For me personally, I think FWB are for single people just looking for a good time. I think it's just a recipe for disaster when committed couples try to stray outside of their current relationship to add a fling. It's not something I would condone in my marriage. That being said, each relationship is different. So, I don't pass judgment on those choosing to go this route. Does more sound merrier? Sometimes. It can come at a price though. less

My husband and I are both open to this and have both indulged.
Example: One of our best friends from high school is one of my fuck buddies right now. We have been for about the last year. He comes over quite often, shares the bed with us, and stays for a few nights usually. My husband is out picking him up tonight, as a matter of fact.
This is just one example because it is relevant to tonight and it tied in with this conversation.
The reason it works is because we are all open and completely honest with each other. less

My husband and I are both open to this and have both indulged.
Example: One of our best friends from high school is one of my fuck buddies right now. We have been for about the last year. He comes over quite often, shares the bed with us, and stays for a few nights usually. My husband is out picking him up tonight, as a matter of fact.
This is just one example because it is relevant to tonight and it tied in with this conversation.
The reason it works is because we are all open and completely honest with each other. less

While there are a few people or couples that can somehow isolate their emotions from purely physical sex, it would be dangerous to assume you can be intimate with another person and keep it purely physical. Somehow, when we add touch to the equation, wheather it is just a kiss, or more sexual overtures, the brain wants to attach emotional feelings to that event. Even flirting with another is fraught with peril as we mostly do that with people who we are attracted to, either physically or emotionally. So I would not recommend a FWB relationship as a couple, maybe as a single person, it might work, but beware, you can become emotionally attached. less

I have had to tell my wife that if things didn't improve in the bedroom that I would seek satisfaction elsewhere. I said that I loved her but things are so bad that I needed sexual satisfaction and was not interested in a divorce. She is a great gal in all respects other than sex. She takes our sex life for granted,is unimaginative and un willing to try new things. We have been married for 44 years and honestly the only thing we have ever argued about is sex. Believe me I have tried everything to get her interested in a happy ,fullfilling sex life. She always comes first when we have sex and I try to make sure she cums atleast twice before I do. When I told her that I was going to look elsewhere all that happened was the frequncey got better and I talk more openly about sex. She is very naive and clueless when it comes to keeping a relationship spiced up. I have to keep that in mind so I don't lose my temper and keep pushing the envelope. less

Goes to show you, she still loves you very much .
And from reading your other post about now engaging in pegging , the two of you should become closer. I hope the two of you both embrace the power switch. The more she puts you in your place the more power she will gain.

Lol, start now by doing more if not all the housework
When she sees that she may want to reward you. less

Thanks for the encouragement. Believe me Iv'e tried the housework angle It didn't work.And I had hoped that the pegging thing would empower her but it hasn't either. I'm a physically imposeing guy and I thought giving her control or dominance ( me submissive ) would interest her but it hasn't. Truth be told I would enjoy a dominant partner on occasion.Like I said she is oblivious in a kind and loveing way. It is getting harder and harder not to seek out sexual satisfaction elsewhere. less

I can certainly sympathize. For 25+ years I did all of the 'work'. So I bought some blindfolds, restraints, paddles, crops, etc. and just said - "this is your rodeo cowgirl" and refused to take any further action until she 'did some work'.

She's embraced the role - somewhat - because I've held my ground. That's pretty much how we start each session now. She has figured out that as the Dom she can 'command' me to 'service' her - I'm completely fine with that. It makes her voice her needs/wants.

Even she is surprised by the how this plays out. She admits to getting rather wet and aroused using the paddle and has made a cottage industry out of getting herself off while I'm tied blindfolded to the door. The sound effects and narrations are amazing.

I don't know what will work for you - but I found taking a stand and demanding active participation on her part was long over due. Maybe she'll find out some things about herself that she didn't think were possible.

Last thing - about pegging. My wife went through the motions - in a lifeless sort of way. I think hoping to discourage me. But I persisted and 'demanded' that she figure out how to have an orgasm while pegging me. With that challenge she started more vigorous thrusting - I also convinced her to let me attach a vibrating dildo for her. The combination proved successful - she's no longer reluctant or passive when pegging - it's a true win-win.

Best of luck - and stand your ground!! less