The New Intimacy

Are your sex toys destroying your sex life?

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Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
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Originally posted by indiechick
Sometime I think that i have gotten so used to a toy getting me off that the real thing can never measure up and other times toys add greatness to my sex life. So I want to know if your use of toys has added or detracted from your sex life. If it ... more
I use my toys solo when the guys are unavailable and we often use them together. If you find that you are losing sensitivity in your clit what you can do is bite the bullet, so to speak, and stop masturbating for a few weeks. So long as you don't have a physical reason to be losing sensitivity such as hormone shift this should return expectations to normal as your nerves take much less time to re-attenuate. If you expect to orgasm quickly you may have to readjust your thinking a bit.
05/12/2012
Contributor: sunkissedJess sunkissedJess
Sex toys have really opened a lot of doors in my sex life.
05/12/2012
Contributor: MissCandyland MissCandyland
So far, they have only enhanced it.
05/12/2012
Contributor: pasdechat pasdechat
Totally the opposite. Never having gotten off during sex without toys, I'm probably biased, but that's my experience, anyway. I had my first orgasm using a vibrator, and after that, I was much more aware of my own sexual thoughts and feelings--obviously I had had those feelings before, but they were sort of vague and aimless because, well, they never led to much. More recently, I've found that I only really started to enjoy plain-old penetrative sex after experimenting with penetrative toys myself. I had liked it emotionally/psychologi cally before, but I had never gotten much out of it once the foreplay was over. Using toys made it "click" for me, so that I now know how to make sex a lot more pleasurable for myself.
05/12/2012
Contributor: meezerosity meezerosity
Right now they are my only sex life.
05/12/2012
Contributor: Zombirella Zombirella
No, not at all. I think they have enhanced things.
05/12/2012
Contributor: BlooJay BlooJay
They make my sex life more interesting.
05/12/2012
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
Not at all!!! On the contrary, our sex life has MUCH improved, tha nks in large part to Eden/sex toys.
05/12/2012
Contributor: indiechick indiechick
Quote:
Originally posted by Annemarie
I think they've honestly sort of ruined my ability to get off without them.

I've been masturbating very regularly (roughly nightly) for a very long time, more than 10 years. I've moved up the ranks of clit o'steel-ness, and ... more
Right I feel the same way some times. Or that it take A LOT longer for me to get off without them, and sometimes my partner just doesn't last that long. he gets kinda sad when he can't get me off on his own
05/12/2012
Contributor: Ibegoodone Ibegoodone
Enhanced it somewhat! Toys have spiced things up! It easy to get used to them and sometimes hard to orgasm without them.
05/12/2012
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
toys helped me embrace my sexual self. They helped me discover what I like and what works for me. Having used them, I now have a much more fulfilling sex life with, and without, the use of toys with Mr.
05/12/2012
Contributor: llellsee llellsee
They enhance mine.
05/12/2012
Contributor: TameTemptress TameTemptress
Definitely enhanced!
05/12/2012
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by indiechick
Sometime I think that i have gotten so used to a toy getting me off that the real thing can never measure up and other times toys add greatness to my sex life. So I want to know if your use of toys has added or detracted from your sex life. If it ... more
They enhance it!
05/12/2012
Contributor: indiechick indiechick
Quote:
Originally posted by CuteDee
I understand what you are saying... Id be lost w/o my vibe! But I need it during sex to get off so my toys help my sex life!
But don't you think you should be able to get off with out your toys, i'd think I would consider that hindering my sex life, that I have become dependent on a vibe for pleasure
05/13/2012
Contributor: kitty1949 kitty1949
sex toys ARE my sex life lmao
05/13/2012
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
Quote:
Originally posted by indiechick
But don't you think you should be able to get off with out your toys, i'd think I would consider that hindering my sex life, that I have become dependent on a vibe for pleasure
If you've desensitized your bits to the part where you need them, you may have to ween yourself. Try alternating use of your toys and use of your fingers (or your partner's). And remember that you don't have to take 5 minutes to come. Take your time.

But are you talking about the ability to have ANY orgasm (clitoral or penetrative?), or are you talking about needing dual stimulation to orgasm during sex? Were you able to orgasm during sex before you started using toys? Some women do not and cannot have an orgasm during penetrative sex without clitoral stimulation and there's nothing wrong with that, or using toys to be able to have an orgasm during penetrative sex.
05/13/2012
Contributor: Geogeo Geogeo
Sex toys kind of detract because I don't have the motivation to go out looking for a guy to have sex with because I'm content enough with my toys.
05/13/2012
Contributor: indiechick indiechick
you have all shared so much thank you
05/15/2012
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
More than not we're intimate without toys, and I don't use them on my own often, so it's not an issue for us.
05/15/2012
Contributor: Feisty Feisty
def. enhanced!
05/19/2012
Contributor: Sauceboss Sauceboss
enhanced for sure!
05/19/2012