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Would you be mad or upset if your wife went out without her wedding ring?

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Contributor: Tuesday Tuesday
My husband has never taken his wedding ring off in 25 years of marriage, so if he decided to remove it, then go out somewhere, I would definitely be upset.

I've taken my ring off only a couple of times - during my hysterectomy, to have it fixed after I broke it gardening, to have it fixed after closing a door on my hand, to have it fixed after a prong bent out (can't remember how). I'm hard on jewelry it seems.
04/03/2011
Contributor: Mrs.B Mrs.B
I hardly ever wear my wedding rings, only because the diamond on my engagement ring is a square diamond and it's sharp. I've scratched myself, my husband and our kids with it. So I rarely wear it out unless we are out for date night. I think as long as you are secure in your marriage it shouldn't be a big deal.
04/05/2011
Contributor: Joie de Cherresse Joie de Cherresse
My husband would be furious! He forgets his all the time, so I'm used to it. But if I forgot mine, I'd be in trouble, lol. I never take mine off.
04/06/2011
Contributor: MaryExy MaryExy
Theoretically:

For practical reasons I would not care, and my guy is understanding of such situations. He'd be mad as hell if I did anything of that sort without a good reason, though. And I'd probably be at least irritated if I was married to someone who never wore their ring, even when it was practical to wear it.
04/06/2011
Contributor: Spilock Spilock
I wouldn't be mad, simply because of how often I forget mine. I work in a (greasy) fast food environment, so I never wear my ring to work. I don't desire to lose it to a deep fryer. As a result I sometimes forget to put it on immediately after getting home, but I'm usually pretty good about it. Either way though, it would be hypocritical of me to get angry at my wife over it.
04/06/2011
Contributor: Spilock Spilock
...stupid double posts.
04/06/2011
Contributor: mama2007 mama2007
my husband cant wear his at work and it swells his finger and i get mad cuz its disrespectful idc wtf his job is. other than he works as machinist sorta. i make him wear it on sundays since he works 6 days wk =[ sucks
04/08/2011
Contributor: Tuesday Tuesday
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Originally posted by mama2007
my husband cant wear his at work and it swells his finger and i get mad cuz its disrespectful idc wtf his job is. other than he works as machinist sorta. i make him wear it on sundays since he works 6 days wk =[ sucks
My brother is a machinist and he wears his ring to work. His fingers swell??
04/08/2011
Contributor: PersonalAngel PersonalAngel
if its only when he leaves the house with friends then yes I'll be mad as hell
04/08/2011
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by mama2007
my husband cant wear his at work and it swells his finger and i get mad cuz its disrespectful idc wtf his job is. other than he works as machinist sorta. i make him wear it on sundays since he works 6 days wk =[ sucks
There are some jobs that you legitimately shouldn't wear your ring to. Mechanics frequently don't wear their wedding rings because of the possibility of the ring getting caught on/in something while they're working. Not only does it damage the ring, but quite frequently the finger is more damaged than it would have been without a ring being worn. As a machinist, I would think some of the same rules would apply, and if the shop he's working at has it as a rule, they're likely just looking out for the safety of their employees.
04/08/2011
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
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Originally posted by Jul!a
There are some jobs that you legitimately shouldn't wear your ring to. Mechanics frequently don't wear their wedding rings because of the possibility of the ring getting caught on/in something while they're working. Not only does it ... more
I'm in massage therapy and they ask us not to wear rings either.
04/08/2011
Contributor: w-o-name w-o-name
I wear my ring everywhere but my husband hasnt worn his since the day after we got married. his work does not allow any type of jewelry but it doesnt bother me
04/10/2011
Contributor: MrRainybowbow MrRainybowbow
To me its just a ring really.
04/10/2011
Contributor: DancerLove DancerLove
Yes, because if you are married, you should want to let everyone know that. I don't think that there is ANY reason to take off your wedding band. You need to have it sized so it won't fall of doig anything. My husband didn't wear his for a good while and complains that it's too big, which it is, but he gave it to me to wear as a necklace ... no, that's not good either. It's his and he needs to wear it. I broke my wedding band and dont have the money for another one, so I dont wear one, but I let people know that I am married, he doesn't. I don't really know about the work situation, but even then, I think it should be worn unless it will hurt the wear of the ring. But if you take it off, I think it should be on your finger ASAP. It's a given for marriage.
04/27/2011
Contributor: bunny love bunny love
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Originally posted by Jul!a
There are some jobs that you legitimately shouldn't wear your ring to. Mechanics frequently don't wear their wedding rings because of the possibility of the ring getting caught on/in something while they're working. Not only does it ... more
Yup, this is why I would never expect my boyfriend to wear a ring if we got married. Oh, and he would probably lose it

I honestly wouldn't care if he chose not to wear a ring. Hell, I'm not even sure if I would want to wear a ring all of the time. I find them to be kind of annoying.

