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Contributor: Dangerous Lilly Dangerous Lilly
You see though to ME there's a big difference in those ratings. Meaning...a 5 is whats a sure-fire "get me off" vibe. a 44? mmmm maybe, and it'll take a little longer. a 3? nope, won't get me off.

Let's take the Lelo Mia.

IMO it's about a 3, but because it's a higher frequency buzz, to my clit it's in betweeen a 2 and a 3.
If you look at the reviews for the Mia, Vroom ratings go anywhere from 2-4. I'd be mighty damn disappointed if I bought that vibe believing the people who claimed it to be a 4.

But if I could look at their profile and see that oh.....the person who said it was a 2 is more like me and hmmm a couple of those who rated it a 4 have fairly sensitive clits and seem to get off considerably easier than I do. I'll trust the opinion of the one who rated it a 2.

It's really as simple as that.
06/24/2009
Contributor: Raven Raven
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Originally posted by Epiphora
I agree with this. Also, I think my sensitivity has changed over time. I've noticed I can handle more vibration now than I used to be able to.
I'm glad to hear someone else say that. I thought I was just weird, because I can take much more vibration than I used to. I used to be SUPER sensitive, but now it's just right, for me.

Dangerous Lily, this is a great topic.
06/24/2009
Contributor: Miss Cinnamon Miss Cinnamon
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Originally posted by Adriana Ravenlust
Just in case anyone does not know what I'm talking about - this is what you see when hovering over Vroom choices. I think it's easy to objectively pick which is best suited by following these. Vroom has nothing to do with personal preferences ... more
The prompts strive to be objective, but fall a little short. Someone's "moderate vibration" may be someone else's "very mild", and yet another's "this car's outta control!" The prompts are actually quite subjective, as we have different levels of sensitivity.

What would be ideal would be something like a Richter scale. In a perfect world, every reviewer would get their own little seismometer and rank the vibrations according to that. Of course, this isn't practical, but it's nice to dream
06/24/2009
Contributor: Adriana Ravenlust Adriana Ravenlust
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Originally posted by Dangerous Lilly
I just don't see how it's possible to be completely objective.

It's based on opinion and perception and precedence.
Well, whenever I am reviewing, I always take into consideration that I like stronger vibrations than most of the world. It's really not been an issue for me, especially because I spend so much time reading reviews.
06/24/2009
Contributor: Adriana Ravenlust Adriana Ravenlust
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Originally posted by Miss Cinnamon
The prompts strive to be objective, but fall a little short. Someone's "moderate vibration" may be someone else's "very mild", and yet another's "this car's outta control!" The prompts are actually quite ... more
I don't consider whether it's moderate to me but the world in general. I guess I'm alone in that.
06/24/2009
Contributor: Luscious Lily Luscious Lily
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Originally posted by Adriana Ravenlust
I don't consider whether it's moderate to me but the world in general. I guess I'm alone in that.
Nope. While I don't always succeed, I try to rate the power according to the world in general.

I have one big issue about this whole idea, though. If people can't be objective about how strong something is, then how can they be objective about how sensitive they are? I thought I had a clit-o-steel until I started comparing my observations on toys with reviews of the same toys, and discovered that at the time I had a rather sensitive one (this is changing with time). Basically, this would be just as subject to perception and previous experience as power ratings.
06/24/2009
Contributor: Sammi Sammi
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Originally posted by Luscious Lily
Nope. While I don't always succeed, I try to rate the power according to the world in general.

I have one big issue about this whole idea, though. If people can't be objective about how strong something is, then how can they be ... more
That is really tricky to do. If I think something's not so strong, how can I tell how strong it will be for someone else? I think there's always some subjectivity there. Sometimes you rate the item in comparison to other toys you have in the same category, but that's not very accurate.
06/24/2009
Contributor: Luscious Lily Luscious Lily
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Originally posted by Sammi
That is really tricky to do. If I think something's not so strong, how can I tell how strong it will be for someone else? I think there's always some subjectivity there. Sometimes you rate the item in comparison to other toys you have in ... more
And this is why I am so endlessly thankful for the community we have here at EF. We often end up with more than one viewpoint, which gives us a better idea overall of the toy.
06/24/2009
Contributor: Victoria Victoria
I think the solution is to mention how sensitive you are in your reviews, when it applies - and to use the Vroom and Bee ratings properly (as pointed out here in this thread several times already).

If you say "It takes a lot to get me off and I need strong, direct stimulation - and this toy really did the trick" and you rated it 5 Vrooms, then everyone would know it's a very powerful toy. Conversely if you say, "I am very sensitive to vibration and this was too powerful for me to use directly on my clit" and you rated it 5 Vrooms, then some may understand that it could be very powerful but may only be moderately powerful.
06/24/2009
Contributor: Nashville Nashville
One thing too.. a little off the beaten path... is that if people don't use new batteries, the toy may act differently on the power scale. It might not perform up to its usual par and someone will rate it 2 vrooms after only used it once when it really should have been a 4.
06/24/2009
Contributor: Luscious Lily Luscious Lily
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Originally posted by Nashville
One thing too.. a little off the beaten path... is that if people don't use new batteries, the toy may act differently on the power scale. It might not perform up to its usual par and someone will rate it 2 vrooms after only used it once when it ... more
Also, different rechargeable batteries perform differently from alkaline (usually weaker than disposables), but they also vary from rechargeable to rechargeable, as I recently found out. So specifying what batteries were used can be important.
06/24/2009