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Would you / Have you ever had sex with another man at the request of your husband/partner?

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Contributor: butterflygirlxo butterflygirlxo
Would you / Have you ever had sex with another man at the request of your husband/partner?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
Yes
Airen Wolf , LikeSunshineDust , YvetteJeannine , Lavender*Moon , REDzSmile , xxFinallyxxLoved , new southern girl , shelleybelle642 , SexyySarah , jujubee86 , Id Heaven , Naughty Student , StrawberryEve , ReadyAllTheTime , MyWifeExposed , guy4guyz420 , lovehurts , Canabal , Emma (Girl With Fire) , 19WolfMan51 , deletedacct , BadassFatass , Rainbow Boy , Clitical Jenne , Mandee , A Good Girl , Ghostrdr , Sparfitt08 , tinyblond , Alyxx , Meeg , eggiweg , toxie m , wetone123 , darrellmks , kelaaa33wish , NarcissisticLust , Ivy Wilde , CoffeeCup , Inwitari , CreamySweet , WhoopieDoo , Apirka , sweetnlow4u , SMichelle , Silverdrop , Bebela , Lano4ka , ViVix , souris , Alyona , PassionCpl , Chastity Darling , raffi , padmeamidala , lilgrump , Silverwinds , Nymaya , pixiedustVixen
59  (32%)
No
butterflygirlxo , ~LaUr3n~ , Apinkjellybean04 , Hannah Savage , Madeira , Jenniae09 , Persephone's Addiction , OhMy! , Lady Venus , chocoqueen , omgmegg , onehotmomma , sexysweetieshan , Viktor Vysheslav Malkin , Coralbell , Envy , LittleBoPeep , removedacnt , Sir , Passionate Pastor , Yoda , Persephone Nightmare , Blow Baby , lovingheartmommy , sarahbear , Sohotdinosaur , Selective Sensualist , jacki , Joie de Cherresse , Gunsmoke , mnc5051 , Dusk , Hallmar82 , darthkitt3n , SexyTabby , Pleasure Piratess , Lummox , C4ss , PussyGalore , sbon , rdytogo , ana123 , MrRainybowbow , freshbananas , tits only , Redboxbaby , Eliza , Beaners , VieuxCarre , pfoof , Xavier7 , indiglo , Mr.Skillfu , CS2012 , pinkcupcakes , KikiChrome , LavenderSkies , REDRUM , Kaltir , ninaspinkturtle , ❦Angel Of Music❦ , Shayna! , KrystalFayeO , nicky51679 , LennaKieran , liilii080 , Rossie , *HisMrs* , lick123 , zracer , MaryExy , Judas Iscars , AOutrajus , Iggins09 , Mistress Kitten , tickle me pink , jzzrzz , Dyma , angel142stx , ss143 , cujo467 , ichigostrawberry , Vegan Silk , ToyGurl , froggiemoma , sarki , Amelye , K101 , jeangel246 , potstickers , aimtoplease , AndroAngel , MrWishyWashy , Purplelion , switzerland , link82 , Jon S , wdanas , bayosgirl , Zombirella , Ilovelingerie , GS28 , DesAndShawnCoupleReviews , Modern^Spank^Anthem , Harpina is gone , Falsepast , romstomp , Azule , irishlove , time4me , BG529 , mirajah , Beautiful-Disaster , CountryPrincess , Adnerbmw , Mikemanz , SecretKinksters , surreptitious , captainsgirl , candreotta24@gmail.com , chicmichiw , Rokmai , rosythorn , ChubbyNerd , konicaguy , VeganChick (is Gone) , karenm
127  (68%)
Total votes: 186
Poll is closed
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Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
I'll give this a big FUCK no. I'd leave a guy if he requested that. I want a guy who wants me all to himself and would fight for me if that was threatened-not give me away...lol.
09/23/2010
Contributor: Hannah Savage Hannah Savage
Although he would never, ever request it, I still wouldn't do it. I couldn't sleep with someone "just because", I would get too attached.
09/23/2010
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
Quote:
Originally posted by butterflygirlxo
Would you / Have you ever had sex with another man at the request of your husband/partner?