We know that we love each other, and we know that neither of us is going to cheat. At the end of the day, a ring is just an accessory. It's not going to make or break our relationship.
04/27/2011
Contributor: CarmenGore262 CarmenGore262
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Originally posted by BuckeyeMan
My wife ran to the store today and forgot to put on her wedding ring and a guy was flirting with her. It happens quite often to be honest. Its not a big deal to be but actually a turn on to me.
yes
04/27/2011
Contributor: bunny love bunny love
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Originally posted by mama2007
my husband cant wear his at work and it swells his finger and i get mad cuz its disrespectful idc wtf his job is. other than he works as machinist sorta. i make him wear it on sundays since he works 6 days wk =[ sucks
Wearing a ring or any other type of jewelry is legitimately dangerous during certain activities. There are a bunch of horror stories about people being seriously injured due to jewelry here link
04/27/2011
Contributor: PassionQT PassionQT
My husband and I are beyond wedding bands. We have wedding arm bands, tattooed on our arms (not the left arm on me,,maybe on him, I don't know). That's enough for us.
04/28/2011
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by bunny love
Yup, this is why I would never expect my boyfriend to wear a ring if we got married. Oh, and he would probably lose it



I honestly wouldn't care if he chose not to wear a ring. Hell, I'm not even sure if I would want to wear a ... more
Mine hated the idea of rings with previous girlfriends, but when it came time to pick out our wedding rings, he got really excited. He really does like wearing it now, but for those times where he has to take it off, he got the design from the ring (two simple black bands) tattooed on his ring finger. I went and got the same design on mine. Problem solved? lol.
04/28/2011
Contributor: Kilgorescowboy Kilgorescowboy
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Originally posted by BuckeyeMan
My wife ran to the store today and forgot to put on her wedding ring and a guy was flirting with her. It happens quite often to be honest. Its not a big deal to be but actually a turn on to me.
i dont like the idea its disrespectful
04/28/2011
Contributor: SexyTabby SexyTabby
I'm not bothered either way. I love the Hubby and I know we are faithful to one another and having a ring on or off isn't going to make any difference. That being said Hubby has gone through 4 wedding bands because of his work so now he doesn't even bother. In fact he probably doesn't even know where I have his wedding band at.

I only wear mine when we go out as a couple or if I'm in juvenile court. When we go out it's just dressing up for him though. We know we belong to each other and anyone who sees us usually knows too. When it comes time for court the ring shows stability, responsibility and trust. This works well since dealing with stressed children, strung out parents, lawyers, judges and child protective services is usually a pain in the arse.

So I mainly wear mine for reasons that have nothing to do with love and our marriage. It's more a tool then a symbol.
04/28/2011
Contributor: purplekidney purplekidney
She: The ring isn't what makes us married. When I get into the hospital and am wearing gloves all day, if I wear a ring at all it'll just be my wedding band.

He: It's all about attitude! If you're married, act married. You shouldn't be flirting with other people (if the marriage is monogamous).
04/29/2011
Contributor: Wondermom Wondermom
I haven't worn a wedding ring for 6yrs of our nearly 8yr marriage, and neither does my husband. Its just a piece of jewelery not our commitment
04/29/2011
Contributor: Diabolical Kitty Diabolical Kitty
I know who my wife loves and who she married.
04/30/2011
Contributor: Lady Marmelade Lady Marmelade
If my boyfriend went out without his collar I would be MAD AS HELL.
05/01/2011
Contributor: evelyn evelyn
05/01/2011
Contributor: neon neon
not really mad but I think if its possible to wear all the time you should. I would.
05/01/2011
Contributor: DancerLove DancerLove
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Originally posted by PassionQT
My husband and I are beyond wedding bands. We have wedding arm bands, tattooed on our arms (not the left arm on me,,maybe on him, I don't know). That's enough for us.
Aw, I love that concept!!!!! Good for you two and I wish the best!
05/02/2011
Contributor: Bonesdance Bonesdance
It's no big deal.
05/09/2011
Contributor: froggiemoma froggiemoma
when i was married i stopped wearing mine because after baby didnt fit anymore just never got it resized, guess didnt bother him
05/10/2011