If you can say "oh my goodness it hurts" then you need to change the way you go about it. You know you like it, so find some ways to relax more before "taking the plunge".

I enjoy it, it makes me feel quite good for some reason. If I don't do it often, it feels a little weird and it's a little painful.

I was scared the first time I did it, and it did hurt, but I love it now.

Before I was with my husband I hated it. My ex used to force it, hurting me, but if you find the right one that will take his time to make it pleasurable for you, its the best. Better than vaginal sometimes.

Key is sometimes. Men and women, remember that anal stimulation is usually best if it's mixed in with other sex play, so you don't have a diet of only anal.

Granted this doesn't apply to all couples.

You should try a water enema/douche kit. This is going to be one of our next purchases. He loves it and I love doing it for him, but I am often not, erm, a fan of the "aftermath"

My husband loves it...I love how it feels once im relaxed, but sometimes it seems impossible. And sometimes it hurts...even though he is very patient and we go super slow. I love small toys though

CLP,
Thanks for the link. It has been really hard for my husband to believe me when I tell him I thoroughly enjoy him in my ass. For the majority of our marriage I was adamantly against anything near my ass and just recently I was able to break through that wall and allowed myself the pleasure of anal sex. This was a choice I made for myself. My husband and I read the article together and I believe now he understands me.

Think about what sort of hurt it is (BTW there should never be hurt). If it's an ache/bruse-y sort of hurt than you've been thrusting too hard, if it's a soreness then you haven't had full lube coverage.

Well I have never tried it, and honestly im not sure if my husband has tried it either. We have never talked about it. But I know we need to spice up our love life. I recently had children, so I have been thinking about it. I just dont know where to begin, or even how to bring it up.

Really, just being honest about what you want is the best way to approach it.

When we first started with anal play, My Man just said, "I love your ass so much. I'd love to fuck your ass. Can we think of a way to make it work?" Years ago, when I was younger, I was like, "No way." (although he did occasionally rim me, and although it kind of scared me, it was very exciting.) But, things changed as our sex life had a Renaissance in the past few years.

We talked about it a lot, and I read things from Nina Hartley and Tristan Taramino about how to perform safe and pleasurable anal sex. Seeing and feeling his reaction to seeing anal scenes in porn really made me want to try it, because I saw how excited he got. I had certainly fantasized about it, but was scared, because I thought it would hurt.

LOTS of preparation is necessary. We got a few toys and I HATED them then. Him training me, by just using a finger at first, very gently and very slowly and working up to taking more and eventually his entire penis, over a period of a few weeks or months worked best for us. I didn't like anal toys until after we had full on anal sex, but some people prefer to warm up with toys.

Just talk to him, maybe the next time you have the kids in bed early (or before they wake up for the day, that's how we have sex a LOT) put on a video with some anal sex in it, and maybe talk about how fun it looks.

Take it slowly. Use lube, every time for every penetration, even his fingers. If it hurts STOP, something is wrong. There is a difference between a stimulating stretching feeling and actual pain. There should be NO pain. And anything which goes into an ass, whether it be a finger or a toy or a penis, may NOT go into a vagina without thorough washing beforehand! And did I mention lube? A good THICK waterbased lube is my favorite. I like Sliquid Ride H20 Sliquid H20 Ride It's our favorite all around lube and what we use for anal most of the time. We also will use LELO Personal Moisturizer as our second choice. LELO Personal Moisturizer Lubricants Both are glycerin and paraben free.

But, you have to talk to him about it.