The New Intimacy

How important is sex in your relationship?

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Contributor: Mrs.Giggity Mrs.Giggity
On a scale of 1-10. 10 being VERY IMPORTANT.

I recently asked my husband this and he said a 6! I was a little upset by this, I thought his answer would have been higher but I am the nympho in our marriage. For me it's a 10.
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
Very
Girly Girl , AHubbyof2SexualMinds , Entropy , P'Gell , I like to try harder , mistressg , Kitka , js250 , samanthalynn , Coralbell , OhMy! , LaSchwartz , BlackxxxRose , Shellz31 , Buttercup Green , sweetiejo , dhig , Lummox , aliceinthehole , Sammi , slynch , Jake'n'bake , married with children , melissa1973 , Howells , Angewin , GonetoLovehoney , shySEXXaddict , Kissy , snuggly , Ansley , Rossie , Ms. Spice , VSgirl , Megan Jean , True Pleasures , Fun with Dick & Jane , Bignuf , Greenleaf , Gracie , The Majikat , toxie m , Pi , Eliyahu , The Curious Couple , Maxx , Zombirella , fredacarl , bunniebunnie , spineyogurt , unfulfilled , Bebela , amandaco2011 , Angelica , potstickers , roskat , PirateofPenance , LavenderSkies , @MissyBarkley , sexy19364 , Azule , Airen Wolf , smashthepatriarchy , real life wife , geliebt , cottonxcandy , hhh , hem
68  (62%)
Somewhat
Highmaintenancegirl916 , calliope , BobbiJay , DeliciousSurprise , AJvil , mpfm , Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama , Ghost , ninja250 , Ryuson , PeaceToTheMiddleEast , ThoughtsAblaze , (k)InkyIvy , Modern^Spank^Anthem , Spring , Stinkytofu10 , ellejay , 131231e43 , MamaDivine , bayosgirl , Kayla , Valentinka , PassionateLover2 , darthkitt3n , Ash1141 , Missmarc , finnimbrun , pinkpottergirl , sekmetrn , Incendiaire , ginainohio , fernwehh , annarchism
33  (30%)
Extremely
fabidefabi , Beck , Just Tigger , Nora , Fantastical , oldman , FemmeFlo , SaMiKaY
8  (7%)
I hate sex
Total votes: 109
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01/26/2012
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Contributor: Girly Girl Girly Girl
important
01/26/2012
Contributor: Highmaintenancegirl916 Highmaintenancegirl916
its some what important 2 him and extremely important for me.
01/26/2012
Contributor: AJvil AJvil
Quote:
Originally posted by Mrs.Giggity
On a scale of 1-10. 10 being VERY IMPORTANT.

I recently asked my husband this and he said a 6! I was a little upset by this, I thought his answer would have been higher but I am the nympho in our marriage. For me it's a 10.
DOn't have to have it constantly but it's gotta be there.
01/26/2012
Contributor: AHubbyof2SexualMinds AHubbyof2SexualMinds
It's very important in our relationship. We don't do it all of the time, but the desire and the feeling is important for both of us.
01/26/2012
Contributor: Entropy Entropy
It's very important...not the sex itself, but the intimacy that we glean from it.
01/26/2012
Contributor: Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama
We've been married over 31 years now. There have been times when we've gone weeks without it and other times where we've had it three or four times per week.

A lot of it depended upon our schedule, energy level with having kids, and life circumstances around us.

We probably average about 3 times a week now and find that is good for us - some weeks it might be daily or 5 times a week and other times it might be twice a week. It just depends.

Sex is great and fun but it is only the frosting on our cake - the rest of our marriage is the cake itself - and that is the more important part.
01/26/2012
Contributor: fabidefabi fabidefabi
Intimacy and human contact is extremely important for a healthy relationship
01/26/2012
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
It's one of the things that holds us together. Our relationship has always been very physical. I'd say it's a 10 in our relationship. We have sex very frequently, on average once a day, sometimes more, sometimes we skip a day.

