No, it is not weird to finish her off using a dildo. I'm curious...do you two do a lot of foreplay? Rather than using a dildo to finish her off after you cum, how about giving her some fabulous foreplay by stimulating her G-spot with a dildo or vibrator (along with great oral), and then use your cock to finish the job and climax together? I don't know what other ladies like, but I prefer to orgasm with my husband's cock inside me instead of with a toy, as the feeling is much more intense and intimate. And you should ask your wife what her preference is, when it comes to determining the firmness of a dildo, because she's the one being pleasured by it.

thank you ladies !!

As a man who was once in your position - I offer the following:

1. With my wife there was a progression from accepting clitoral vibes - to vibes that could be used for penetration - then to non-vibrating dildos. After experiencing the benefits - my wife is very enthusiastic about using them.

2. We switch - I always use the dildos and other toys to give my wife from 1-3 orgasms before I go for a climax. This way, how long I last is of little consequence - and it's often the case that she has another orgasm while I'm having mine. There is a book written about this technique. "She Comes First" link. They use to sell the book on EF - but I can't find it now - this is an Amazon link.

Just as an example - my wife had Thanksgiving week off and we went wild. She had 16 orgasms in 5 days - compared to just 4 for me. I just consider it the payoff for women giving birth and dealing with a life time of periods.

3. I have found with age PM is no longer a problem. In fact reduced sensitivity now makes orgasms for me a hit-or-miss proposition. Enjoy what you have - and let her go first.

We incorporated dildos is some of our love making sessions. Normally its always foreplay with some type of clit stimulation. Then sometimes a dildo or vibe like the Jopen VR 7. After she has had enough it is then my turn. Always try to take care of her first. Once I'm done, I'm done. So always take care of her first. Dildos are like secret weapons; never cum and done and above average in size.

As long as she wouldn't mind one, I recommend them.
Oh, by the way, have you tried doing kegels to last longer ? If done seriously for few months will help one last longer. That's better than the thurst and stop to rest method. Or maybe a cock ring. Opps ! Did I really say that ?

thanks guys...all good info! appreciate the feedback.

I'm in a similar situation.
Thanks everyone for the feedback!

Totally not weird! My fiance usually starts me off with toys and I love it. Sometimes he even uses the more slender toys to add to his cock while he is inside of me and it drives me wild.

Now, here's a twist, I am usually completely out of stamina way before he is. Meaning, it can take him up to 3 hours before he climaxes and I've long since had several.

He usually has to finish himself off, which makes me feel bad haha, but in the end, we are still happy with the end results.

Definitely not weird. Pretty hot.

No not at all, sometimes my hubby finishes before me he will use our strapon and finish the job.

Weird? Not in the least, well at least from my perspective. Motorcycle Rider, have you tried adding a vibrator to your foreplay and with it still going adding yourself into the mix?

In other words (preheat the oven), start off with all your warm up moves. Then as things start to heat up introduce a vibrator into your love play. Finally once the oven is nice and hot handle business. You might even up with the elusive simultaneous orgasm.

Sorry for all the cooking lingo, I guess I'm just hungry.

I don't think it's weird in the least. As long as she gives the green light, go for it. It's hot as hell, for you and for her! I personally enjoy the experience when my husband breaks into my toy box.

I start off with a dildo and a viberator to get her off before I even get around to entering her. That way I know she gets satisfied

I use both dildo's and a vibrator on my wife first before I enter her. I have the problem of cumming too fast also so I please her with toys first then pound her pussy the way she likes it. I use a 7" strapon dildo along with a vib, to get her warmed up. I was thinking of going bigger.

Nothing that gets your wife off is weird. In fact just the opposite. The way I See it if she likes it and enjoys then its just loving her to do it.

I have a 7 inch dildo that I used in a very erotic way on my wife. We got into the 69 position with her on top and I started licking and sucking a dildo getting nice and slippery then slid it into her vagina while I was licking her labia lips and clitoris at the same time. She was getting quite turned on but I added a finger in her rear end then she really took off. She was getting stimulated three different ways at the same time and she had a blasting orgasm. We tried this several times and it always worked. I liked pulling that dildo out of her pussy and licking off all of her come afterwards. Her juices helped the dildo slide all the way down my throat without choking.