I brought up the idea to my wife and it did boil down to that. It was not going to be any friend, it was someone that we knew was open minded and we had tried a foursome once (only to just be us with our regular partners in the same bed). He was with a very strictly raised girl who loved sex but he was her first and she kept trying things but for her she later tried a friend of his without him knowing. I felt bad about that (and they broke up) and the last thing we had done together was go to my bachelor party (we all brought dates and enjoyed watching the dancers talk with them-my date being my now wife). Anyway, I bought my fiance a stripping outfit even though they were not talked into stripping (darn). My wife is very big on top and I loved showing her off. She teased some of my friends when we got back from the club (I probably requested it-alcohol involved). Sorry to keep running on, but after that night my friend who had the break up came over with some beer and we were talking and I just got super excited about the idea of having her put on the stripper outfit again and showing her off to John. We started to make out and I noticed John was kind of interested in watching so I told my wife to give him a blow job and then it just became an all night/all next day all kinds of sex thing and we repeated it once at his place too. If it were a stranger or "weird neighbor" I dunno. But because it was someone I worked with and got along with, entered into experimental ideas with first. It worked and she said there's something about having a dick in your mouth when you are getting fucked that makes you want to suck it even more. If there is a down side, it is seeing your coworker afterword and for me it makes me want to always pretend there is more than just us which she does too. But I would not meet a random person, but then again I wouldn't know how that would be really.

Airen, I love what you said:

"I'm not a bad person because I like sex, and I'm not a bad mate because I like watching my partner enjoy himself...I was a bad person and a bad mate when I denied my interest and attacked my mate for doing what I wanted to be doing as well. If that makes sense."

Regardless of the dynamic differences in our relationships, this phrase alone is very universal.

As for the poll question: I'd like to think my answer would be No! My husband has never asked that of me and I don't think he ever will. I hate to give a definitive Yes or No to questions like this because years ago if you had told me we'd be experimenting with some of the things we are now, I'd have said you were crazy! That said, I am very selfish (and I think my husband is too) when it comes to our sex life and anything that might interrupt it.

Fuck no. That's sick.

I'm leaning towards no.

i doubt i would...i would be to afriad it would change the relationship

If my husband wanted to "watch" or just see me having sex with another man, I would definitely do it. We're committed enough to be able to handle that. It would probably be more exciting too.