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Would you tell your adult children about this site?

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Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Our daughter is getting married next year. We have always had a VERY open dialog about sex and everything else, which is great. When I found a bottle of "cheap" lube in her dorm room, after her Fiance had visited from out of state, I almost said something, but just could not.

Do you think it is appropriate for a parent to tell an adult offspring about a site like EdenFantasys, without being asked about "sex toys" or any such thing?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
Yes, tell them.
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No, not appropriate
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Only if asked.
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4
Total votes: 79 (74 voters)
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Contributor: MaryExy MaryExy
I think I'd be a bit weirded out if my parents told me about Eden I also can't think of a way to lead into that conversation, and I think I'd be even more creeped out about that coming out of the blue. Maybe putting a gift card in her next birthday present? It would be a bit awkward if she joined the community, though, wouldn't it?
07/26/2011
Contributor: Linga Linga
My entire family knows that I'm active on Eden, the ones old enough anyway. I don't feel embarrassed about any of it and would happily tell my adult children about EF (if I had some) I would even suggest the buy some things and use my affiliate code
07/26/2011
Contributor: NuclearTeapot NuclearTeapot
My mom had toys that I knew about in my teen years. And she was always very candid about lube, condoms and toys. Besides, while sometimes she was a bit too open, I found the fact that my mom was so laid back and informative about sex great since all my other friend's parents were so "OMG, SEX IT BAD".

So if my mom had told me about this site and I read some post about her life, I really would not care. I am fine with the idea that my parents have sex.
07/26/2011
Contributor: playtimeohsofun playtimeohsofun
why wouldnt i
07/26/2011
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
I don't have children, and I will never have children so it's a non-issue for me. I once asked my sister what she thought about me reviewing toys and her response was "why would you tell me that? why would you tell anyone that?".

I was so shocked I haven't told a single soul I know IRL except for my best friend and husband about this site. I'll be more than happy to pimp it to strangers, though!
07/26/2011
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I would not tell my daughter - but I might suggest that my wife do it. As for my son, If he seemed to need help, I might find a way to make him aware of EF without suggesting it.
07/26/2011
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
Quote:
Originally posted by Gunsmoke
I would not tell my daughter - but I might suggest that my wife do it. As for my son, If he seemed to need help, I might find a way to make him aware of EF without suggesting it.
Order an affliate flyer booklet and leave a couple lying around!

I drop them off in bar bathrooms!
07/26/2011
Contributor: kjkitty kjkitty
I'm not sure how I would feel if my mom told me. She's always been pretty open with me and on the one hand it grosses me out and makes me blush, but on the other hand it is good information. Plus, this is an AMAZING site I wouldn't want to pass up for any reason.

I know it is a very different situation, but I have told my younger sister about this site. She turns 18 in December and when she does I will be helping her set up her own account, get started in the review program, and probably buy her her first toy for her birthday. But again, that is a very different situation as we are sisters, best friends, and only 17 months apart in age.
07/26/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
The way I feel, this is MY place. I say things here that I simply wouldn't say to my children. My Man and I are open about sexual things, but details of OUR personal sex life are not something we share with our children. I think that is crossing a boundary I wouldn't feel comfortable crossing and I KNOW my kids wouldn't want to read some of the stuff I post here, (really, they still say "EWWWWW!" when My Man and I kiss in front of them, I don't think discussions of our sex life is something they want to hear about.)

There are a lot of web sites out there. For us, this is not a place we want our kids.

Think about it, would you want the details of the lube your parents use and what they use it for, what dildo your mom adores and why, or the specifics of what kinds of anal sex techniques your parents use, and how often? If not, probably your kids don't want to hear these things about you.

