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Sounds like progress - that's where the persistence comes in. I find that my resolve simply has to be more persistent than her inertia/reluctance.
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merc41
I bought a nice harness with a good sized strap on but she wouldn't even look at it. Very disappointing. She will finger my ass as well as use a relalistic viberating dildo but not a strap on. Maybe you are right and I just need to be a little
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I bought a nice harness with a good sized strap on but she wouldn't even look at it. Very disappointing. She will finger my ass as well as use a relalistic viberating dildo but not a strap on. Maybe you are right and I just need to be a little more demanding. I have definatly thought about it. Last weekend I was super horny and in the mood for some over the top sex and some good porn. We gave up porn watching years ago at her request. But I was in the mood and picked out some big titted MILF porn to watch. I didn't want to intimidate her with young hard bodied girls. She said let's forget the porn and put on music. I said NO I'm in the mood for porn and knock your socks off sex. I don't know if she ever watched but she sure could hear the dialog.And we had some good sex. She never mentioned the porn but she did say she had a great time!
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You're the best judge of what works - but I'll add this anecdote.
After 20+ years of failing at trying to interest my wife in anal sex. I made a connection with a female forum participant who was willing to coach me. We exchanged email addresses and even spoke on the phone a few times.
She helped me understand that:
1. What I wanted was completely normal
2. If done right my wife would learn to love anal sex as much as I do
3. A number of tips and tricks that only a woman would know about
With her help - I/we cracked the code in less than 8 weeks - after 20+ failed years. I was really stunned. Mind you it took another 2-3 months to get her to the level of item 2 (asking for anal sex), and a few months after that before we she achieved an anal orgasm.
What you learn here can be quite useful - if you filter the advice to meet your circumstance.
