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Does your partner ever get jealous of your toy collection?

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Contributor: TheSexista TheSexista
A close friend of mine bought her 1st set toy a few weeks ago and her hubby is jealous of it. He says things like " do you like to fuck him more than me" or " I guess yu don't need me anymore".

So, I am wondering how often partners get jealous of plastic toys....?
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No Way- My partner loves toys as much as I do
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107  (77%)
Sometimes- When I spend to much time with them
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25  (18%)
YES- my partner hates that I have sex toys
Hannah Savage , Deidjra , Rocky LaFemme , ichwillwaffels , M. Roth , starsNairguitars , Ex-prude
7  (5%)
Total votes: 139
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09/03/2010
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Contributor: Sammi Sammi
I don't think he loves toys as much as me, but he's certainly not jealous of them
09/03/2010
Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
No, she knows that she is the one that can really get me off.
09/03/2010
Contributor: MyDolceVita MyDolceVita
My situation is sort of in the middle.. He knows what I do for this site and doesn't mind it, but I think he's a little more concerned that his sex isn't enough. [Believe me, it is] But I'm more on the freaky side where as he's just.. him. I don't really know how to put it He's okay with what I do on this site, but he feels uncomfortable when I play with my toys. I don't do it all the time and in my opinion I feel he's not as open with sexuality as I am. I ask him to go to porn shops with me or look on EF with me just to pick things out like lubes, condoms, massage oils and he's fine with that. But going into a porn shop with me he won't do because he thinks those shops are just all for masturbation. Sigh!
09/03/2010
Contributor: Envy Envy
Nope, my bf loves the toys I get, and I love that he enjoys the toys I get him, so it's good all around.
09/04/2010
Contributor: TheSexista TheSexista
Quote:
Originally posted by MyDolceVita
My situation is sort of in the middle.. He knows what I do for this site and doesn't mind it, but I think he's a little more concerned that his sex isn't enough. [Believe me, it is] But I'm more on the freaky side where as he's ... more
I kinda wonder if maybe the guys who are not real fond of the toys are insecure in some ways. I think maybe toys make them feel like they are not enough. Maybe the toy is larger than he is or feels better.

My husband does not mind mine at all, but he has no interest in any for himself other than his cock ring.
09/04/2010
Contributor: Madeira Madeira
My gf'd only get jealous if I didn't share. Of course, since we're lesbians we don't really have any of the "my penis isn't enough to satisfy you *sob*" angst going on, so we love toys, we both really enjoy playing with them. My gf doesn't really masturbate so she wasn't much of a vibrator gal before me, but I love seeing her use one, watching her with the hitachi is just about the sexiest thing I've ever seen.
09/10/2010
Contributor: Hannah Savage Hannah Savage
Quote:
Originally posted by TheSexista
I kinda wonder if maybe the guys who are not real fond of the toys are insecure in some ways. I think maybe toys make them feel like they are not enough. Maybe the toy is larger than he is or feels better.

My husband does not mind mine at all, ... more
I know that my hubby does not like that I own, use or review sex toys. Knowing that and trying to be respectul, I make sure that if I have any toys that are bigger than him in any way, that they are put away and not anywhere to be easily found. I will have bullets and lubes in a box by my bed, per se, but there won't be a John Holmes hanging out there--even if I had one.
09/10/2010
Contributor: YvetteJeannine YvetteJeannine
Well, I wouldn't exactly call two toys a "collection"..but I will say that when I bought my first toy (a Rabbit Vibe) at an "adult party", my husband did seem to be jealous..

I mean, not like nasty jealous, or anything..but he would make comments like "Well, you really don't need me anymore"..You know...things like that.

I think the major obstacle was that this toy gets me off...and...he...well. ...not that he doesn't TRY.."Cause he DOES. He tries HARD. He is a very considerate lover..he gives me oral...and much foreplay, but there's SOME reason I just cannot achieve climax most of the time w/ him. It's not that I don't LOVE sex w/ him..because I do. And he's quite well-endowed (is that TMI?)..Still...there's that something that keeps me from reaching the pinnacle....

BUT..then the RABBIT hopped into my bedroom. And I made the mistake of telling him that this baby made me come in like...ohh...less than five minutes!!! [when, MY poor baby has perpetually spent over an hour licking or banging away (much to HIS frustration..'cause-li ke most males-HE can come w/o problem!!) without result]!!!

So, yeah..I think at that point his pride was kinda' hurt. Otherwise, I think he secretly is glad that his wife is at least getting SOME form of climax..even if it's not w/ him. I know he would never begrudge me sexual pleasure; even if it does not come from him (well...IF it comes from a toy, I mean. He would NEVER condone me with another man!!).

When I got my SECOND toy (the fabulous Decedent Indulgence III), I think he kind of resigned himself to the fact that his wife likes the way toys make her feel. Still..there is the oddball comment...

