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Mrs. Tickle and Giggle
I actually agree with everything you guys are saying. I just know a few married people especially women who feel like if there husbands want to use condoms then he is hiding something. I feel like condoms are a wonderful contraceptive idea.
Mrs. T&G said; "
just know a few married people especially women who feel like if there husbands want to use condoms then he is hiding something"
That is a heavily paranoid way of looking at the situation! Jeez. I trust my partner completely, we use withdrawal as a form of birth control, and once in a while he'll ask if I have a condom, so that he can come inside. I don't get paranoid about it, I look in the sex toy drawer to see if we have any polyisproine condoms. (I'm allergic to latex.) It's NEVER occurred to me (and it never would) that he was cheating, as I'll sometimes ask the same thing, for the same reason. I'm not cheating. Also, some men may have reason to believe that they need added birth control (this seems to happen with they are under a lot of stress at work, or are in fear of losing their job or just found out they are not getting a bonus, and a child would be a burden at the time) and are certainly NOT cheating.
I think a woman who thinks like that ("he's asking to use a condom, he's cheating") has a MUCH less honest relationship with her husband than she is letting onto. Marriage is about trust. If you don't trust your husband, then I'd look other places in the relationship that whether he wants to use a condom or not.
I'm actually flabbergasted that ANYONE would read "cheating" into a request to use a form of birth control!
