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Contributor: Blinker Blinker
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Originally posted by El-Jaro
"too intense" = ow that hurts, but I don't to freak you out because I don't want you to stop.
Oooooh, okay. I get it now. Thanks for that translation!
07/02/2010
Contributor: Smiling Bob Smiling Bob
Try varying the position...see if that doesn't work.
Smiling Bob
07/13/2010
Contributor: Wayne Kerr Wayne Kerr
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Originally posted by Smiling Bob
Try varying the position...see if that doesn't work.
Smiling Bob
Ditto on changing position.

My wife and I discovered a position that causes my to come very quickly. Too quickly, if you want to know the truth. She loves it because it's so intense and effective on me. I'm concerned about getting in the habit of coming too quickly.

It's a variation on doggie style. Once in, I arch my back far enough I can rest my hands behind me. She has to do all the work, so she can finish me off or torture me to her heart's content. I generally take a long time to reach a second orgasm, so we sometimes use it to speed things up on round 2. I'll tell you, though, it's intense.

Wayne
07/13/2010
Contributor: PassionQT PassionQT
Maybe he knows he won't see you again for a while so he wants to make it last.

My man always blows as soon as I roll on to my stomach, so when I'm getting sore, me flipping over is his cue.
07/13/2010
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by Blinker
I've done that several times when I go down on my guy. Half the time it makes him giggle but I still do it. When I give him head, sometimes he stops me because it's "too intense". I have no idea what the hell that means but I do ... more
Something just occured to me. If he's giggling and the blow job feels "too intense" maybe he's subconsciously stopping himself from reaching orgasm, due to trying to bring the intensity down.

I used to get "over stimulated" so hard, that I couldn't come at all. (It wasn't common, because I used to come in only a few minutes of stimulation.) I KNOW the feeling of it being "too intense" (or remember it, as it doesn't happen anymore) and I remember trying to hold back the orgasm, because otherwise it would happen too soon, and then I'd lose interest before HE came. I found out later that I am NOT one who can make an orgasm stronger by holding back, if I hold back the orgasm is just harder to get to. Maybe he has a similar problem.

That, and the ADD, he may have trouble focusing. My Man also has a mild form of Ausperger's and ADD and often "loses" focus easily. Less now, that he's older (he's 50) but it happened a LOT when we were younger. Just thinking out loud, but it could be.
07/14/2010
Contributor: Wayne Kerr Wayne Kerr
Quote:
Originally posted by Blinker
I've done that several times when I go down on my guy. Half the time it makes him giggle but I still do it. When I give him head, sometimes he stops me because it's "too intense". I have no idea what the hell that means but I do ... more
I disagree with Sauce on this one.

Concentrating on the head during "Head" can indeed be as intense as trying to start back up right after an orgasm. Use more hand on the shaft and ease up a little on the head when this happens.

A lot of you have mentioned pressure to finish making it harder to finish. I agree. Any kind of baggage can slow things down, and at 41, I can tell you that these can affect erections, too. Clear the air before you get started. If you're both decent people, willing to discuss things calmly, getting little things out of the way before you start can make that old jalopy run like a new car.

Wayne.
07/14/2010
Contributor: wrock wrock
Quote:
Originally posted by Blinker
That makes me sound horrible, doesn't it? Complaining that my lover takes too long in bed...oh God.

We have an amazing sex life, but we are in a long-distance relationship. We live about 300 miles away, and with school and work, we're ... more
I dont wana sound like a dick, But I feel I have too. This post and how you feel is whats wrong with alot of women. Are you rly complaining that sex is lasting too long. Cry me a river. I would be willing to bet your also the one the would be cring if he was a 2 pump chump too.

Maybe the issue isnt him. Maybe its you. Maybe he is tring to pleae you and you arnt returing the favor. Maybe you arent sharing enough meaning when he is pleasing you your not playing with him too.

The other thing that stands out here is him "jerking it" too much. Are you sure he is just jerking it? Being that your in a long distance relastionship are you sure he is faithful? Are you sure he stright? I know a few guys that ended up being gay but still had sex with girls to hide it and the girls always complained about the kinda stuff you are.
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12/20/2010
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
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Originally posted by wrock
I dont wana sound like a dick, But I feel I have too. This post and how you feel is whats wrong with alot of women. Are you rly complaining that sex is lasting too long. Cry me a river. I would be willing to bet your also the one the would be cring ... more
Wow.... seriously. This is the EF community where we support each other and try to help each other.

It IS an issue if a man lasts too long, cause it hurts the VAGINA when we chafe.

Sharing enough meaning? You don't fucking know their relationship like that. And don't doubt her long distance relationship. I'm in one too, and I hate pricks like you who do that.

I'm sorry, and I hope I don't get flagged, but you're a fucking dick.
12/20/2010
Contributor: earthpig earthpig
I take forever too, most of the time, but I never know when I start whether it will be 10 vs 30 vs never. I take ED meds, and sometimes I last so long, even with meds, my erection just gives up. Instead of getting mad, I just enjoy it, and I know it won't be long before I have sex again, so it's no biggy. I enjoy making my girl feel good, and that;s more important to me anyway than whether I come. I have not and never will come from oral, but I do enjoy getting it.

I have found that if we don't plan it, and do it as a quicky, I last 5-10 minutes. Must be the excitement. Give it a try. Just grab him at the most inopportune time and tell him to pull his pants down and get on the bed!

Edit: I read somewhere that if you have premature ejaculation, you should make sure your bladder is empty before you have sex. So I tried the opposite, since I have a delay. I had sex when I felt like peeing, and it has worked a couple of times to help me finish quicker.
01/25/2011
Contributor: stlouisxxx stlouisxxx
I have had that "issue" a few times, which is nice to a point, but then is frustrating. Have you tried anal stimulation when this happens? Having a prostate toy in while having sex seems to cure it for me.
06/02/2011
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
Omg I WISH my man had this problem. He will cum in less than 5 minutes the first time we do it in a "session." :-( Fortunately, he's usually up in a half an hour or so. I have threatened to put him on a low dose of antidepressant...and I mean it. lol
07/09/2011