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If Your Spouse Was Cheating, Would You Leave?

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Contributor: darkkitty darkkitty
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Originally posted by SexKittenXxX
Some people say yes, some say no ... some may even say they would do marriage counseling. What would YOU do if your spouse was cheating? Would you leave?
It depends on the entire situation!
03/17/2011
Contributor: Love&War Love&War
Simple Yes
03/21/2011
Contributor: SugarAndSpice SugarAndSpice
I would leave. For me and our relationship, it's a deal breaker
03/24/2011
Contributor: tickle me pink tickle me pink
My husband and I have discussed this and we both pretty much have a no tolerance policy on cheating.

But really... it can be hard to say what you would actually do unless you were in that situation. I'd probably still leave, but I'd need to think about it.
03/24/2011
Contributor: Choolz Choolz
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Originally posted by SexKittenXxX
Some people say yes, some say no ... some may even say they would do marriage counseling. What would YOU do if your spouse was cheating? Would you leave?
It's never ok. If you honestly love someone, you don't do it plain and simple. I'd leave immediately!
03/24/2011
Contributor: KrystalFayeO KrystalFayeO
I would kick his ass to the curb. My Mother took back my Father time and again for his cheating. I will never be that person. To me, once a cheater, always a cheater. If I let him get away with it once he will do it to me again. My son deserves to have two happy parents and if I'm always thinking about him cheating on me I wouldn't be happy
03/28/2011
Contributor: Kitt Katt Kitt Katt
My husband and I have a level of trust that is so very important to us that I can't even imagine something like this happening in our marriage. We were best friends long before we had a sexual relationship and we have always had excellent communication. If something like this happened, I don't think I could ever trust him again. It would probably be a "deal-breaker" for me.
03/28/2011
Contributor: sexyintexas sexyintexas
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Originally posted by SexKittenXxX
Some people say yes, some say no ... some may even say they would do marriage counseling. What would YOU do if your spouse was cheating? Would you leave?
Yes because I dont think that you can get that trust back.
03/30/2011
Contributor: jankit jankit
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Originally posted by Kayla
I don't think cheating is the be-all, end-all horrible thing for relationships. I would be hurt if the boyfriend cheated - but because he didn't trust me enough to communicate what the actual issue is. It depends on how long the extra ... more
This sans the emotional distraught. Both of us have thoroughly discussed faithfulness and satisfaction in our relationship, and bring it up often. To have either of us cheating on the other would, I think, be very distressing for us both. My inclination would be to work it out, but it would be very difficult.
04/03/2011
Contributor: Sebmissive Sebmissive
I'm not married yet, but I have thought about this question so many times. To me, cheating is a serious betrayal and I just wouldn't be able to stay with my partner. I would end the relationship immediately. I really hate to think that it could ever happen, but I sincerely doubt it will. We care way too much about each other to even consider cheating.
04/03/2011
Contributor: w-o-name w-o-name
I would definitely leave!
04/13/2011
Contributor: mrs.mckrakn mrs.mckrakn
I would try and work things out first. That would be the last resort
04/15/2011
Contributor: purplekidney purplekidney
He: It depends... do I get to join in?

She: It's not cheating if we agree on it. For me, it's not very cut and dried. In my idea head-world I can say it wouldn't happen so there's no need to worry, but I'm inclined to behave as if I'd leave his ass in a heartbeat. Realistically, there would be a shit-ton of counseling before we made a decision.

He: It depends on the scenario. I'd be more inclined to forgive a "mistake"/drunk incident. It's when there's a full relationship that our marriage would really seem over.

She: I'd be afraid that I would have trust issues even after a drunken mistake, and that would end a relationship just as well as the cheating, but generally yeah, that's how it'd work ideally.
04/15/2011
Contributor: LennaKieran LennaKieran
I'm surprised at how many people are saying they would just up and leave. Life, in my opinion, is never black and white, cut and dry. Context matters, and my reaction would depend completely on the what surrounded the situation.
04/15/2011
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by purplekidney
He: It depends... do I get to join in?