Yes I have and I have enjoyed it very much. I fought him for years over the idea thinking that he didn't love me and wanted to pimp me out and stuff. It wasn't until he stopped with the high pressure and started TALKING to me about it that I learned that he wanted something much different than what I thought. Now mind you I prefer for him to be there and the only man who has ever had sex with me without Sigel being there is Arch. (There was only one other guy and that was way back before Sigel and I got married) I have enjoyed making this dream of his come true and it added such a deeper dimension to our relationship. I know it's not everyone's cup of tea, and I think that's ok. Some people like nude skydiving while I can't see any reason to jump out of a perfectly good plane. Different strokes, I guess.
09/23/2010
Contributor: LikeSunshineDust LikeSunshineDust
Ugh, the one time I need an "other" category and it's not there! I can't rule it out completely, because it would depend who the other person was. If it was someone we knew closely or a hot chick I totally would consider it.
09/23/2010
Contributor: Lavender*Moon Lavender*Moon
I have performed oral on another guy at the request of my husband and he has made it known that it turns him on thinking of me with another guy.
09/23/2010
Contributor: sweet sally sweet sally
I too have performed oral on another man at my mans request. He loves to watch, turns him on beyond belief. But, it would never go past that. Male penetration is a big no no in our book.
09/24/2010
Contributor: Persephone's Addiction Persephone's Addiction
Quote:
Originally posted by ~LaUr3n~
I'll give this a big FUCK no. I'd leave a guy if he requested that. I want a guy who wants me all to himself and would fight for me if that was threatened-not give me away...lol.
I'm with you on this one!
Just the idea of me with another man should send him into a jealous rage. lol I like a little caveman possessiveness.
09/24/2010
Contributor: Lady Venus Lady Venus
Quote:
Originally posted by ~LaUr3n~
I'll give this a big FUCK no. I'd leave a guy if he requested that. I want a guy who wants me all to himself and would fight for me if that was threatened-not give me away...lol.
What she said!
09/24/2010
Contributor: REDzSmile REDzSmile
My guy has a whole library of fantasies that have me with him and a number of different men and I am happy to oblige. He has no interest in us being with another woman or women and that's good since I don't share...
He's clear that me having sex with someone else will not have any effect on our love and I happen to completely agree with him. One is very different than another for us.
09/24/2010
Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
Quote:
Originally posted by Airen Wolf
Yes I have and I have enjoyed it very much. I fought him for years over the idea thinking that he didn't love me and wanted to pimp me out and stuff. It wasn't until he stopped with the high pressure and started TALKING to me about it that I ... more
So what was his different request? That sounds like a great dynamic for you guys.

LOL a perfectly good plane. Good analogy because to me it's why just off a perfectly good horse...so to speak lol.
09/24/2010
Contributor: xxFinallyxxLoved xxFinallyxxLoved
Quote:
Originally posted by butterflygirlxo
Would you / Have you ever had sex with another man at the request of your husband/partner?
I clicked yes even though I know he wouldn't ask me because I would be really interested in trying it.
09/24/2010
Contributor: Sammi Sammi
Have I? No. Would I? I don't know. If it was something we discussed and both wanted to do, then probably, but it's never really come up except during fantasy play.
09/24/2010
Contributor: onehotmomma onehotmomma
No. I couldn't even imagine that, and don't want to. I figure if he gets that bored with me he would even have to suggest that we would really need to re-evaluate our relationship.
09/25/2010
Contributor: buzzvibe buzzvibe
I didn't vote because I honestly don't know. It's never come up in conversation, and I doubt it ever will, so I've never even thought about it. I guess a lot of it would depend on who the other guy is.
09/25/2010
Contributor: Viktor Vysheslav Malkin Viktor Vysheslav Malkin
Absolutely not. I have said it before, I ain't a share-er.
09/25/2010
Contributor: Envy Envy
Never have but my bf has fantasies of 3somes and the like with me being the center of attention. I don't think it'd ever be done, the drama and such involved might be too much for us.
09/25/2010
Contributor: butterflygirlxo butterflygirlxo
Quote:
Originally posted by Airen Wolf
Yes I have and I have enjoyed it very much. I fought him for years over the idea thinking that he didn't love me and wanted to pimp me out and stuff. It wasn't until he stopped with the high pressure and started TALKING to me about it that I ... more
nude skydiving sounds like so much fun (:
09/25/2010
Contributor: butterflygirlxo butterflygirlxo
Quote:
Originally posted by Persephone's Addiction
I'm with you on this one!
Just the idea of me with another man should send him into a jealous rage. lol I like a little caveman possessiveness.
