No, I'm happy with the way Ow is. Perfect for me.

Eh, sometimes. I mean I love her either way but I wish she would let "her hair down" more often. You know let the bad girl out to play. She's a fun one!

I thought my wife was "vanilla" until I started bringing up ideas. I realized that she has a kinky side to her.

I wished mine would open up a little more, but its who she is and I still love her not matter what.

I'm pragmatic and realistic. I have read enough, have been exposed to enough, and have had sex talks with enough women to infer that in general, women are more kinky than men. Consistent with posts of many women in this thread, my fiancee has told me that many of her girlfriends complain of bland sex. In contrast, my fiancee purses her kinky sexuality.

There could be biological and social basis for my inference. Men, in comparison to women, are easy, especially after they hit 30. Men are easy to make cum, and once they've cum, they become sleepy (biology). Socially, women are expected to show restraint and refrain from talking about sex. When women hit their sexual primes, which can last for decades, they can have sex for hours many times a day, every day. Female orgasm, besides being intensely euphoric, provides women with bursts of energy, which is probably caused by procreation. Orgasm causes men to feel sleepy, yet orgasms give women bursts of energy. From my experience, orgasms cause women to become more horny.

Women seem to have far more sexual fantasies than men. In fact, other than FMF sex, I do not know of other men's sexual fantasies. My fiancee has at least a half-dozen sexual fantasies, assuredly more. She knows that she can tell me about her fantasies in graphic detail, and I'll never judge her.

Women have more erogenous zones than men. Years ago I read a treatise authored by a female physician who was exploring women's multiple men sexual fantasies. Her thesis was that when many of women's erogenous zones are simultaneously stimulated, it causes sensory overload in their brains (Their brains cannon simultaneously process stimulation from many of their erogenous zones.), and when they hit orgasm, their brains release an overabundance of euphoria-causing chemicals causing women to feel unparalleled euphoria. Hence, many women, after experiencing the most incredible euphoria they've ever experienced, find themselves pursuing multiple men sex.

My fiancee told me very early in our dating relationship that she loves kinky sex. I asked her to define kinky sex. She tried but couldn't. I have no clue of what would constitute kinky sex. But I do believe that most women have desire for kinky sex. Their biggest obstacle to experiencing mystical, euphoric sex is their husbands/boyfriends. Once men's wads are shot, they're good for naps.

Based upon my experiences, what I've read, and what women have told me, most women want kinky sex to include experiencing many of their sexual fantasies. Probability would tend to indicate that a woman to whom a man is married or a girl he's dating has repressed sexual desires. Women are every bit as if not more sexual than men. As is true with many of my fiancee's girlfriends, they are either unsure of how to broach the topic of their repressed sexual desires with their husbands/boyfriends, or they're afraid to because of the possibly of negative reactions.

My advice is open, honest sexual communication without judgment. I'd never ridicule a woman for her sexual desires/fantasies. I firmly believe that is men's responsibilities to learn the extents of their wives/girlfriends sexuality. From my experience, if a woman trusts a man and knows he will not judge her, she'll become honest and candid about her sexual desires and fantasies.

My fiancee and I are connected on many strata. However, our open and honest sexual communication without judgment might be our most intense connection. We established open and honest sexual communication very early in our dating relationship. She has told me that I know more about her sexual desires, fantasies, and experiences than anyone she had ever known including her ex-husband. She knows that I will never judge her. She is an extremely sexually liberated women who knows of mystical, euphoric sex. She knows that she can always tell me anything that's on her mind, and that includes sex. She is absolutely adorable when she looks at me after a stressful day and says, "I just want to go to your house and fuck all night."

I've found it wise and most enlightening to listen to how women say what they say. Within their spoken words might be, "Let's try something kinky tonight." Actions speak louder than words. I'll watch how they do what they do, Women might convey an image of modesty. I can't remember how many women have told me that they prefer to be naked. A girl I dated in college was sexually liberated for her age. She took me to a pool party. On the way, she told me it would wind up being a skinny dipping party. Most people were naked when we arrived. When I returned from getting us a couple beers, my girlfriend was completely naked. That was one fun party. A very conservative appearing businesswoman I know told me years ago that she preferred going to nude beaches. My ex-wife loved to be naked, and she was always skinny dipping in our pool. My fiancee can go all day at my house without ever wearing a stitch of clothing.

Don't let women's appearances and public personas fool you. Most women have very wild and kinky sides. It is men's responsibility to make them feel comfortable to allow their wild and kinky sides to surface. When they do surface, I've found in beneficial to make women feel completely comfortable with their sexuality.

That's all I got to say 'bout that ;-)

I just wish my wife was as half as kinky as I am; that’d be just fine . Spank, pinch, poke, slap, choke, peg me...I’m game! She’s got a kink side; I’ve seen sparks of it from time to time, but it’s blocked by some resistance or something. I’ll keep trying; introducing toys and whatever; until she lets go and opens up to what she’s been missing. It’s not been easy !