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Contributor: Tart Tart
Do you give it up on the first date?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
Yes, gettin' it on is totally natural!
Trashley , ablawn , A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) , Mr.RightNow , extrafun , RonLee
6
Sometimes, it depends on the person.
Tart , Kim! , Sir , Danielle1220 , TitsMcScandal , Alicia , Jobthingy , Trashley , Kindred , sextoygeek , the bedroom blogger , Fishie Princess , UnknownGirl , A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) , ninaspinkturtle , LavenderSkies , Mistress Sophie , indiglo , Angel deSanguine , Emma (Girl With Fire) , sweet seduction , Crystal1 , NaturalWoman , zeebot , Purpleladybug , BadassFatass , sexyintexas , kinky dude , hjtee , Purpleducklings , link82 , SoBlue , Ajax , Woman China , Lady Marmelade , MaryExy , CarmenGore262 , Redheadinfla , Ratito , Reyes , Kdlips , teeny <3 , RonLee , Katelyn , SaucyxGirl , 1001 Pleasures , doowop , butts , SydneyScreams
49
No, sex is too intimate to have with strangers.
Airen Wolf , Chilipepper , Illusional , leatherlover , ToyTimeTim , cherryredhead88 , anders , mllebeauty , JustYourAverageGuy , Waterfall , Bunnycups , Dusk , Yoda , StrawberryEve , ToyGeek , Kimbertrees , thatonegirl , Taylor , darthkitt3n , SexyTabby , jdloelo , Envy , Sapphire Pet , kinky girlfriend , Sera , alistair , lemony , NawlinsDawlin , mrsmccormick627 , BluePixi , The Giveaway Diva , *HisMrs* , markeagleone , pinkcupcakes , Ladyt1003 , married with children , REDRUM , girl next door , C4ss , Shellz31 , IdyllWyld , cburger , UrNaughtyaAngel , ellejay , tickle me pink , tigerkate , liilii080 , Sweet-Justice , Alexiaure , sexygoddess , K101 , kittychilla , Jackol , butterflygirlxo , mariedoll , PurpleCat23 , DixieDoo , shoutitout87 , laflauta , BlooJay , Badass , legna , pasdechat , bettle590 , potstickers , glasskitten , zaftigzoo , LoganAshlee. , MissCandyland , Cosmonaut
70
Other
Pleasure Piratess , Blinker , Lady Venus , GeekWife , StrawberryEve , ~LaUr3n~ , onehotmomma , Michelle Menace , Curves , CoffeeCup , deadpoet , frisky069
12
Total votes: 137 (133 voters)
Poll is closed
10/24/2010
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Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
Quote:
Originally posted by Tart
Do you give it up on the first date?
Seems odd for me to say that but I am not into casual stranger sex.
10/24/2010
Contributor: Pleasure Piratess Pleasure Piratess
Quote:
Originally posted by Airen Wolf
Seems odd for me to say that but I am not into casual stranger sex.
That doesn't seem odd at all. Everyone has boundries

I might consider a one-night stand, but if it was someone I really liked and thought a relationship might be possible, then no.
10/24/2010
Contributor: Blinker Blinker
I used to get it on all the time with everybody. Why deny what we both want? But now I has boyfriend and he's all the penis I want or need
10/24/2010
Contributor: Kim! Kim!
I've only gone on a first date with someone I didn't really know before twice in my life, the others have been people I've known for awhile and liked for awhile and there was a build-up of flirting so if it happened, it happened. The two people I didn't know I didn't sleep with on the first date.
10/24/2010
Contributor: Sir Sir
I had sex with my girl the first night that I met her. No, I haven't done this with everyone, but with her I did.
10/24/2010
Contributor: Danielle1220 Danielle1220
I had sex with my husband the first time I met him. I had never done that before until him. Something just felt right about him.
10/24/2010
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
God knows where he's been and what he's been into. Best not to chance it.
10/24/2010
Contributor: Alicia Alicia
Well, it's been QUITE a while, since I've been married for 7 years and with my husband for 9...but back in the day there were a few times that I did, though most often I did not.
10/24/2010
Contributor: cherryredhead88 cherryredhead88
Quote:
Originally posted by Tart
Do you give it up on the first date?
I am very picky. I need to get to know someone good first, there has to be something there. That is why I cannot find a FWB for the life of me- I am not into sleeping with random people! Lol
10/24/2010
Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
Nope never had the opportunity, don't think I would anyway. I would need to know that she could handle my likes in bed, and make sure she would enjoy them too.

