Poor hygiene and lack of caring for oneself is something I cannot ignore and let go to the wayside. Also, compulsive cheating since my former fiance decided to cheat on me with over 30 different women.

Now, as far as everything else listed...those things are things that can be worked through. If you love someone, and care for them, you can play a part in helping to get past the many issues that were listed above. Addiction is hard to deal with, especially if a person has had an addiction for a long time, but it can be overcome.

A lot of people live in a state of poverty these days because of the economy. Personally, the person I'm with lives in a state of abject poverty, but he lives within his means and can take care of me. So, poverty doesn't really bother me. I'm a poor college student on the verge of losing her job. We're both understanding of each other's situations.

Why should a job matter in being with someone? Ever seen Dirty Jobs with Mike Rowe? I'm sure his lady doesn't mind him doing disgusting jobs since he's bringing home a paycheck. Someone's go to do those jobs.

Why should disability matter? So what if someone's in a wheelchair and cannot do for his/herself. Would you stop loving your partner or caring for them if something happened to disable them during the course of your relationship?

I don't know. I think that anything can be "ignored" seemingly for the sake of love, care, and compassion. That's my .02 less

I wanted to ask those who included STDs as a deal breaker. We need to remember that not ALL STDs are incurable, nor are all life changing.

Syphilis, gonorrhea, chlamydia, trichamonis and many others are all curable. Things like herpes are really not a huge health risk for those with normal immune systems. It's also a manageable illness. And also herpes tends to "burn out" as people get older, meaning they get fewer and fewer outbreaks. Some people have had ONE herpes outbreak and not an other one.

Those of you who listed STDs; is a CURED STD, but one in someone's history still a "deal breaker?" less

I wanted to ask those who included STDs as a deal breaker. We need to remember that not ALL STDs are incurable, nor are all life changing.

Syphilis, gonorrhea, chlamydia, trichamonis and many others are all curable. Things like herpes are really not a huge health risk for those with normal immune systems. It's also a manageable illness. And also herpes tends to "burn out" as people get older, meaning they get fewer and fewer outbreaks. Some people have had ONE herpes outbreak and not an other one.

Those of you who listed STDs; is a CURED STD, but one in someone's history still a "deal breaker?" less

Whether you're currently open to new sex partners (or significant others) or merely just open to fictional fantasies, what feature of him/her would be undo any possibility of choosing that particular person?

(The background of the question is my thinking about what it is I would want in a new partner, whenever that time comes. I wonder if I'm too picky or just demanding enough to not be disappointed again. And what is the end-all turn-off for you? Feel free to elaborate! Especially if the one you used to have has changed or if it was the cause of the end of your last relationship.) less

Whether you're currently open to new sex partners (or significant others) or merely just open to fictional fantasies, what feature of him/her would be undo any possibility of choosing that particular person?

(The background of the question is my thinking about what it is I would want in a new partner, whenever that time comes. I wonder if I'm too picky or just demanding enough to not be disappointed again. And what is the end-all turn-off for you? Feel free to elaborate! Especially if the one you used to have has changed or if it was the cause of the end of your last relationship.) less

Whether you're currently open to new sex partners (or significant others) or merely just open to fictional fantasies, what feature of him/her would be undo any possibility of choosing that particular person?

(The background of the question is my thinking about what it is I would want in a new partner, whenever that time comes. I wonder if I'm too picky or just demanding enough to not be disappointed again. And what is the end-all turn-off for you? Feel free to elaborate! Especially if the one you used to have has changed or if it was the cause of the end of your last relationship.) less