Your mileage may vary, as usual.
07/26/2011
Contributor: KinkyDesire KinkyDesire
It really depends on the context in how they were raised. If they were raised with an open dialogue between the children and parent, then it wouldn't be so much inappropriate. I would talk to them about the site and other sites of the sort but not directly give them links and toy suggestions (unless they asked). Even if they weren't raised with an open dialogue, I would want my kids to have a healthy relationship with sex, themselves, partners, etc. and a healthy sexual appetite. Of course, I wouldn't just blurt it out in front of them but kind of nonchalantly direct them by dropping hints, suggestive lines, etc. Just so long as they don't get into details about what I/they have or what I/they want from the site
07/26/2011
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by MaryExy
I think I'd be a bit weirded out if my parents told me about Eden I also can't think of a way to lead into that conversation, and I think I'd be even more creeped out about that coming out of the blue. Maybe putting a gift card in her ... more
No one uses real names, so who would know? She may be here now??? She is very ONLINE and it is indeed possible.
07/26/2011
Contributor: ThoughtsAblaze ThoughtsAblaze
I would probably initially weirded out (my parents never ever talk about sex, though). BUT I would be thankful later for the information my parents had passed to me.
07/26/2011
Contributor: MaryExy MaryExy
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
No one uses real names, so who would know? She may be here now??? She is very ONLINE and it is indeed possible.
If she read through posts, she might pick up on it based on any mention of what profession you have, what kind of friends (and how close they are), what kind of living space you have, what your opinions are on certain topics, etc. And if you use the same typing mannerisms in emails and such to her, that might also tip her off. Since she would know you like the site enough to give her a gift card for it, I think she'd at least be 10x more suspicious of any similarities between a poster and the real you. If she's already on here, she doesn't know you are, so little signs would probably go overlooked.
07/26/2011
Contributor: Alan & Michele Alan & Michele
Our adult son knows about the site, and he and his gf shop here. Back when we first started reviewing he made some joke about all the packages we kept getting, so his dad told him what we were doing (reviewing). He thought it was "cool" and later started exploring the site himself, which led to him asking questions about which products were safe and what might be good for ___(fill in the blank)___. I don't think either Alan & I would have just jumped up out of the blue and started telling him about the site for no reason though. Not because we didn't want him to know, but because he hadn't expressed any interest in adult toys to us before then.
07/27/2011
Contributor: v23 v23
Tell her. She'll thank you for it. =]
07/27/2011
Contributor: sarki sarki
Yes I would if my family didn't already know
07/27/2011
Contributor: LostBoy988 LostBoy988
If they are grown up, they have no reason not to be told of places that can provide them incredible service, information, and products.
07/28/2011
Contributor: Ryuson Ryuson
(Review Program Mentor)
I feel like I wouldn't DISLIKE it, but I'd NEVER want to know her username!
07/28/2011
Contributor: Lucky21 Lucky21
I'd tell them. I wouldn't let them know my username, but I'd tell them.
07/28/2011
Contributor: PiratePrincess PiratePrincess
I would recommend they check it out if it came up in conversation
07/29/2011
Contributor: Breas Breas
Heh, it's funny you ask because my mom is the one who introduced me : ) Me and her have a good relationship though, she's my best friend so its not "weird" in any way for either of us to talk about this sort of thing.
09/10/2011
Contributor: Eva Schwaltz Eva Schwaltz
Yeah I would probably get her something to share with her partner like a massage candle and tell her about this site.
09/10/2011
Contributor: FaerieLove FaerieLove
...I don't understand why sex is such a taboo thing to discuss between parent and offspring. It's how you made your child, it's the natural cycle of life. She's old enough that she will probably greatly appreciate knowledge of this site and what it has to offer.
09/10/2011
Contributor: ChaosBunny ChaosBunny
If you guys are open about it then yes, in fact, I'm the one who told my mom about this site. XD
09/10/2011
Contributor: cheetahpita cheetahpita
I don't think there's anything wrong with talking to your (older) children about this site at all - I bet she would appreciate it!
09/10/2011
Contributor: Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
if i had an adult child, I probably would. sex doesn't need to be a taboo in our society. If they needed any kind of references or suggestions, I wouldn't mind telling them. I already suggest sex stuff to the other adults in my life, so I don't feel like it would be a big deal.
09/23/2011
Contributor: Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
uh, sorry about the second post
09/23/2011
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
Sure, hell my son's not a minor now so whey not?
09/23/2011
Contributor: null null
I've thought about telling my mother, but I'm afraid she'd try to track me down on here and find out too much about me. I'd have the same reservations with a child.
10/02/2011