She: It's not cheating if we agree on it. For me, it's not very cut and dried. In my idea head-world I can say it wouldn't happen so there's no need to worry, but I'm inclined ... more
Sounds like a good online therapy session - kudos on your honesty.
04/16/2011
Contributor: K101 K101
F that I'd leave! I ain't staying with someone who cheats. It's either, I'm good enough or I'm not. If I'm not, fine, but never will I allow myself to be treated in that way and then stay. I'd only blame myself and I don't need that. It's either me and only me or no me at all. Simple, I don't do cheaters.
04/19/2011
Contributor: Sebmissive Sebmissive
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Originally posted by LennaKieran
I'm surprised at how many people are saying they would just up and leave. Life, in my opinion, is never black and white, cut and dry. Context matters, and my reaction would depend completely on the what surrounded the situation.
I agree that life is never black and white, but when it comes to my relationships I believe that things are black and white (or they should be). I express my feelings towards cheating very early on. And if they are going to cheat on me, then that means they don't really care about me if they are willing to hurt me.

If it was a drunken incident, I would still leave. From what I've heard, my man handles himself very well when he drinks. So if he's using that "I was so drunk, I didn't know what I was doing" line, I wouldn't buy it. No matter the context, it's still cheating and I just couldn't handle that.
04/19/2011
Contributor: gumbyD gumbyD
Quote:
Originally posted by SexKittenXxX
Some people say yes, some say no ... some may even say they would do marriage counseling. What would YOU do if your spouse was cheating? Would you leave?
I just wouldn't trust them anymore
04/21/2011
Contributor: DancerLove DancerLove
Yes, I most definitely would!!! It's different when your not married, but when you are, its called an affair, whether it be emotional or sexual, they are both traumatizing and no one deserves to go through that. I have had instences that I heard and saw by texting that my husband was cheating on me and I still don't really know all the details, but if I knew 100 % that he did, I would leave since he hasn't told me the truth.
04/26/2011
Contributor: hspence hspence
that is the one unforgivable thing. my last ex i was with cheated on me and we stayed together for a couple more years after that but i would lay there at night imagining him with her through those years and i will never put myself thru that again
04/27/2011
Contributor: froggiemoma froggiemoma
i would leave no second thought
05/06/2011
Contributor: Bonesdance Bonesdance
That's a tough one to say, and would largely depend on the context of the cheating. If it were a one-time thing, counseling would probably be my reaction of choice. If I found out my wife had been carrying on a long-term affair, I'd let the other guy have the bitch.
05/09/2011
Contributor: daniel and frances daniel and frances
Quote:
Originally posted by SexKittenXxX
Some people say yes, some say no ... some may even say they would do marriage counseling. What would YOU do if your spouse was cheating? Would you leave?
I cannot say for sure what I would do because the situation is reversed and my husband didn't do what I expected. I don't think you can know for sure til you are in the situation...
05/09/2011
Contributor: lolsos lolsos
YES.
05/09/2011
Contributor: sexygoddess sexygoddess
I dont think I'd leave. But.. Im not sure what I would do
05/12/2011
Contributor: Sex'и'Violence Sex'и'Violence
I wouldn't leave her if she were cheating, but she would leave me if I was.
05/31/2011
Contributor: tammyandy69 tammyandy69
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Originally posted by LicentiouslyYours
It's likely that I would end the relationship, but depends on the circumstances. Given my openness to the idea of an open relationship, cheating would constitute a breach of trust that would signify serious problems with the relationship itself.
I totally agree with you on this. It really deponds on the why of it. Could it be fixed, was it something that could have been prevented on my part, there are lots of reasons why people cheat on there partners. But like Laurel said it's a breach of trust not really the act.
06/22/2011
Contributor: Sinfully Sinfully
My first reaction would be too leave, but it would depend on the situation.
06/22/2011
Contributor: tammyandy69 tammyandy69
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Originally posted by Ladyt1003
I would say yes. I feel that IF they go behind your back then you can't trust them anymore.
Just a thought for you. There are lots of ways to lose trust in people. Maybe the non cheating partner was super critical or very opinionated about what ever. Trust is a 2 way street...maybe the cheater did not trust his/her partner enough to tell them what was going on.
06/22/2011
Contributor: boobookittyfuk boobookittyfuk
If my husband ever cheated on me he would get droped like a hot potato in a blink of the eye!
06/29/2011