Plus after 20 years with the wife, I would be so nervous and scared to ask or suggest it.
10/24/2010
Contributor: GeekWife GeekWife
Considering my last "first date" I was still a virgin, I never had the chance. But likely unless I was dating someone with whom I was friends first, probably wouldn't have anyway.
10/24/2010
Contributor: Jobthingy Jobthingy
I have in the past.
10/24/2010
Contributor: mllebeauty mllebeauty
I have a number of one night stands littering my past but nowadays it's something I wouldn't do. My boundaries and outlook toward sex have changed.
10/24/2010
Contributor: Bunnycups Bunnycups
Quote:
Originally posted by mllebeauty
I have a number of one night stands littering my past but nowadays it's something I wouldn't do. My boundaries and outlook toward sex have changed.
It's so wonderful to learn and grow in life. My boundaries and outlook toward sex have changed as well. Here's to life lessons and being wiser for them.
10/24/2010
Contributor: StrawberryEve StrawberryEve
I'm not the type to have 1 night stands with people I've never met before, but I do have a habit for going out with or dating people I've been friends with and have been getting to know for years at a time. It really depends on the right levels of familiarity and intimacy that I've developed over years.
10/25/2010
Contributor: Trashley Trashley
typically yes, but in the past six months, after a little wake up after a trip to cancun with friends, i've been holding off haha
10/25/2010
Contributor: Tart Tart
Quote:
Originally posted by Trashley
typically yes, but in the past six months, after a little wake up after a trip to cancun with friends, i've been holding off haha
I hear ya. Actually every time I even think about having sex I get my rag. Is that a sign? LOL
10/25/2010
Contributor: ablawn ablawn
Quote:
Originally posted by Tart
Do you give it up on the first date?
i would do the sex
11/09/2010
Contributor: ablawn ablawn
Quote:
Originally posted by Tart
I hear ya. Actually every time I even think about having sex I get my rag. Is that a sign? LOL
your in heat
11/09/2010
Contributor: ablawn ablawn
Quote:
Originally posted by Tart
I hear ya. Actually every time I even think about having sex I get my rag. Is that a sign? LOL
your srawberry looks good
11/09/2010
Contributor: Kimbertrees Kimbertrees
I've never given it up to a guy on the first date unless he was a friend that I've known for a really long time.
11/11/2010
Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
From my track record no. With my current boyfriend I made him wait 2 months and the ex before that was a month. That was mostly his choice though. He wanted to take it slow which I respected, but he was the one who gave in and wanted it at which point I was dying after a month lol.

I have never had sex on the first date, but I have had a few one night stands that were not dates (like friends), but the last one was at least 3 years ago.
11/11/2010
Contributor: darthkitt3n darthkitt3n
I have never slept with someone on the first date. My current boyfriend, who I was friends with for a few months before we started dating, was too shy to even kiss me after our first date, which only half matters, since I wouldn't want to sleep with someone I don't know if I really like yet.
11/13/2010
Contributor: onehotmomma onehotmomma
I'm in the one night stand category. I guess that's what happens when you're young and live with guys. Obviously they were friends, I have never slept with a stranger or someone I barely knew, but I've had my fun with friends.
11/13/2010
Contributor: Envy Envy
Never on a first date. How can i be sure they're not some weirdo or dangerous?
11/13/2010
Contributor: Sapphire Pet Sapphire Pet
I will admit I have had one night stands but as for an actual date... not the first date. I have to have some sort of connection... plus I'm a little bit shy.
11/13/2010
Contributor: Sera Sera
Quote:
Originally posted by Tart
Do you give it up on the first date?
Definitely not! I have more morals than that, no offense.
11/14/2010
Contributor: UnknownGirl UnknownGirl
Well, you don't want to give it up too soon. You want them to sweat it out for a bit. Blow jobs are a nice end to a first date.
11/28/2010
Contributor: Lady Venus Lady Venus
I have years ago. If I were to turn up single again, I probably wouldn't nowadays.
11/28/2010