Is a 13 year difference in a relationship weird?

Contributor: SweetXSurrender89 SweetXSurrender89
My husband and I are 13 years apart hes about to be 36 and i will be 23 this year is that weird to anyone?
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Contributor: Ansley Ansley
Nope, not weird at all.
05/07/2012
Contributor: Femme Mystique Femme Mystique
Nah. It depends on your ages. If you were 15 and 28, for example, that would be kind of weird (and illegal).
05/07/2012
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
As long as it doesn't bother you, it's not weird. Everyone else can go hang themselves.
05/07/2012
Contributor: Badass Badass
It's like your mom always told us and it has stuck with me since i was a teenager...
Love is blind, it doesn't see age, race, none of that.
05/07/2012
Contributor: BG529 BG529
no age is just a number
05/07/2012
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by Chilipepper
As long as it doesn't bother you, it's not weird. Everyone else can go hang themselves.
It's not so simple. Trust me.

I once had a good friend, or someone I thought was a good friend, tell us that our entire circle was wondering if it was his wallet or his cock that I liked the most - they just could not even begin to fathom that we had things in common. We were so livid that we got up, left and refused to have anything to do with the lot of them again. Including the person who revealed this long held secret.

Parents, friends, co-workers (previous, not EF)...they all pass judgment. It comes down to having to make a decision. Either you're with the person and you let that stuff bounce off your back like nothing happened, or you fold and end the relationship.
05/07/2012
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
I see absolutely nothing wrong with that kind of age difference. My dad and his wife are almost 20 years apart. My Man and I are some years apart. My best friend and her late husband were 10 years apart. All are (or were, before my friend's dh died) very happy.

I think it may depend on your friends and family and how you are able to stand up for yourself and/or do the things you know are right for you.

Relationships have challenges. Everyone if your circle of your friends and family are all going to like your partner at the same time. You have to decide what is important to you. I'm not the kind of person who would give up on someone I loved or could love because someone I know "didn't approve." I really don't care what people think about things like age. Usually those people are busybodies and would concern themselves with something else if it wasn't the age gap.

Do what YOU think is right. Are you happy with him? If so, I don't see the problem.
05/07/2012
Contributor: Love Obsessed Love Obsessed
No that's not weird.I don't see any age different between adults weird it only become weird to me if it's a fifty year old with someone underage or something like that.
05/07/2012
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
I don't think it's weird. We have a 14 year difference, and we're quite happy together. Feeling judged by others isn't necessarily fun, but at the same time it's going to happen because most humans tend to be judgmental. We roll our eyes, shake our heads, and move on.
05/07/2012
Contributor: Beck Beck
I have a 19 year age difference with my hubby. We get a lot of rude comments. Everyone passes judgement. It doesn't bother us anymore. We just laugh it off now. It's hard to make things work with everyone being very judgmental.
05/07/2012
Contributor: Bex1331 Bex1331
if you're happy who are we to judge
05/07/2012
Contributor: SMichelle SMichelle
I don't think it's weird at all.
05/07/2012
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
People are always going to judge others, but I personally don't think it matters. As long as the two of you have a happy healthy relationship then who cares how old the two of you are.
05/07/2012
Contributor: interestingstuff interestingstuff
No. In the asian culture it's sort of the norm, or at least totally common. About 10-15 years is the usual. More than that there may be some "hmmm.... interesting" thoughts going on, but thats more of the american influence.
05/08/2012
Contributor: GONE! GONE!
Nope, not if you're happy together! Age doesn't matter, compatibility does.
05/08/2012
Contributor: BlooJay BlooJay
I don't think it's weird
05/08/2012
Contributor: SweetXSurrender89 SweetXSurrender89
Thanks everyone
05/08/2012
Contributor: SweetXSurrender89 SweetXSurrender89
Quote:
Originally posted by Beck
I have a 19 year age difference with my hubby. We get a lot of rude comments. Everyone passes judgement. It doesn't bother us anymore. We just laugh it off now. It's hard to make things work with everyone being very judgmental.
Yeah nice to know someone can relate
05/08/2012
Contributor: Ms. N Ms. N
Well, some people say that it is probably better to date an older man, because girls mature faster than guys do. Other people say that guys never mature anyway, so do whatever you want!

Can't go by me though...my SO is almost 16 years younger.
05/08/2012
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
My husband and I are 13.5 years apart. It works for us. Every couple is individual.
05/09/2012
Contributor: meezerosity meezerosity
No, not at all. As long as you are both of legal age and consenting I see age as just a number. Only YOU and you SO know what your relationship is like.
05/09/2012
Contributor: MamaDivine MamaDivine
Quote:
Originally posted by SweetXSurrender89
My husband and I are 13 years apart hes about to be 36 and i will be 23 this year is that weird to anyone?
"Weird" probably is the wrong word. I've never had a relationship that was more than 8 year difference, and that one was really hard to go through with because of such a difference in age. I suppose that for ME it would be, but as for anyone else, as long as you love each other and are making it work, then I wouldn't say so.
05/09/2012
Contributor: 31 Flavors 31 Flavors
They're only numbers. Maturity and compatibility are what matter the most.
05/09/2012
Contributor: Various Various
No, at your ages it isn't weird at all. Now if you were under 20 it might be a bit odd.
05/09/2012
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
my exhusband and I were 7 years apart. I truly think you should stick with it not mattering. If you're happy and crazy in love, who cares what everyone else thinks!
05/09/2012
Contributor: solitudinarian solitudinarian
There's a 12 year difference between my boyfriend and I, but we're happy. I don't think it's weird.
05/12/2012
Contributor: hall5885 hall5885
Nope nothing weird about it at all. As long as you two are happy that's all that matters and anyone that has a problem with it, it's them with the problem. But this is coming from someone who tend to be attracted to men 15-20 years older than me.
05/15/2012
Contributor: jmex83 jmex83
Quote:
Originally posted by SweetXSurrender89
My husband and I are 13 years apart hes about to be 36 and i will be 23 this year is that weird to anyone?
NOpe, I see nothing wrong with this
05/18/2012
Contributor: Beck Beck
Quote:
Originally posted by SweetXSurrender89
Yeah nice to know someone can relate
I can totally relate. You just have to ignore judgmental comments.
05/21/2012