well, thank you all for the great tips to help me try to relax

unfortunately, no luck relaxing or getting to try out my new toy

guess just to much on my mind at the moment and just as i was starting to unwind and do some self exploring got a phone call wish i hadn't
found out my grandma passed away yesterday morning so that killed the mood right there.

not going to try to use my new toy for a little bit just cant get my mind on it but hope to really soon less

I'm sure many of your questions were already answered, but I'll throw in my own just in case anything got left out in other responses.

First of all, congrats on your purchase - it's always exciting when you get something new, especially if it's your first.

To answer your question about your lady parts, this diagram should be very helpful.

The area labeled vaginal orifice is where you'll mostly be focusing with the toy, and it is located towards the bottom. The clitoris can also be stimulated since you bought a vibrator. To start exploring, since you're new, it would be a good idea to hold the tip near the opening of the vagina (as seen in the above diagram), and lightly push in to penetrate.

You said it is your first time putting anything in, not even having used a tampon, so it may very well be uncomfortable or painful your first time. That wont last forever though. And yes, you should absolutely go slow your first time - especially if you purchased a larger vibrator. When you get more comfortable, you don't need to go as slow unless you feel like it.
If you take it carefully your first time, I can assure you that you won't be doing anything wrong.

No, you will no produce a bad or strong odor by masturbating. You can relax and not need to worry about that. And you absolutely will not have a heart attack from masturbating. If that was the case, there would be wayy more people in the hospital

To summarize the above: It's your first time doing any sort of experimenting, so take it slow. If you're unsure of your way around your genitals, you should take a look at the diagram I linked. Go very slow your first time using your toy. You may feel discomfort or pain initially, but that is only because you haven't done it before - that won't happen forever. Lube helps with that, too. Don't worry about any strong odor or heart attacks, you'll be completely fine. Have fun



P.S. - My condolences go out to you about the loss of your grandma. I recently lost my grandpa, and can relate. less

First, I'd like to congratulate you on ordering your first toy. I hope you will like it and bring you some newfound enjoyable sensations.

Now I'd like to address some concerns you might have. Don't feel "dumb" or "silly" for asking any type of question you want an honest answer to on this message board. We are all hear to learn and share information as well as our personal experiences in order to grow as sexually responsible humans.

Unfortunately, it seems as though you might have come across some misinformation. You will not produce or excret any foul odor by masturbating. As a matter of fact, no one will ever know unless you either tell them or they find your toys and if they find your toys you can always tell whomever is asking that its a history project for your human sexuality class. That's a great class by the way! I highly recommend taking that class if you can make it fit into your schedule.

The only way you will draw attention to yourself is if your vibrator is ridiculously loud when you use it or you use it in public. I would not recommend participating in either of these activities for the obvious reasons. Let's see, what were some of your other concerns.

I'm curious, have you ever seen a Gynecologist? If you haven't, you might want to consider it. This doctor will answer all the questions you have and tell you what is best for your particular situation. You don't have to go in for an exam, they are availabke to just talk to and they are also non judgemental.

If the idea of seeing a Gynecologist frightens you, you can also talk to a nurse practitioner. They are also a valuable and sometimes under utilized resource. They are also very knowledgeable. There are also resources in the health department on your campus. less