You are in a suppose to be monogamous marriage, and find out your spouse has been unfaithful. Know the kicker is they did not tell you, even after the father of the girl beat him up he still did not tell you. You find out when the prosecutor calls and is looking for him about pressing charges. Do you stay? Why or why not? less

I put other because for me, it's not the act of sex that bothers me. It's the lying and betrayal that hurts. I feel that as a grownup in a relationship, you have the responsibility to let your partner know about any issues before you cheat. I was cheated on and stayed. We used that as a wake up call, got help and now I can honestly say our relationship is much better and our communication has been the best it's ever been. Now that's not to say that when he goes out, I don't wonder, but I go deeper and have faith.
However, your case is much different because your spouse is facing criminal charges. Going through the justice system is going to be taxing enough without even dealing with infidelity and the way you found out. If you truly love someone and they love you, it will work out. Only you know in your heart what is right for you and your situation. I wish you only the best for your future. less