Is your spouse jealous of toys?

Contributor: Mx.Nekora Mx.Nekora
He likes the idea,but we don't use them as often together.
08/08/2012
Contributor: <3BF <3BF
I'm the one who goes to all the trouble of earning points and/or forking up the money to buy them for her because I love using toys on/with her, or even just hearing about her experiences when she uses one while I'm away. I'm a little obsessed with her pleasure and I hope most guys share similar sentiments.
08/08/2012
Contributor: Rory Rory
If I mention that a toy looks like fun he orders it. We have fun using them together and he encourages me to use them whenever!
08/10/2012
Contributor: The Kitty The Kitty
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Originally posted by beautifulbombshellVI
I think my husband is old fashioned in the bedroom because he won't allow me to use a vibrator to climax. He doesn't think he is good enough, but I can't get him to let me have both him and a toy. Ideas?
I am sorry he feels that way, my husband feels anything that helps me enjoy sex is a bonus.
08/30/2012
Contributor: mbrdr2012 mbrdr2012
My husband is the one who actually suggested we look a some toys. Do you think your husband would be more receptive if you asked him to use it on you? Tell him it turns you on knowing he is willing to do whatever gives you the biggest O, maybe he is viewing it as YOU pleasing yourself, not HIM pleasing you.
09/06/2012
Contributor: *Camoprincess* *Camoprincess*
I have ran into this problem before with my ex husband and a few guys before him. I was always told I should use "him" instead of toys, well I take a lot to climax if I am not already super turned on. My ex husband started getting iffy and what not when I started reviewing toys for companies on blogs! I tried to incorporate him as much as possible an tried letting him use a toy on me however he wasn't gentle enough, even after I showed him how to use vibes an dhow to thrust them on me. It got to the point he would get mad if I went to the bathroom with my toy in the shower, personally it is about my pleasure whether they like it or not. No I wasn't trying to replace anyone with a vibe cause well they aren't warm with a beating heart which in some cases I probably would have been better off just with my toys. Either way those relationships ended for one reason or another. I have had a partner who preferred me only use my toys while he was away working, but I got him 2 pocket pussies that he used an enjoyed on his own while he was away. We used clitoral vibes and he used a vibrator on me once but was very iffy about it. I have had partners for and against my toys!! Luckily I now have a man who loves teasing me and pleasing me with my toys. I never hide the fact that I use them and I make it clear that I will use them no matter what. In some of my cases yes my partner wasn't all that grand in bed but I wasn't telling them that but the main reason I had my toys were to spice things up! To use during foreplay, so my advice to you is explain to your husband he is good enough (if he is), show him things that turn you on and explore your bodies together. I tried this myself and it failed in most cases, I know a lot of men get turned on by using toys on their other halves. You must keep in mind though that your pleasure is just as important as his.
09/06/2012
Contributor: sweetiejo sweetiejo
My guy loves any and all toys, he finds them fun and sexy.
09/06/2012
Contributor: Sirena Sirena
Sorry to hear that. I have never had that problem. The only toys he uses on him self is a ring, but he is more than happy to break out a toy to use on me. His philosophy is that he wants to give me as many orgasms as possible before he has his. So usually I have a few from him using toys on me and then all I want is him alone. He rather I have an orgasm from a toy than none at all.

Communication is key. Always be honest and open to each others feelings. I know occasionally he will not allow me to climax as a punishment (BDSM) but it does not seem like that is what he is practicing with you.
09/06/2012
Contributor: (k)InkyIvy (k)InkyIvy
There should be an "other" option. My partner is ok with us having/using toys, but he does occasionally get jealous.
09/13/2012
Contributor: edenguy edenguy
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Originally posted by beautifulbombshellVI
I think my husband is old fashioned in the bedroom because he won't allow me to use a vibrator to climax. He doesn't think he is good enough, but I can't get him to let me have both him and a toy. Ideas?
Does your husband use anything additional to get him to climax? Can you introduce something? If he finds something he likes, you should get yours in fairness. In the end, win-win. Hopefully you can open him up.
09/13/2012
Contributor: SecretKinksters SecretKinksters
He is always bring out more toys than we need during sex...he loves toys!
09/13/2012
Contributor: bunny love bunny love
My boyfriend loves our toys. In fact, we share a lot of them (using proper cleaning practices, of course).
09/13/2012
Contributor: SavingMyself SavingMyself
My husband bought me most of the toys we have, so he is perfectly okay with me using them when he is around and when he isn't.
09/13/2012
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
It was my husband's idea first to use sex toys on me!

He bought my first 4 or 5 sex toys. He wants me to come, by any means necessary. Sometimes I have a hard time, due to some hormonal issues, and toys help. He realized this before I did.

He thinks MY orgasms are as (sometimes more) important than his, so he'll do whatever it takes.

