I've shot down my partner sadly. Mostly because I'm not a dominant person so what she wants I can't really do. And I could never hurt someone- but she is looking for a dominant who will do these things for her- so it's okay.
Nothing had been outright shot down for me most because we're verry similar in the things we want from the other person

I have had a few that my wife was just not interested in. That is fine my mind is active and I just come up with some others. It's all good.

hot wax has been shot down

I have learned to approach things slowly and make him think that it is his idea! LOL, actually we have been discussing a lot more since I have become involved with Eden!