Have you ever felt ashamed or embarrassed of your fantasy?

Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Curious poll!
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
I have felt ashamed of a fantasy
63
I have felt embarrassed of a fantasy
115
I have have never felt embarrassed or ashamed of a fantasy
35
Total votes: 213 (166 voters)
Poll is closed
10/17/2011
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Contributor: Seventeen Seventeen
I'm quite convinced that anything I think up is nothing to be ashamed of. Though sometimes I wonder what made me think such, I usually just enjoy it.

Fantasies are just that! Fantasies! - and in my opinion, very good for you :3.

Fantasizing is important I think.
10/17/2011
Contributor: jg19 jg19
When my wife and i first tried to milk my prostate. I Shivered the whole time i was just so nervous to introduce her to that side of me. Its not a fantasy any more i guess but at the time i would think about her doing it.
10/17/2011
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
I chose other because while I've never been ashamed of a fantasy I have, I have been ashamed that I allowed society's views to interfere with how I want to show my husband that I'm into him and care for him and his sexual well-being. I grew up in a very conservative lifestyle, so it was a little difficult to admit exactly what I wanted. I thought I would be made to feel terrible about myself or somehow the Sex Police would knock on my door.

I'm over it now. Thank Gods for that.
10/17/2011
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
I'm not ashamed of anything I can think of. Stormy, I was brought up in a home where we didn't talk about sex at all so everything I've learned has come from friends or experience by trial/error.
10/17/2011
Contributor: SilverIsis SilverIsis
I have never been embarrassed or ashamed by my fantasies. I have been wierded out a few times by what has flashed through my mind while I have been fantasizing though. The only thing that gets me is that if I fantasize about someone I know, I don't feel like I have the body and/or the self confidence to go up to that person and at least attempt to make it a reality.
10/17/2011
Contributor: TitsMcScandal TitsMcScandal
A lot of my fantasies are taboo, and with that definitely comes the bouts of feeling ashamed. It has definitely changed my sex life. I realized that once you share those with a partner it deepens my bond with them. It lets them into a part of my life that I don't let many into.
10/18/2011
Contributor: Yoda Yoda
Certainly, I think that most people do for one reason or another.
10/18/2011
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by unfulfilled
I'm not ashamed of anything I can think of. Stormy, I was brought up in a home where we didn't talk about sex at all so everything I've learned has come from friends or experience by trial/error.
Yeah, because everything was so hush-hush as soon as I got ahold of the internet at the ripe old age of 14, I busted that shit wide open and found everything I could possibly think of or that I had seen people mention. No one except for my spouse has ever told me "it's ok that you like that". And that's cool, I don't need someone to pat me on the back. It was just struggling with the "good girl" nature versus the "perverted real me" that made me think twice a couple of times. Now? My attitude is basically "fuck 'em if they can't take a joke". It's my life. My bedroom. It's all consentual and no one is underage...so stuff it. LOLOL Took me awhile though. I think until I actually hit 30, I still felt like a little girl whose mommy would pop out of the closet and shame me into oblivion.
10/18/2011
Contributor: Vanille Vanille
Nope!
10/18/2011
Contributor: married with children married with children
not at all, they have all had my wife in them.
10/19/2011
Contributor: The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
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Originally posted by married with children
not at all, they have all had my wife in them.
Im with married with children, If I had seen that reply I would have voted differently.
10/19/2011
Contributor: Nothere Nothere
*wince* Yes. 13. Spanish teacher. Confusion and shame.
10/19/2011
Contributor: The Curious Couple The Curious Couple
I have felt ashamed and embarrassed of a fantasy before, but my fiancee is so understanding that I have nothing to worry about!
10/19/2011
Contributor: Love Perpetua Love Perpetua
Yes, I used to feel really ashamed about most of my fantasies, and then I realized they are completely harmless and nothing to be embarrassed about. Everyone fantasizes, it's a healthy part of sexuality.
10/20/2011
Contributor: Mr Dj Mr Dj
Quote:
Originally posted by Love Perpetua
Yes, I used to feel really ashamed about most of my fantasies, and then I realized they are completely harmless and nothing to be embarrassed about. Everyone fantasizes, it's a healthy part of sexuality.
agreed.
10/20/2011
Contributor: ThoughtsAblaze ThoughtsAblaze
I have felt embarrassed by all of my sexual fantasies. First, I was raised without anyone to talk about sex, and to this day, I have just one friend (married) and my boyfriend to talk to about fantasies. Second, my lack of sexual experience sometimes has me wondering if my fantasies might just be absurd. I have, however, started sharing just a few with my boyfriend and finding that they all turn him on, too. I'm starting to feel less embarrassed about them as I share more.
10/20/2011
Contributor: JRabbits JRabbits
When I was a certain age I was always embarasses / ashamed of my sexual fantasies. But after a certain age I realized it was only natural.
10/20/2011
Contributor: vanillaSpice vanillaSpice
Sadly, yes, although I feel better about them than I used to.
10/22/2011
Contributor: poetprincess poetprincess
Quote:
Originally posted by LavenderSkies
Curious poll!
Its just a fantasy it is not real, not that I would not love to act out a few of them. but hey they are what we dream of..
10/22/2011
Contributor: eroticmutt eroticmutt
I haven't had any I have been ashamed of, but some would be embarassing if other people knew of them.
10/22/2011
Contributor: jenn g jenn g
i do for sure
10/25/2011
Contributor: Sinfully Sinfully
Yes to both.
10/26/2011
Contributor: MrWishyWashy MrWishyWashy
Nope! To each his own.
12/02/2011
Contributor: SexyTabby SexyTabby
I think I have to say yes to both but the only way that would really happen would be if I shared them. I can think to myself wtf am I going on about but it's mine and no one else needs to know about it. I guess secrets may not be healthy but the fantasies are mine and I intend to remain selfish about some of them. I share ones with hubby that I want to live out or ones that I know won't have him thinking I'm a freak but others are just mine.
12/02/2011
Contributor: Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
Yes I have been embarrassed about my fantasies before. Sometimes they are extremely weird, such as turning into 3 different creatures in the same fantasy, and afterwards I am wondering to myself, what was I thinking???
12/08/2011
Contributor: Tangerine Tangerine
Depends on who I speak to about them. I only have oone friend that I will tell ANYTHING too
12/08/2011
Contributor: Anjulie Anjulie
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Originally posted by Vanille
Nope!
No here also
12/08/2011
Contributor: SexyStuff SexyStuff
I have because of my conservative religious background
01/06/2012
Contributor: PeachieClean PeachieClean
My first sexual partner asked what I fantasized about and then left horrified. I didn't think wanting him to watch me fuck another chick was a bad thing, but I felt really bad at that point.
01/07/2012