Do you ever wish your partner was kinkier?

Contributor: pfp pfp
Lately I've been wishing my boyfriend was a little less vanilla, you know what I mean? Does anyone else ever feel this way? Is there a way to coax out their inner kinks?
08/29/2012
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Contributor: spunkmonkey spunkmonkey
Have not really thought about it before. I guess if I wanted more from her, we would need to sit down and talk about it.
08/29/2012
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Yes - my wife is way to vanilla - but after 23 years, I guess I've come to peace with the fact that it is what it is.
08/30/2012
Contributor: solitudinarian solitudinarian
Not really. He's fairly kinky already.
08/30/2012
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
Yeah. "Kinky" for him is spanking me. And he won't even do it hard. LOL
08/30/2012
Contributor: Khanner Khanner
I don't think my boyfriend will ever be a masochist but I still love him anyway.
08/30/2012
Contributor: epiphanyjayne epiphanyjayne
yes and no, I love what we got right now, sometimes I wonder if he change things up if that would be better, but maybe not. I don't know
08/30/2012
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
I think I'm actually VERY fortunate. My man is willing to try anything I ask of him, at least once, even if it does nothing for him. He's one of the good ones.
08/30/2012
Contributor: Taylor Taylor
he's kinkier than I am anyway. I might be a little scared if he was even more kinky
08/30/2012
Contributor: SMichelle SMichelle
No, my partner is extremely kinky, and I love it.
08/31/2012
Contributor: ChuChii ChuChii
It kind of depends for me, my partner is kinky when he wants to be, but when he is kinky he takes it over bored, but I must admit I love it, I think at times I'm the vanilla one. lol but when I get into my kinky mood he looks at me like I'm crazy.
08/31/2012
Contributor: eeep eeep
I've had this problem with boyfriends in the past, sometimes you can get them to open up to the idea of new things, and sometimes you can't. I tend to be pretty open with guys that I have a few kinks before I start dating them (though i put it out there using my sense of humor so it isn't awkward). This way they know what they are getting into, and if they aren't even up to trying new things I know not to bother.
08/31/2012
Contributor: married with children married with children
yes, more kink would be fun.
09/01/2012
Contributor: anonkitty anonkitty
Yup. But I seem to attract vanillas.
09/03/2012
Contributor: Ganconagh Ganconagh
I am lucky, my girl is up for most anything
09/03/2012
Contributor: KrissyNovacaine KrissyNovacaine
Pretty happy with what I have!
09/03/2012
Contributor: Istanbull Istanbull
I'll never have anything "kinky" so long as I remain with my wife. When we were having sex she refused to do anything. She would piss and moan if I wanted sex doggy style. One time I talked her into reverse cowgirl and that just ended in disaster. As for anal/oral sex or handjobs, she doesn't do them either.
09/03/2012
Contributor: mlmac mlmac
I am by far the kinky one in our relationship and she is more on the vanilla side of things. It would be awesome if she would open up a little, but either way , I'm still happy with what I got.
09/03/2012
Contributor: Trysexual Trysexual
Yes
09/03/2012
Contributor: mbrdr2012 mbrdr2012
Until recently I thought my husband was very vanilla, ummm not so much! We had a discussion (which is how I found EF) about things we thought we might want to try and he is not nearly as vanilla as I thought he was and I am not nearly as vanilla as I thought I was either!
09/07/2012
Contributor: Gr8pumpkin Gr8pumpkin
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Originally posted by mbrdr2012
Until recently I thought my husband was very vanilla, ummm not so much! We had a discussion (which is how I found EF) about things we thought we might want to try and he is not nearly as vanilla as I thought he was and I am not nearly as vanilla as ... more
Yup.
06/24/2013
Contributor: mailroomorder mailroomorder
Quote:
Originally posted by pfp
Lately I've been wishing my boyfriend was a little less vanilla, you know what I mean? Does anyone else ever feel this way? Is there a way to coax out their inner kinks?
Yeah. There are definitely times in which I've wished my partner shared some of my kinks.
06/24/2013
Contributor: Tangerine Tangerine
Quote:
Originally posted by pfp
Lately I've been wishing my boyfriend was a little less vanilla, you know what I mean? Does anyone else ever feel this way? Is there a way to coax out their inner kinks?
I have to say I am VERY happy with the sex life my girlfriend and I have. We just discuss what "gross things" are off the table and everything else is fair game. So no vanilla over here. Discussion and being open to try new things is the best because you dont really know what you will like and how great it can be until you have tried it. It can be different with men though because of their "complex" but I say
"would you rather be hard-headed / possibly leaving your woman to think of others or just man up and learn how to please he hell out of her and keep her begging for more"
07/05/2013
Contributor: SaucyxGirl SaucyxGirl
My partner is strictly vanilla while I am a total kinkster. So far we have made this work, although I wont lie we have had quite a few sexual slumps during our relationship. I knew he was vanilla getting into this relationship and had to very much weigh the pros and cons before hand. Yes there are times that I wish he was kinky just as I am sure that he at times wishes that I were vanilla.
03/06/2014
Contributor: ud328 ud328
I'd say I'm a little kinkier than she is but not so much so that we're boring. It's been a long slow 'process' of bringing out her kinky side and she seems to be enjoying the new things we try no matter how small. It's been a lot of fun bringing her along actually.
03/19/2014
Contributor: PadoruLover PadoruLover
I can't say I do since he is inducting me into a more kinky lifestyle and I love it!
03/20/2014
Contributor: Vnessa Vnessa
There are times, yes. I'm definitely the kinkier spouse and sometimes I wish he would break out a thunderous boom of kink on me. But, that hardly happens. So, i've grown into my big girl panties, learned to grab what I want (by the balls) and just take it! He catches on very quickly to the game now. I ask him if he wants a new toy to play with for the night, let him choose, and then he gets to work
06/05/2015
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
I've definitely been the kinky one in nearly all of the partnerships I've been in.
06/06/2015
Contributor: Inquisitor Inquisitor
I honestly can't say. I can tell you guys that I'm the one who is definitely more vocal about sharing my ideas. In the past I've asked the partner questions usually while we are enjoying an adult move to prime a certain response.

Other times I'll just get a more tame surprise. It would be something in the vein but not as far as I would have taken it. Either way, I'm good!
06/06/2015
Contributor: gagehale gagehale
yes i wish my wife was a bit more kinkier. its not a big deal but you do think about it every now and then.
08/07/2015