I definitely don't think it has to mean anything--I agree with Holly: use your instincts and don't make assumptions. Many people live with people of the opposite sex with no issues at all! Now, if you were dating her and she decided WHILE dating you that she wanted to move in with a bunch of guys (or he/women), THEN I'd be concerned... But honestly, how that person interacted with the opposite sex prior to meeting me isn't a huge priority.
Thoughts about a person of interest (male or female) living with a roommate of the opposite sex.
10/10/2012
Had I have posted here nine months ago on this topic I would have been super uneasy! Especially if the roomate was someone that my person of interest had a history with. But in the length of my relationship I have developed an insane amount of trust for my guy. I know that he would call me before he ever crossed a line, and that would mean I should be extra sexy when he got home that night.
10/10/2012
Depends on him. If he's given me a reason to not trust him, no I don't like it. But if I trust him and her, I don't care.
10/10/2012
That'd be different, but I'd ask her how that all worked out. Could be a lot of reasons why, and if she's not sharing a room, whatever
10/11/2012
WOW I can't believe the amount of people that it makes uneasy, seriously!??!? I've known TONS of people, straight and gay, living with people of the sex that they're attracted to with no issues whatsoever. No way would I mind or even think anything of it.
I'm attracted to men, and I've always lived with multiple men, and straight women, there has never been any sort of issue with that, and I've lived with A LOT. A LOT of different people within just a few years.
I'm attracted to men, and I've always lived with multiple men, and straight women, there has never been any sort of issue with that, and I've lived with A LOT. A LOT of different people within just a few years.
10/11/2012
This has happened to me before. It is a little odd at first, but after a while you realize that it really doesn't matter. Sometime you feel uneasy, but for the most part, you feel pretty comfortable.
10/11/2012
Doesn't matter at all. Humans are completely capable of being close to people of the gender(s) that they are attracted to without sex or sexual tension.
10/16/2012
"Know Thyself"
No offence, but even bringing this topic to the forum indicates that you are not self assured enough to handle that situation. Maybe you can work on it though. Just remember that becoming a control freak is not attractive and may drive that love interest away from you.
No offence, but even bringing this topic to the forum indicates that you are not self assured enough to handle that situation. Maybe you can work on it though. Just remember that becoming a control freak is not attractive and may drive that love interest away from you.
01/27/2013
I'd be okay with it if they were already living with that someone before we met, not sure I'd be comfortable with us already dating and then having them move in with someone of the opposite sex, but I'm not sure...it would depend on who it was, I guess. If it was someone we knew well and were good friends with, I'd probably be just fine with it.
01/27/2013
Doesnt matter at all
02/03/2013
I know plenty of people who live with people of the opposite sex and I don't see it as a big deal.
02/05/2013
I don't have a problem. They're just roommates. I have experienced this situation several times during my college years.
02/12/2013
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agreed.
Originally posted by
Shellz31
I think I'd feel a little uncomfortable, but I'd just assess the situation when there and see how they all interact with each other.
02/12/2013
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Best thing is not to jump to any conclusions...Should not be a big deal.
Originally posted by
Humor4Fun
Lets say I'm looking to date a girl, and she invites me to her place for a party only for me to find that she lives with two guys.
02/12/2013
Whatever. She's going to live with who she's going to live with. She was living with them before you came around, sooo... she may not move out just because you want her to? Not sure what the intent of the original post was, like if you're saying you're jealous your crush lives with two guys, cuz that's what I was getting from it
02/18/2013
I had a male roommate when I was dating my husband. I think it's no big deal. We lead separate lives and there was definitely no interest in being together.
02/21/2013
I've had several male roommates over the last couple of years and never slept with one of them. Just find men easier to deal with in a shared space. Don't jump to any conclusions solely based on them being guys.
02/26/2013
I wouldn't care... Unless they were really obviously her type and she acted really overly comfortable with them.
02/26/2013
Would make me a bit uneasy
03/04/2013
There's nothing wrong with this and it's pretty normal in large cities. You could be missing out on a nice person.
03/04/2013
my (male) S.O. lived with my (female) best friend for years! Actually it was a great setup, I loved spending so much time with them both. It helps that I really trusted them both...they had a weird sibling like relationship and both always say they would just never go there.
I do feel you on the meeting someone new in this situation though, that would need to be talked about.
I do feel you on the meeting someone new in this situation though, that would need to be talked about.
03/04/2013
I've had two male roommates who were friends. No biggy.
03/04/2013
totally normal to live with the opposite gender
03/04/2013
Doesn't matter to me one bit. At one time my ex-girlfriend, my ex-boyfriend, and my current boyfriend (now my husband) were all roommates. It was weird, but it worked.
03/05/2013
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