My Man and I had an Open Relationship for several years before we were married, after being monogamous. I was in College and he's older than I am and was more experience. I had little experience with men, and we both felt it was necessary for both of us to sow our wild oats and get it out of our systems before furthering the relationship. It was the best thing we could have done.

We've talked about opening the relationship again, but only with an other couple, and only when we are together. No dating outside the relationship in any way.

However, even though I'm capable of being polyamouraous, I don't think he is. He has a fantasy of two women (which hetero guy doesn't?) but I know, after talking to him, he has NOT thought through all the problem that this could incur. Pregnancy prevention, disease prevention, unwanted drama, one of us falling in LOVE with someone else! He just thinks we could have "fun" with an other couple once in a while and carry on as normal. I don't think it would be possible for us to do so.

So, no. I don't honestly want an Open Relationship right now. Many people experimented with it in the 1970s and for most it was a dismal failure. (Nearly all who experimented ended up in divorce, usually because one or both members of the couple fell in love with someone they were having sex with and couldn't figure out a way to love two people. Not to mention the resentment when one member of the couple had many more sexual partners than the other. Those were the main reason '70s style Open Marriages failed.) Some people do well in a situation like this, I think these people have sorted out the issues, talked about them and have a form of maturity that many do not possess. I think only a small minority of people can safely engage in Open Relationship, and those people are successful. But, I think most people would be not only disappointed (say your husband has a date every Saturday night and you haven't been asked out in months?) and most don't have what it takes to handle the intricacies. A few do and I give them Kudos. But, I think the couple who is successful with Open Marriage are few and far between.

There are a few people on this website who are engaged in Open Relationships are are doing well. I wish them only luck. Some people know how to handle these situations.

No.

Its something I plan on doing. I find that for a lot of people, its not the actual act of sleeping with someone else that they like. Its the idea of not being totally confined to one person sexually for the next 60 odd years.

We are happy so why would u need to.