Maybe I have butt cancer." And he wiggled his bum at me to continue.

So I smacked his butt and stopped his wiggling, sat back and cleared my head for a sec, and expressed worry about continuing. He said he wasn't worried at all and begged me to continue. Eventually I managed to get that little bump out of my mind and enjoy myself.

But when I woke up this morning, I couldn't help but wonder if it was okay. I mean, I fucked him pretty hard. And he had a bump in there. I wanted nothing more than to feel and see if it was still there. I know down there, very small bumps can come and go with no harm done. But I'm a huge worrier.

I need some advice. I have no clue what to do. He has no health insurance, and a hospital bill from February of LAST year that is still being paid off because we have little spare money. I know a few things that it COULD be, like a pollup (spell checker says that's misspelled), or a cyst, or a pimple, or stress from a rough bowel movement, all things that are not very threatening. But my brain won't let go of the possibility that it could be something... worse. I'm scared.

What should I do? I don't want to be a nag. Would it be bad to wait a week and see if it's there the next time we play before I bring it up again?

Any help anyone can offer will be appreciated. Thanks for listening, everyone, and sorry for the long post.

-Pixie less