It's what works for us. We've been together for decades, so it isn't "wearing off" or because we are new to each other.
01/26/2012
Contributor: Beck Beck
We find it extremely important and like P"Gell we average once a day or more, but may skip a day. We both are very physical with each other and that is how we like it.
01/26/2012
Contributor: Kitka Kitka
It's very important in our relationship but we only usually have time for it on the weekends. Occasionally we'll get some spontaneous fun in during the week which is always fun.
01/26/2012
Contributor: js250 js250
Sex is very important to both of us and is probably what drives us to keep our closeness and bond. We have had a lot of issues with other areas of our lives, but sex has been the one thing that has always been a close, bonding and fulfilling part of our daily lives.
01/26/2012
Contributor: samanthalynn samanthalynn
its very important
01/26/2012
Contributor: Coralbell Coralbell
It's very important to me. I'd probably give it an 8/10. There are other things that are more important, but it's still close to the top of the list. Sex really helps me to feel connected to him.
01/26/2012
Contributor: ninja250 ninja250
It's very important, but there are other more important things.
01/26/2012
Contributor: BlackxxxRose BlackxxxRose
For me it's an 8 or a 9 and for my partner it's about a 4 or 5. Lol..
01/26/2012
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
If the person is capable of sex, then it's very important.
01/26/2012
Contributor: sweetiejo sweetiejo
It's only about a 7 to me not way exteme but still a bit of a deal to me
01/26/2012
Contributor: dhig dhig
somewhere between somewhat and very
01/26/2012
Contributor: ThoughtsAblaze ThoughtsAblaze
I voted for "somewhat," but because I'm in a long-distance relationship, I wonder if that vote could change when we're closer. No trip goes by without sex on day one, but it isn't necessarily a requirement. I would say, though, that intimacy is extremely important. When we're apart, the thing I miss most is just being physically close: sitting beside each other, feet touching in the bed at night, holding hands, etc.
01/26/2012
Contributor: (k)InkyIvy (k)InkyIvy
We both like sex, but it's not highly important in our relationship. I have a higher sex drive, but I have no problem taking care of myself if he's not in the mood. It's not one of those things that we have to do all the time to feel satisfied in our relationship.
01/26/2012
Contributor: Modern^Spank^Anthem Modern^Spank^Anthem
somewaht
01/26/2012
Contributor: married with children married with children
its very important, but so is the communication.
01/27/2012
Contributor: Angewin Angewin
It's kinda important...I love my boyfriend no matter what, but sex helps keep us close...without it we're SO CRABBY.
01/27/2012
Contributor: oldman oldman
This is so subjective--what someone refers to as "very" may be the same as what another couple refers to as "somewhat", so it is difficult to compare.
01/28/2012
Contributor: Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
If 10 is VERY IMPORTANT then what is "Extremely"? 11?
01/28/2012
Contributor: shySEXXaddict shySEXXaddict
Quote:
Originally posted by Mrs.Giggity
On a scale of 1-10. 10 being VERY IMPORTANT.

I recently asked my husband this and he said a 6! I was a little upset by this, I thought his answer would have been higher but I am the nympho in our marriage. For me it's a 10.
sex is very important to me..i have an extremely high sex drive.definite sex addict and when in a relationship i want it alot.i feel it brings you closer to the other person and without sex its a friendship.
01/29/2012
Contributor: ellejay ellejay
Somewhat. It's a big part of our relationship, but it isn't everything.
01/29/2012
Contributor: 131231e43 131231e43
Well, it depends on what an individual calls sex. If we mean, "he sticks his penis in my vag", well that's not really important to me right now, considering that I'm waiting for marriage so it'll be a while before we even get to that.

However, I do need someone with the same sexual proclivities as me and who is interests compatible. That part I cannot budge on. I need someone who likes BDSM, D/s, and is a service-oriented submissive.
01/29/2012
Contributor: Kissy Kissy
Sex is important on so many different levels. As much as it sucks sometimes, it is better other times and keeps us close!
01/29/2012