I am ok with some parts of this, not ok with other parts.

Ok:

1. At 16, I think that SOME girls are mature enough to date a guy that much older. Not all girls, not most girls, some. And at 23, some guys have not matured much past their own high school years. So if she and the dude clicked, I can accept that.

2. It's illegal for them to have sex in most parts. Some parts may make it technically ok online or whatever, but still. The law IS a factor there. If they said "ok fine we'll wait until it's legal", though, I'd be cool with that.



My two problems with this:

1. The fact that she lied on the form for making a profile for the dating site worries me. It's unfair for the guy in that situation, considering the site is designed to keep away minors. This also makes me think that she may not have been mature enough.

2. The guy just accepting the age difference would put me on edge about his maturity, too. Again, if it was an ok as in "ok, but we're not doing ANYTHING remotely sexual until you're 18" I'd accept that. I don't know all the facts, but if his response was "it's only 6-7 years difference" I wouldn't trust it to work. less

I agree with the thought of this relationship being based off a lie. I do not think it will work out. This girl is 16, I know when I was that age I wouldn't have been able to handle the type of relationship I have now that I am an adult. It's just not a good senario.

As to "if the parents are okay with it," the parents have yet to discover that this guy is 23. His thoughts on the matter are "well I have dated someone 6-7 years older than me, what's the difference?"
My opinon: BIG DIFFERENCE! less

DO you think that it is okay for a 23 year old male to be dating a 16 year old female?

Case Senario:
They met on a dating site. If you have ever been on a dating site you know you have to at least say you are 18 to register. Well this girl waited 3 months to tell the guy....so he had already gained these feelings for her. But does that make it okay? Or should he let her go? less

DO you think that it is okay for a 23 year old male to be dating a 16 year old female?

Case Senario:
They met on a dating site. If you have ever been on a dating site you know you have to at least say you are 18 to register. Well this girl waited 3 months to tell the guy....so he had already gained these feelings for her. But does that make it okay? Or should he let her go? less

This. I also agree with DeliciousSurprise.



Now, I really can't say anything considering the fact that I don't know said people, their families, their personalities, etc.



In some cases, relationships like this CAN work out - it's really just the maturity factor. Some girls /can/ know what they want at that age, you know.



But in most cases it usually won't. Considering that the guy is 23, he's lived a bit longer, and I'm sure that he wouldn't put up with the girl's... pardon my french, bullsh*t. I've met a lot of 16 year old girls who have the mentality of a 7 year old. This girl seems to be one of them. If you can't be completely HONEST in the first part of your relationship... who knows what she'll do? She's not ready to handle a relationship like this.



Also, @Darling Jen - I don't mean to sound snobby (so please don't think that I'm being like that!) but pedophilia is when someone over the legal age is attracted to PRE-PUBESCENT CHILDREN. Just throwin' that out there! less

Someone has already said that. But my point wasn't to get technical with the terms. It was to explain that the law doesn't care one way or the other about how he thought she was mature enough. She's a minor, and below the age of consent in most states, and it's still illegal. less