Oooohh...I almost forgot..I thought this was funny; May 19 was my birthday. I (more than anything) wanted a Heart Rate Monitor for my Bday, because I've started exercising and getting into shape..(I wanted an expensive, good one..around $150-200)..He agreed to get me one. A week after my Bday, I went to the Adult Party I mentioned above, and got my "Wet Wabbit" vibe..which costs aboouuut $75 at the party (yes, I know...more expensive at those parties!). Well, a few weeks later, I asked hubby WHERE my HR Monitor was...He said, and I quote "Well, you went and bought yourself a hundred-dollar dick! THAT was your present!"!! Ok..so maybe he is more jealous than I thought!!!!!

PS: We still have great sex..but I can always count on my 'bunnies' to help me out when hubby is not home!!
09/10/2010
Contributor: Pleasure Piratess Pleasure Piratess
He's not really said one way or the other, but he has asked "why do you have to have SO MANY?".... for heaven's sake, if he is to be the only man in life for the rest of my life, I should at least be able to have a variety of toys!
09/10/2010
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Our toy situation is completely turned around.

I bought her a vibe 15 years ago - and have bought every vibe and dildo since then. We use them to enhance out time together. I'm not saying that she never uses them when I'm gone - in fact I've been trying to encourage her to, but she claims that she's too busy or too tired.

Either way I'm not jealous - if she manages to learn a few tricks from solo play - she can just teach me!
09/10/2010
Contributor: Liz Liz
My partner and I both have toys, so we don't have any jealousy issues (although neither of us likes to share!). Toys are also something we incorporate into partner play quite a bit, so it doesn't feel like playing with sex toys is something that really "belongs" to either of us.
09/10/2010
Contributor: Not here Not here
I use my toys with my man probably 90% of the time. He makes jokes about how I'd rather spend time with my toys, (or looking for them on EF, for that matter...) but it's just that- a joke. Definitely no insecurities there, thank goodness!
09/10/2010
Contributor: paralax paralax
Quote:
Originally posted by TheSexista
A close friend of mine bought her 1st set toy a few weeks ago and her hubby is jealous of it. He says things like " do you like to fuck him more than me" or " I guess yu don't need me anymore".

So, I am wondering how ... more
my ex used to get mad at toys that penetrated me. but he didnt mind clit toys. we had a rule i could have any amount i wanted as long as he was the only thing in me. i must say this again. me EX said this.
09/11/2010
Contributor: Selective Sensualist Selective Sensualist
My husband is the one who introduced me to sex toys. Definitely no jealousy there!
09/11/2010
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
Quote:
Originally posted by TheSexista
A close friend of mine bought her 1st set toy a few weeks ago and her hubby is jealous of it. He says things like " do you like to fuck him more than me" or " I guess yu don't need me anymore".

So, I am wondering how ... more
They will both joke that the toys allow them to have a night off...and when they tell me to go fuck myself they almost always mean for me to do just that!
09/17/2010
Contributor: iceman681 iceman681
i could watch my wife 24/7
09/17/2010
Contributor: Naughty Student Naughty Student
I voted no, but my man doesn't like my toys as much as me.

They help him out when he's tired but he sort of gets disapointed if I introduce a toy without him asking him but he is quite understanding and lets me get what I need.
09/18/2010
Contributor: Pandahb Pandahb
He is starting his own collection
09/24/2010
Contributor: lamira lamira
My partner loves my toy collection. He loves to play with them with me. And he encourages me to pleasure myself as often as I want. He knows there's no competition between him and a plastic, inanimate object.
09/29/2010
Contributor: clp clp
I am happily investing in our toybox. It is fun to show him the new toys that we will get to share once we live together. It is also great that he appreciates toys, and is acquiring a taste for the luxurious (I'm rubbing off on him!)--it makes gift-giving time that much more special.
09/29/2010
Contributor: Viktor Vysheslav Malkin Viktor Vysheslav Malkin
Answering for when I had a partner last, she liked them as much as me.
09/30/2010
Contributor: CleverKitty CleverKitty
My partner likes my toys and likes using them on me or even just watching me use them.
09/30/2010
Contributor: Mr. E Mr. E
No jealousy here. We mostly enjoy our toys together.
09/30/2010
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
Definately not - he is confident enough not to feel jealous. He likes them almost as much as I do.
10/01/2010
Contributor: beautifulpierced beautifulpierced
my husband loves my collection, we use them together most of the time. i do however have a friend that his boyfriend wont allow him to have a toy bigger than him, i find that strange.
10/02/2010
Contributor: Waterfall Waterfall
I dont think I would say that my partner loves toys, but since I am away at school most of the time he seems excited that I have them
10/02/2010
Contributor: ZenaidaMacroura ZenaidaMacroura
My boyfriend loves my toys. Mostly. He HATES my Adam's Pleasureskin cock. Too big. Haha. He gets intimidated.
10/02/2010
Contributor: Tuesday Tuesday
You didn't give an 'other' option. My husband is amused by my collection but not at all jealous of it. He doesn't use toys himself.
10/02/2010
Contributor: Lady Venus Lady Venus
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Originally posted by Tuesday
You didn't give an 'other' option. My husband is amused by my collection but not at all jealous of it. He doesn't use toys himself.
ditto!
10/03/2010