Is there ever a situation that would make it OK for you and your husband to use a condom. Please give me an example of when you think it is OK, or why you feel like it is never OK.
Is it ok for married people to use condoms? Are there certain situations that would change your opinion?
05/28/2012
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Why would it not be ok? A lot of people use them as their form of birth control. Not to mention other reasons.
05/28/2012
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That is my thought. Perfectly fine, but I have met a lot of people who think its "taboo" so I thought I would ask a larger group of sexually active people.
Originally posted by
spunkmonkey
Why would it not be ok? A lot of people use them as their form of birth control. Not to mention other reasons.
05/28/2012
Yeah...if you don't want a kid, use a condom!
05/28/2012
I can't think of any reason why you wouldn't use a condom after being married. It's a form of birth control, why stop when you get married, unless you are trying to conceive.
I've never heard anyone (outside of radical anti-birth control people) who would have a problem with it.
If people are giving you a hard time, remember choosing when to get pregnant, or when not to get pregnant is YOUR business, not theirs.
It's a good form of birth control, easy to obtain, simple to use and available.
I've never heard anyone (outside of radical anti-birth control people) who would have a problem with it.
If people are giving you a hard time, remember choosing when to get pregnant, or when not to get pregnant is YOUR business, not theirs.
It's a good form of birth control, easy to obtain, simple to use and available.
05/28/2012
That's a funny question, why would it be not OK for a married couple to use condoms? We've been married for 19+ years and have been using condoms all along, except for the times when we wanted to have kids.
05/28/2012
Simple answer, yes.
05/28/2012
....why wouldn't it?
05/28/2012
i think it is ok
05/28/2012
Condoms are a good form of birth control. Unless both partners are ready to conceive you should use whatever form of bith control that the 2 of you agree on. Why does it matter what other people think? If you like them keep using them! If you don't like them explore other options. It is about what is right for you.
05/28/2012
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There are plenty of situations where its okay for a couple to use a condom. A flare of an STI, failing birth control, just after having a child and not wanting to go back on birth control right away. Just married and no birth control yet. SOOO MANY REASONS
Originally posted by
Mrs. Tickle and Giggle
Is there ever a situation that would make it OK for you and your husband to use a condom. Please give me an example of when you think it is OK, or why you feel like it is never OK.
05/28/2012
Why wouldn't you use a condom? Unless you're trying to have a kid I'd think you'd keep using them.
05/28/2012
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Exactly. It's not weird or taboo to me at all.
Originally posted by
spunkmonkey
Why would it not be ok? A lot of people use them as their form of birth control. Not to mention other reasons.
05/28/2012
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Ummm... I would think it'd be OK, but if you're talking about in a case where there's no need to worry about pregnancies and the married couple are absolutely monogamous, I don't see why they would WANT to use a condom--if both are free of any std's and such. I mean if they've never wanted to use them before and don't have the pregnancy, disease and stuff to worry with, I don't know many reasons a married couple would just choose to use condoms unless they're allergic to sperm or one has a yeast infection? I suppose if a couple have never used condoms before and suddenly one partner decides to, that could raise some suspicion and I might would have to wonder if my partner suddenly wanted to use a condom--since we're absolutely monogamous, free of disease and don't have pregnancy to worry with. I'd definitely wonder why he chose to wear one and I'd ask. I guess a reviewer might be reviewing a condom, but I don't choose to review condoms since it isn't something we ever use--I just leave those for people who truly do need/use condoms to review.
Originally posted by
Mrs. Tickle and Giggle
Is there ever a situation that would make it OK for you and your husband to use a condom. Please give me an example of when you think it is OK, or why you feel like it is never OK.
So I guess I don't feel that condom use is WRONG necessarily, but I can see it raising suspicion in some cases. I mean if one of the couple have betrayed their partner and not been monogamous, I'd HOPE they would tell their partner rather than choose to still have sex with them while keeping their secret, but using a condom to "protect" against whatever they may have picked up while straying. I suppose one person might suspect that their partner has strayed and decides to use a condom so they don't catch whatever the partner may have caught, but if you think you're partner has cheated, you'd probably not be wanting to have sex with them. Lol.
I would just ask if I were in that situation. Since we don't use them and do not have any need to, I would be a little bit worried if he strapped one on before having sex with me. I'd definitely have to stop right there and ask...'whoa! why a condom?' It may raise the question "has he/she been involved with someone else?" Or "Do they think I HAVE been unfaithful and that's why they're using protection?"
05/28/2012
sometimes people hate condoms but sometimes people like them. It totally depends on preference and birth control
05/28/2012
I think it is ok especially if you guy's don't want to have kids at this point.
05/28/2012
It isn't a big deal as it depends on the couple how they want to prevent pregnancy.
05/28/2012
If both partners agree to it, I see no valid reason not to. We've been using condoms because we don't want another kid, and hormonal birth control didn't agree with my system the last time I tried it. There's nothing wrong with that!
05/28/2012
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Of course it is alright, why wouldn't it be, if that's what the couple wants and agrees on... ^^
Originally posted by
Master DarkWolf
It isn't a big deal as it depends on the couple how they want to prevent pregnancy.
05/28/2012
I hate them and it annoys me that we have to use them but we're really not ready for a baby and I don't want artificial hormones in my body.
05/29/2012
i personally dont like condoms but if i miss a pill and my fiancee really wants sex ofcourse wed use a condom
05/29/2012
It is a form of birth control, some women can not take the pill.
05/29/2012
Married for 13 years, together for 23 and still use them. Never thought it was taboo, just a form of birth control that is easy to use and obtain.
05/29/2012
I never knew people found it taboo to use condoms in marriage. There are many reason married people would use condoms.