My boyfriend would never request it! He is definatly possessiveness and also wants me all to his self.. but just thought I would ask (:
09/25/2010
Contributor: butterflygirlxo butterflygirlxo
Quote:
Originally posted by Lavender*Moon
I have performed oral on another guy at the request of my husband and he has made it known that it turns him on thinking of me with another guy.
Was he watching?
09/25/2010
Contributor: butterflygirlxo butterflygirlxo
Quote:
Originally posted by LikeSunshineDust
Ugh, the one time I need an "other" category and it's not there! I can't rule it out completely, because it would depend who the other person was. If it was someone we knew closely or a hot chick I totally would consider it.
Dang it, I keep forgetting the other category lol, sorry guys! (: I promise to start putting them on the rest of my polls
09/25/2010
Contributor: SexyySarah SexyySarah
My husband has asked and I would do it, but only if he was there in the room, more of a threesome, but we are kinky! I know he wants me, but to know he thinks it's hot to watch someone else please me, it huge on his part especially when it comes to his sexual security. And mine for that matter.
09/26/2010
Contributor: Lavender*Moon Lavender*Moon
Quote:
Originally posted by butterflygirlxo
Was he watching?
Yeah, he was on a couch and the other guy was lounged out on the floor. After the guy left it made for a very enjoyable evening.
09/26/2010
Contributor: trios trios
It is more of a turnon for my wife the thought of being alone with another guy. For me it is more of a turn on to be there to participate and watch her reaction with him. Will/would we ever really do it? No, but it is a strong fantasy!
10/03/2010
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
Quote:
Originally posted by ~LaUr3n~
So what was his different request? That sounds like a great dynamic for you guys.

LOL a perfectly good plane. Good analogy because to me it's why just off a perfectly good horse...so to speak lol.
He wanted me to play with him. Not to take everything so seriously and to allow my body to feel all the incredible sensations it was capable of...and he wanted to watch me explore this. When he learned that I was willing, he was able to work around my issues with trust and find a way to show me what he felt I was missing. In reality I showed him the real truth about casual sex, it is never as good as when you know, care for, and trust your partner or partners. Through this process we have finally become truly partners and honestly committed to a life spent together.

I have never seen any reason to get on a horse that was clearly telling me to stay the fuck away...I prefer to ask politely and then have a nice discussion with said horse about what we would both like to do together today. I guess I am just a poly person through and through, eh? Well and a Parelli Natural Horse Person. Then again a real rodeo horse is trained to be extremely careful with the rider and honesly seems to view the whole experience as a game. A successful rodeo horse is a well trained athelete not an abused frightened critter.
10/03/2010
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
Quote:
Originally posted by butterflygirlxo
nude skydiving sounds like so much fun (:
So do threesomes to most people...still I have to say that nude skydiving has some participants who probably shouldn't be there, and there are MANY people who should never risk their relationships with threesomes. Still for us it was a good thing, for others it might not be such a good thing. I've been monogamous and done a bit of swinging all in all I don't regret any part of it except maybe the guilt and angst of not being able to admit that I liked sex, and I liked sex with a variety of people. I'm not a bad person because I like sex, and I'm not a bad mate because I like watching my partner enjoy himself...I was a bad person and a bad mate when I denied my interest and attacked my mate for doing what I wanted to be doing as well. If that makes sense.
10/03/2010
Contributor: trios trios
Quote:
Originally posted by Airen Wolf
So do threesomes to most people...still I have to say that nude skydiving has some participants who probably shouldn't be there, and there are MANY people who should never risk their relationships with threesomes. Still for us it was a good ... more
you're so cool, Airen Wolf!!!
10/04/2010
Contributor: trios trios
Quote:
Originally posted by SexyySarah
My husband has asked and I would do it, but only if he was there in the room, more of a threesome, but we are kinky! I know he wants me, but to know he thinks it's hot to watch someone else please me, it huge on his part especially when it comes ... more
I am the same way as your husband: It would be awesome to get another guy in our bed!
But, alas, (in a way) we have taken another path. It's a good thing my wife is very religious and keeps me grounded- otherwise we would be wild (because of me)!
10/04/2010
Contributor: Naughty Student Naughty Student
I would in my fantasies, I don't think it is feasable in real life...
10/06/2010
Contributor: StrawberryEve StrawberryEve
As long as we were both comfortable with the other person, I'm up for almost anything.
10/16/2010