I'm curious how many people here have considered it. I have not, but I hear it works for some couples.
Would you consider having an "open marriage"?
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For me, I would not consider it.
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It wouldn't be for me personally.
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Depends.
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Yeah, it would really depend on so many different things.
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I bet that it's great for some people but I couldn't do it, I'd be super jealous.
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This would not work out well for us, so nope.
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I would as long as the terms were agreeable.
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No.
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That is funny. We were just discussing this last night! We have agreed that couples that can make it work are amazing, but we are just too possessive of each other to make it work. I want to be the one to give him all of his pleasure and I only want him to give me mine. I was engaged to another man before I met my husband and he had asked me if I would be willing "to be shared" with his best friend. It really hurt me to know that I was just seen as something to be shared rather than something that was cherished. Glad I found a man that cherishes me.
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No, I get jealous too easily.
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Heck no. I'm a non-sharing, jealous person.
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No way! Thats not for me at all.
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No I am too jealous.
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Probably not
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No, we cannot handle that type of relationship.
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That is definitely something that I feel strongly against.
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No way.
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If you wanna fuck someone else, don't get married.
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No for me.
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Not just no but HELL NO! Any female who would even try to start sniffing around my husband would get her ass handed to her. I did the other female thing and the other female wasn't allowed to touch my man. I firmly say what Wendy Testiburger says," Leave my man alone B**ch or I'll whip your sorry *ss back to yesterday!" Ha ha ha Good Luck with that
Originally posted by
RebelRebelJen
I'm curious how many people here have considered it. I have not, but I hear it works for some couples.
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I'm not sure, at this point. I never considered it in the past, but now I'm sort of dating two young men. The one I feel more romantic towards likes the idea of me being with other men. I think I could maybe, possibly work with it, if the love was exclusive.
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I don't think it's that simple. Marriage isn't just about sex, after all. Some couples love each other and want to be together as companions, but sometimes the dynamics of the relationship changes over time. What if there is a huge rift between one partner with a low libido, and another with a high libido? What if due to a disability, one partner isn't accessible sexually anymore? What if your sexual interests change over time, and your partner is not into it? Should you just feel frustrated and resentful? Maybe eventually have an affair to have your needs met?
Originally posted by
skeeterlynn
If you wanna fuck someone else, don't get married.
I don't see what is wrong with two people agreeing to have an open marriage. As long as all parties involved are aware of what's going on, the terms have been discussed and agreed upon, and there's open communication and empathy between the couple if the terms ever become disagreeable, then who is it hurting? It won't work for everyone, but for some people, it does. Sometimes it saves marriages.
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nope I don't think I could handle that
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No, I couldn't and wouldn't I am a one man woman an I don't share!
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This question was asked in the polyamory forum as well I am currently in two long term, committed, relationships. I am married to Sigel and we have a life partner, Arch.
Originally posted by
RebelRebelJen
I'm curious how many people here have considered it. I have not, but I hear it works for some couples.
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Sigel had the same desire way back when and didn't explain himself well. I felt like he was wanting to pass me around for some nefarious purpose. In reality he just wanted to be able to watch me being pleasured because it was something he'd always wanted to see. After 25 years I KNOW he cherishes me...he wanted to show me how beautiful I was to him. I am so beautiful he wants to sit back and just watch me at play...
Originally posted by
Sirena
That is funny. We were just discussing this last night! We have agreed that couples that can make it work are amazing, but we are just too possessive of each other to make it work. I want to be the one to give him all of his pleasure and I only want
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That is funny. We were just discussing this last night! We have agreed that couples that can make it work are amazing, but we are just too possessive of each other to make it work. I want to be the one to give him all of his pleasure and I only want him to give me mine. I was engaged to another man before I met my husband and he had asked me if I would be willing "to be shared" with his best friend. It really hurt me to know that I was just seen as something to be shared rather than something that was cherished. Glad I found a man that cherishes me.
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...and if you are married and want to fuck someone else make your own decisions and do what brings you pleasure as a couple!
Originally posted by
skeeterlynn
If you wanna fuck someone else, don't get married.
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To each his/her own...however, my opinion is HELL NO! I f you can make it work more power to ya but whats mine is mine and there is no way anyone is touching what belongs to me, and I will not be shared either. IT AIN'T GONNA HAPPEN....!!If that is your thing do what you gotta do..
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Just to clarify my statement since so many replied, that's how I myself feel. I don't care if others do it and I'm not talking them down. Just I myself, if I'm marrying it's because I want him and only him.
Originally posted by
skeeterlynn
If you wanna fuck someone else, don't get married.
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