Birth Control keep in mind:
-some people reacts poorly to hormonal birth control, hence condoms work better for them
-some people have moral/ethical objection to hormonal birth control but not condoms.
-some have easier access to condom then they do other forms of birth control.
-Some find it easier to remember to put a condom on each time then remember to take a pill every day.
-Some have them as a backup in case their partner forgot to take the pill.
-Some people are very cautious about unplanned pregnancy and like having both a barrier and a hormonal form of birth control in place.
STD prevention keep in mind:
-Consensual non-monogamy (married doesn’t equal monogamy)
-People with known STD get married too, some chose to have sex and use condoms to minimize the risk of transmitting it to their partners.
Some people don’t like the feeling of semen inside them and would prefer easy clean up.
Using them on toys.
For anal due to concerns about the “mess”
And I could probably think of more but ya plenty of reason for married people to use condoms.
Birth Control keep in mind:
-some people reacts poorly to hormonal birth control, hence condoms work better for them
-some people have moral/ethical objection to hormonal birth control but not condoms.
-some have easier access to condom then they do other forms of birth control.
-Some find it easier to remember to put a condom on each time then remember to take a pill every day.
-Some have them as a backup in case their partner forgot to take the pill.
-Some people are very cautious about unplanned pregnancy and like having both a barrier and a hormonal form of birth control in place.
STD prevention keep in mind:
-Consensual non-monogamy (married doesn’t equal monogamy)
-People with known STD get married too, some chose to have sex and use condoms to minimize the risk of transmitting it to their partners.
Some people don’t like the feeling of semen inside them and would prefer easy clean up.
Using them on toys.
For anal due to concerns about the “mess”
And I could probably think of more but ya plenty of reason for married people to use condoms.
05/29/2012
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Oh Kendra, I share your perspective but hope it will not create any chaos for some couples out there!
Originally posted by
K101
Ummm... I would think it'd be OK, but if you're talking about in a case where there's no need to worry about pregnancies and the married couple are absolutely monogamous, I don't see why they would WANT to use a condom--if both are
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Ummm... I would think it'd be OK, but if you're talking about in a case where there's no need to worry about pregnancies and the married couple are absolutely monogamous, I don't see why they would WANT to use a condom--if both are free of any std's and such. I mean if they've never wanted to use them before and don't have the pregnancy, disease and stuff to worry with, I don't know many reasons a married couple would just choose to use condoms unless they're allergic to sperm or one has a yeast infection? I suppose if a couple have never used condoms before and suddenly one partner decides to, that could raise some suspicion and I might would have to wonder if my partner suddenly wanted to use a condom--since we're absolutely monogamous, free of disease and don't have pregnancy to worry with. I'd definitely wonder why he chose to wear one and I'd ask. I guess a reviewer might be reviewing a condom, but I don't choose to review condoms since it isn't something we ever use--I just leave those for people who truly do need/use condoms to review.
So I guess I don't feel that condom use is WRONG necessarily, but I can see it raising suspicion in some cases. I mean if one of the couple have betrayed their partner and not been monogamous, I'd HOPE they would tell their partner rather than choose to still have sex with them while keeping their secret, but using a condom to "protect" against whatever they may have picked up while straying. I suppose one person might suspect that their partner has strayed and decides to use a condom so they don't catch whatever the partner may have caught, but if you think you're partner has cheated, you'd probably not be wanting to have sex with them. Lol.
I would just ask if I were in that situation. Since we don't use them and do not have any need to, I would be a little bit worried if he strapped one on before having sex with me. I'd definitely have to stop right there and ask...'whoa! why a condom?' It may raise the question "has he/she been involved with someone else?" Or "Do they think I HAVE been unfaithful and that's why they're using protection?" less
So I guess I don't feel that condom use is WRONG necessarily, but I can see it raising suspicion in some cases. I mean if one of the couple have betrayed their partner and not been monogamous, I'd HOPE they would tell their partner rather than choose to still have sex with them while keeping their secret, but using a condom to "protect" against whatever they may have picked up while straying. I suppose one person might suspect that their partner has strayed and decides to use a condom so they don't catch whatever the partner may have caught, but if you think you're partner has cheated, you'd probably not be wanting to have sex with them. Lol.
I would just ask if I were in that situation. Since we don't use them and do not have any need to, I would be a little bit worried if he strapped one on before having sex with me. I'd definitely have to stop right there and ask...'whoa! why a condom?' It may raise the question "has he/she been involved with someone else?" Or "Do they think I HAVE been unfaithful and that's why they're using protection?" less
05/29/2012
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^this. I'm married and I don't like condoms and use another form of birth control. But if that was the only one out there, I absolutely would use them!
Originally posted by
spunkmonkey
Why would it not be ok? A lot of people use them as their form of birth control. Not to mention other reasons.
05/29/2012
As a form of birth control. When a woman has a yeast infection or something to that nature. If you are on birth control and taking an antibiotic.
05/29/2012
It makes sense to use it as a birth control or STD preventative
05/29/2012
I actually agree with everything you guys are saying. I just know a few married people especially women who feel like if there husbands want to use condoms then he is hiding something. I feel like condoms are a wonderful contraceptive idea.
05/29/2012
After the birth of our son, we knew we wanted more kids, but we still wanted to wait a year or two between. While we could've gone the route of pills or what not, we knew that sometimes the hormones take a while to get out of your system, and that wouldn't necessarily work for us. Plus, there are times where we wanted to try the "enhanced" condoms (textured, cooling, etc).
Unfortunately, it turns out my husband has developed an allergy to latex, so it really limits us in our options.
Unfortunately, it turns out my husband has developed an allergy to latex, so it really limits us in our options.
05/30/2012
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