You may want to talk to your man and explain that sex toys aren't to "replace" him, but to add to the fun.

I think partners who are scared of sex toys are often feeling insecure. Let him know that he can "man" the toys to give you pleasure and that there is nothing to feel insecure about. Nobody ever left their partner for a sex toy! It's an intimate object.

Let him read the forums and see how many of us have stable, happy long term relationships, in part, because we all use sex toys regularly in our sex.
09/20/2012
Contributor: BrittaniMaree BrittaniMaree
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Originally posted by beautifulbombshellVI
I think my husband is old fashioned in the bedroom because he won't allow me to use a vibrator to climax. He doesn't think he is good enough, but I can't get him to let me have both him and a toy. Ideas?
awww hun i'm sorry
09/20/2012
Contributor: BrittaniMaree BrittaniMaree
Wow this is a hard one. I do not have this problem at all with my hubby. you know what though they have a make your own penis kit and you and your husband can make it together and then maybe show him how much you are enjoying it during crafting,LOL.and when its done have him use it on you start off slow and maybe say his name a little while he is using it on you. also try to gradually let him see you with it and you can talk sexy and try to show him all the right areas you like. and make him comfortable with it. some men it takes baby steps. I hope it works for you hun
09/20/2012
Contributor: edenguy edenguy
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Originally posted by BrittaniMaree
Wow this is a hard one. I do not have this problem at all with my hubby. you know what though they have a make your own penis kit and you and your husband can make it together and then maybe show him how much you are enjoying it during ... more
A make your own penis kit - this is a brilliant idea. I cna't think of a better way to introduce a toy in this situation
09/22/2012
Contributor: AK Bunny AK Bunny
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Originally posted by beautifulbombshellVI
I think my husband is old fashioned in the bedroom because he won't allow me to use a vibrator to climax. He doesn't think he is good enough, but I can't get him to let me have both him and a toy. Ideas?
Psh! I think he likes them almost more than i do!
09/23/2012
Contributor: WhoopieDoo WhoopieDoo
Glad that my husband has no problem with toys
09/23/2012
Contributor: Lena Eden Lena Eden
He was never jealous of my toys. Moreover, he's also getting into toys now and I'm so happy because of that!!
03/14/2018
Contributor: Taz Demann Taz Demann
My wife is shy when it comes to toys but really enjoys them, i bought her the first dildos she ever had, we have tried different things but she prefers a large realistic dildo as her favorite toy and really becomes aroused whenever I use it on her. She loves the bigger size toy for that full feeling and I'm fine with that, I love seeing her climax on her big dildo, it's a visual turn on for me.
09/08/2018
Contributor: 2ruredhead69 2ruredhead69
That is incredibly sad..... My husband encourages me to use mine.
09/08/2018
Contributor: Bailed Bailed
No only am I not jealous, I buy them for her.
12/29/2019
Contributor: Mark1995 Mark1995
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Originally posted by beautifulbombshellVI
I think my husband is old fashioned in the bedroom because he won't allow me to use a vibrator to climax. He doesn't think he is good enough, but I can't get him to let me have both him and a toy. Ideas?
Wowwww, toys bring me lots of pleasure absolutely. There is no doubt that he is good at penetration, while he usually ignores the clit stimulation. I feels it's not enough, then I buy a womanizer. Oh, God! What a nice stuff. It's great.
01/16/2020
Contributor: frisky069 frisky069
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Originally posted by beautifulbombshellVI
I think my husband is old fashioned in the bedroom because he won't allow me to use a vibrator to climax. He doesn't think he is good enough, but I can't get him to let me have both him and a toy. Ideas?
My husband is semi okay with it. He's iffy on some toys! He prefers if I use mine only when he is with me. He has a lower sex drive so I don't always hold up my end of the deal and use them quite often without him
01/17/2020
Contributor: Mr.Pitt Mr.Pitt
We use toys with sex about 95% of the time.
01/19/2020
Contributor: Swing Curious Swing Curious
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Originally posted by beautifulbombshellVI
I think my husband is old fashioned in the bedroom because he won't allow me to use a vibrator to climax. He doesn't think he is good enough, but I can't get him to let me have both him and a toy. Ideas?
I can relate to him as a man but it didn't take long for us to think of toys as part of our team and not a threat to my performance. This swing-curious happy hubby is glad his Mrs. accepts toys as part of our love life. There's nothing wrong with letting the wife climax first, either using a toy, tongue or hubby's happy parts, then riding that wave to our own finish. I've communicated my OK to my wife if she ever wanted to experience another lover. She isn't interested in non-monogamy so I respectfully keep my fantasy as a fantasy and not a "goal" but am glad when she chooses to pull out one of her selection of toys for a solo session when she feels the urge and we both enjoy playing together with one or more toys and me enjoying each other. Give him lots of patience and encouragement.
02/09/2020