I think I have to go with Maybe on this one... I could see how one could get offended or upset honestly, but at the same time as long as this isn't something that is happening all the time and he isn't constantly choosing masturbation over you then I don't really see an issue.
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Do you get upset when your partner masterbates in the middle of the night?
04/11/2012
It never upsets me when he masturbates. It really is a 'guy thing' to just take a notion and jack off.
04/11/2012
i would leave to room and/or wake up my girl to get some help......scene from american beauty lol
04/12/2012
I wish mine would.
04/14/2012
It wouldn't bother me
04/14/2012
I wouldn't it'd be a turn on for me. And if he was doing it because I wasn't in the mood, I'd just let him go for it and pleasure himself
04/18/2012
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I couldn't have said it better myself!!!!
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charletnarouh
I've masturbated when a partner was asleep next to me. I wake up from a dream horny and they're asleep. I know they need to get up early so I just take care of it by myself. I've had partners do the same. I've never had a partner get
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I've masturbated when a partner was asleep next to me. I wake up from a dream horny and they're asleep. I know they need to get up early so I just take care of it by myself. I've had partners do the same. I've never had a partner get upset with me for it. Some will roll over and join in if they wake up from it but I try to keep it down if I know they need sleep. If I wake up to a partner doing it, I'll either join in or, if I'm too tired or they don't want help, I'll roll over and snuggle against them and kiss their neck and touch them to give them a little encouragement. It's awkward to just lay there and listen so I at least acknowledge them and try to give a little nudge in the right direction. As long as the sex in the relationship is still healthy and plentiful and their masturbation isn't taking the place of sex, it's fine. Now, if you tried to start something and he turned you down and THEN waited for you to fall asleep so he could jack off, that'd be lame. I suggest that if you wake up to him doing this, snuggle up, put your arms around him, whisper some sweet, sleepy nothings in his ear and maybe stroke some erogenous zone you can easily access till he comes and then go back to sleep with him.
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now how do you feel about this... you masturbate in the middle of the night and they roll over and move away from you? mind you this was a friend with benefits not a boyfriend
or..he walks in on you masturbating and says "you're going to make a mess" but once again this was an ex that is still a roommate. but it still smarts! funny never used that word before but it fits- it didn't hurt just smarted!
But I wanted to comment on your post because when I AM in a relationship this is definitely how I like things to be! good advice.. following you now!
04/21/2012
Sexual bliss
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What about the idea of setting your husband up to do it. Sleep naked and wait to be woke up by the bed bouncing. When you wake up roll over and grab a handful..or mouthful. My wife woke to me getting off laying behind her because she slept nude that night after we had great sex and decided to help out. Amazing time!! One more thing. My wife orgasms multiple times before i finish once. Whats wrong with me getting my second orgasm later?
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sexxxkitten
No. It's simple and quick.
10/01/2017
Gr8pumpkin
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I'd only be upset if my partner was avoiding sex with me. If they need a quick orgasm and I am not up for it, then they can do what they need to get relief. In fact, if my wife was to take matters into her own hands, I would likely get turned on and want to join in, unless it was not in her mind to have company. I have only done it a few times with my current spouse, when she was too tired or ill to participate. In my former relationship, I did it much more frequently, though she almost never wanted to be bothered for sex, that's why she is my ex, in part.
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Sexual bliss
What about the idea of setting your husband up to do it. Sleep naked and wait to be woke up by the bed bouncing. When you wake up roll over and grab a handful..or mouthful. My wife woke to me getting off laying behind her because she slept nude that
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What about the idea of setting your husband up to do it. Sleep naked and wait to be woke up by the bed bouncing. When you wake up roll over and grab a handful..or mouthful. My wife woke to me getting off laying behind her because she slept nude that night after we had great sex and decided to help out. Amazing time!! One more thing. My wife orgasms multiple times before i finish once. Whats wrong with me getting my second orgasm later?
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12/03/2017
I sleep too soundly to even know if she masturbated at night. However, it's always her that says no to sex, because I pretty much ask every day, so I don't expect that she 'needs' to do it while I sleep.
I also come to bed after she is already asleep. So she would either have to do it before I come to bed - or wait until I went to sleep. It is possible that she just wants something quick, in which case she would do it before I come to bed - in which case I'm fine with that.
She occasionally wakes up before the alarm and would have time masturbate before getting ready for work - if she has, I'm not aware of it.
As for me - when things go on for a week or so of no, no, no, no - I will occasionally masturbate laying beside her. She has not ever woken up during the process - that I am aware of.
I also come to bed after she is already asleep. So she would either have to do it before I come to bed - or wait until I went to sleep. It is possible that she just wants something quick, in which case she would do it before I come to bed - in which case I'm fine with that.
She occasionally wakes up before the alarm and would have time masturbate before getting ready for work - if she has, I'm not aware of it.
As for me - when things go on for a week or so of no, no, no, no - I will occasionally masturbate laying beside her. She has not ever woken up during the process - that I am aware of.
12/03/2017
I hate to say it but....yes it would upset me very much. I feel like my sex drive is out of control and my man's is more "once a day is more than enough". If I woke up to him literally doing it beside me I would take it as I am not worth the effort. You guys say it is easier and quicker? Why on earth do we need to take the easy way out of an orgasm? I say it is selfish
12/10/2017
Gr8pumpkin
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Maybe it might be easier or quicker for very young guys, but for me, having my lady involved is almost always quicker. It is selfish if you are ignoring each other's needs in lieu of your own.
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Cinnyree
I hate to say it but....yes it would upset me very much. I feel like my sex drive is out of control and my man's is more "once a day is more than enough". If I woke up to him literally doing it beside me I would take it as I am not
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I hate to say it but....yes it would upset me very much. I feel like my sex drive is out of control and my man's is more "once a day is more than enough". If I woke up to him literally doing it beside me I would take it as I am not worth the effort. You guys say it is easier and quicker? Why on earth do we need to take the easy way out of an orgasm? I say it is selfish
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Once a day is great, if you can do that, ( I wish ), special occasions these days to get it on two or more times, but not unheard of. Sux to get old.
12/11/2017
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Ditto - it does suck to get old!
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Gr8pumpkin
Maybe it might be easier or quicker for very young guys, but for me, having my lady involved is almost always quicker. It is selfish if you are ignoring each other's needs in lieu of your own.
Once a day is great, if you can do that, ( I wish ... more
Once a day is great, if you can do that, ( I wish ... more
Maybe it might be easier or quicker for very young guys, but for me, having my lady involved is almost always quicker. It is selfish if you are ignoring each other's needs in lieu of your own.
Once a day is great, if you can do that, ( I wish ), special occasions these days to get it on two or more times, but not unheard of. Sux to get old. less
Once a day is great, if you can do that, ( I wish ), special occasions these days to get it on two or more times, but not unheard of. Sux to get old. less
12/13/2017